Is Confucius s idea of propriety really right today?

Each era has its own rules, Confucius's "etiquette" you can understand as the moral norms of that era, the legal system, the norms of interpersonal relations, and the norms of behavior, which were very good at that time, Confucius was also great, and etiquette once played a major role in history. But the times are developing, and what was suitable before is now not suitable, such as the emperor's etiquette system, the system of respect and inferiority, and whether men and women give or receive kisses, which are obviously outdated, but there are also very meaningful, such as interpersonal relationships, respect for teachers and friends, loyalty and self-discipline and the like are still very good.

A French scholar said to the effect that Chinese who have lost their Confucian culture will be no different from Tatars.

Look at the quality of the Japanese and Taiwanese who still respect Confucianism, and look at us who have lost our faith, and the answer to your question is right in front of you.

Confucius's "rites" generally refer to the hierarchical system, moral norms, and specific etiquette and rituals of China's slave society and feudal society since the Yin and Zhou dynasties. The content is the political and economic system, each in charge of the state governance, state religion, state rites, state politics, state punishment and the affairs of hundreds of labors. According to legend, the "Shili" also began with the Duke of Zhou, which comprehensively stipulated the crown, marriage, funeral, sacrifice, drinking, shooting, court, employment and other life etiquette of the nobles of the Zhou Dynasty.

These specific regulations are the immovable principles of heaven in the feudal era.

The negative effects of "rites".The Confucian culture of etiquette has both the essence and the dross. "Li" is centered on "Wulun" and "Three Guidelines", emphasizing "correct name" and emphasizing the idea of "bad name, bad words", which has had a negative impact on people's hearts and culture.

"Li" is based on the family and the blood relationship of the family brings about the negative effect of the patriarchal hierarchy and imprisons people's thoughts; Elevating the status of "rites", giving rites the status of "the principle of heaven", and standardizing society with "rites" has affected the judgment criteria of society and brought about negative impacts.

The etiquette advocated by Confucius is to be knowledgeable and courteous, to be polite to others, to pay attention to etiquette, and not to be rude. It is of great significance to improving the quality and cultivation of the entire nation.

The main meaning of "etiquette" advocated by Confucius is "code of conduct". The functions of this "rite" include:

1. Political role: the so-called "ritual system" and "ritual governance" establish various rules and regulations to regulate people's behavior in order to achieve the role of ruling the country.

2. The role of society: the so-called "etiquette" standardizes people's behavior through various social etiquette and etiquette such as festival customs, birthday celebrations, weddings, funerals, and rituals, so as to achieve the role of changing customs.

3. The role of people's self-consciousness: the so-called "people are not benevolent, what is courtesy?" This is the greatest contribution of Confucius, Confucius endowed the rigid "li" with a "benevolent" soul, hoping that through education, people can observe their own lives from the external norms of behavior, so as to awaken their own hearts and be a gentleman who is determined to cultivate morality.

The main meaning of "rites" advocated by Confucius is "norms of conduct", and the functions of this "rite" include:

First, the role of politics, using the so-called "etiquette system" and "etiquette rule" to establish various rules and regulations to regulate people's behavior, so as to achieve the role of controlling the country.

Second, the role of society, with the so-called "etiquette", through festivals, birthdays, weddings, funerals, sacrifices and other social etiquette and etiquette, to standardize people's behavior, in order to achieve the role of changing customs.

Third, the role of people's self-consciousness, the so-called "people are not benevolent, how to be polite", this is the greatest contribution of Confucius, Confucius endowed the rigid "etiquette" and "benevolence" of the soul, hoping that through education, people can observe their own lives from the external norms of behavior, so as to awaken their own hearts, to be a gentleman who aspires to cultivate morality.

"Etiquette" requires each member of society to abide by the established social relations, and also gives each member of society a certain moral responsibility. If people adhere to these relationships and fulfill their moral responsibilities, society will be stable, and if order is disrupted, society will be unstable. The rituals in daily life are quite detailed and elaborate, but it is precisely this rituals that regulate people's words and deeds while forming a broad basis for a stable social order.

Confucius's etiquette, from the inner meaning, is respect, respect for parents and elders, respect for superiors and colleagues, all respect, and you can change your self-cultivation and family.

From the external form, the great nuclear trust is the etiquette and politeness of behavior, which can enhance the feelings between people, reduce confrontation, and be conducive to family and social harmony.