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Cultivating children's self-control can be carried out in the following ways:

1. Continuously improve children's self-awareness.

Only by correctly recognizing and evaluating oneself can one increase the level of motivation for self-control. For example, when a child realizes that bullying a child is a bad behavior, he will reduce similar behavior. When he realizes that helping others is a noble act, he will be more willing to help his peers.

2. Develop self-control in games.

Fun games themselves have a certain degree of rules, such as role-playing games, that is, we say "playing house", by playing a variety of social roles, assuming various social responsibilities, learning a variety of social norms, codes of conduct, operating a variety of toys, and gradually transforming the rules of behavior obtained in fun games into subject consciousness.

3. Give children autonomy and initiative.

Parents often underestimate their children's abilities and take the alternative. Over time, children become accustomed to being dependent on their parents. If parents control them too tightly, interfere too much, or force them to obey their own will, it will make them mentally overburdened, depressed, hindered in personality development, unable to exert their potential abilities, and lack independence.

The importance of developing children's self-control

Self-control is important for children's development. Studies have found that children with higher self-control have higher achievement motivation, and the lack of self-control is one of the important reasons for the emergence of ADHD in children.

The most typical manifestations of self-control in early childhood are obedience to the mother's instructions and delayed gratification. Beginning at about 2 years of age, as children's cognitive abilities improve, self-control also develops. At this time, children are able to comply with their parents' demands without outside supervision, and can delay their own behavior at the request of others.

Around the age of 3, children begin to gradually acquire a sense of self-continuity and self-unity, and begin to associate their actions with the demands of their parents.

The characteristics of the development of children's self-awareness are as follows: patting is disturbing

1. Self-consciousness began to diverge, and developed rapidly, and self-contradictions began to appear.

2. The contradiction of self-consciousness is becoming increasingly prominent, but the ability to regulate is relatively weak.

3. The contradiction of self-consciousness continues to intensify, and the confusion of self-consciousness appears. It usually manifests itself in two types: one is too high self-evaluation and the other is too low self-evaluation.

4. The contradictory transformation of self-consciousness is constantly carried out, which makes a significant leap in the self-consciousness of college students, and there are different differences between individuals, and self-consciousness is gradually maturing.

Positive features of the development of self-awareness:

Self-knowledge is more active and conscious, self-evaluation is more extensive, college students' self-awareness is more active, they begin to understand themselves in the general coordinates of society, think about the meaning of life, and consciously reflect it in specific actions.

The richness of self-experience. The research shows that college students' self-experience is based on self-confidence, enthusiasm, longing, comfort, nervousness, impatience, etc.

Increased levels of self-control. The self-control ability of college students has been significantly improved in terms of initiative, consciousness, decisiveness, and persistence.

Increased sense of independence. The pursuit of independent personality is a prominent manifestation of the strong self-consciousness of contemporary college students.

Contradictions in the development of self-consciousness:

The conflict between the subject self and the object self, the ideal self and the actual self. This is the most prominent and concentrated manifestation of the contradiction of college students' self-consciousness. Japanese scholars have found that in the self-consciousness of high school students, college students, and adults, the distance between the subject self and the object self, the ideal self and the real self is the largest.

With the deepening of college life, college students have begun to separate themselves from the main self and the guest self, and when they see many people who are better than themselves in reality, the phenomenon of not accepting themselves gradually appears. As a result, there is a large gap between the "ideal self" and the "real self", which brings a lot of confusion to college students.