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The incomprehension, disagreement, and intolerance behind the quarrel are the crux of each other's divorce, so that each other cannot accept each other's existence, thinking that being together is a kind of torture, and there is no need to waste time with each other.
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Because you can see the character of the other party from the small things. The accumulation of small things will also make people's emotions unbearable, so many people will choose to divorce because of a little thing, in fact, this is just the last straw that crushes the camel.
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Because there is no major contradiction between husband and wife, but the accumulation of daily trivial things can easily become a big contradiction.
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The main thing is that the husband and wife are exhausted by the usual contradictions, and both of them are completely disappointed in each other. So even if a small thing happens, it can erupt at any time, and even if it seems like a small problem to outsiders, it will eventually lead to violent conflicts and quarrels. The two simply broke the jar and broke it, and threatened each other with divorce at any time.
This is obviously a problem with the way the two get along, usually do not communicate well with the problem, so there is a conflict, and in the face of the contradiction, they only consider it from their own perspective, so they fail to properly eliminate the contradiction. The last little thing that came about led to this dissatisfaction growing stronger, leading to a gradual widening rift in the marital relationship and eventually irreparable consequences.
First, conflicts arise like ordinary social relationships, which often encounter problems, not to mention the intimate relationship between husband and wife that have been together for decades, which is a normal phenomenon, after all, everyone thinks differently and naturally has different views on problems. We can't avoid problems, but the conflict is a more negative result, which has escalated to emotional confrontation. So how does the "problem" evolve into a "contradiction"?
The main thing is a lack of communication, only thinking about their own thoughts, but not taking into account the feelings of their lovers, which eventually leads to strong dissatisfaction and confrontation.
Second, the resolution of contradictionsMany unavoidable circumstances lead to conflicts between the two, and how to resolve them is also a key factor in determining the direction of marriage. Borrowing the method of the ancestor Dayu to control the water, there are two kinds of "blocking" and "sparse". Blocking is equivalent to not solving it, pressing it in your heart, and waiting for time to dilute it.
But contradictions do not arise for no reason, let alone disappear for no reason. Although it is temporarily covered up, when new problems arise, all the emotions that have been pent-up in the past will be involved, further causing greater contradictions. At this time, it is equivalent to the dam that holds back the water and bursts.
So this is definitely not the best solution.
So what about using "sparse"? The literal meaning is "channeling", which dissolves the contradictions that arise at any time in an appropriate way, values the dissatisfaction of the other party, and guides this emotionThe first thing to do here is to think about the problem from the other side's point of view and understand the other party's opinions and opinions. Understanding is the best way to bridge the gap and greatly appease the other person's dissatisfaction.
At the same time, a certain compensation plan is adopted to safeguard the interests of the other party and reduce its losses, so as to maximize the win-win situation. In this way, the contradiction can be eliminated naturally.
Third, the accumulation of contradictions depends on the method used to resolve them. If it is laissez-faire, it will inevitably lead to the accumulation of contradictions. The dissatisfaction in everyone's hearts will also rise day by day, and eventually quantitative changes will lead to qualitative changes, and at some point they will completely explode.
Finding a solution in time and mending the cracks in the marital relationship before they widen can effectively prolong the life of the relationship. So the key is efficiency. Don't have any luck mentality, thinking that a trivial thing is not worth talking about on the table, you must know that the "butterfly effect" is also a major reason for the outbreak of emotional crisis.
On the whole, the breakdown of intimate relationships and the unbearable disgust of each other are all caused by the failure to solve these three contradictory problems, which must be learned.
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Although it is just a few small things, these small things may appear often in life. So many people can't stand it anymore and end up getting divorced.
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It is because these trivial things may make some changes in the mentality between two people, and they feel particularly boring, and it is also because they have touched a flashpoint that they will choose to divorce.
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Because people nowadays are financially independent, women will not wronged themselves in life, and if they feel that life can't go on, they will divorce.
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Although it is just a small thing, these small things may be found often in daily life, so it is like this.
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Because a lot of small things are big things, although we think that this matter is very small, but it is the last straw that overwhelms the couple, so many couples will divorce because of some small things.
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It's because of some small things that you may say a lot of swearing, and these little things also expose the problems between two people, and you will divorce on impulse.
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Because the relationship between the two of them broke down a long time ago, there were many contradictions between the two people, so in the end, they accumulated a lot and chose to divorce.
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There are many couples who have divorced after getting married, because the relationship is not particularly good, so they have to divorce when they encounter a little thing, and they feel that divorce is very hurtful to their feelings, so don't file for divorce at will. If we feel that a marriage is particularly tiring, then there is no need to maintain such a marriage, and frequent divorce will make people feel very tired.
After getting married, some men may not pay special attention to their wives, and they also feel that because of the marriage certificate. Even if you don't pay attention to your wife, there is no way, but in this way, it will only make the relationship between the two people worse and worse. It is also recommended that after a quarrel, you can think about who is right and who is wrong.
If it is the wife's mistake, you can coax the wife first, and when the wife's mood has stabilized, then tell the wife about the mistake. Feelings are like this, if the attitude of two people is very tough, it will only make the marriage unsustainable, and having a child will also be very harmful to the child.
Like many girls will often file for divorce as soon as they quarrel after marriage, but they don't know that such behavior will only make the other party farther and farther away from you. When there is no quarrel, you can quarrel with the other party, or you can go back to your parents' house, but what you can't mention is the word divorce. We must know that divorce is very hurtful, and it will also make the other party feel that divorce is due to a trivial matter, and there is no need to persist in such a marriage.
Maybe when we first talk about divorce, the other party will think that it is a very serious matter and will coax you, but if a little thing happens, we often talk about divorce, and the other party will not take you to heart. And I hate such people very much, if in marriage, the other party often says divorce, I also feel that there is no need to persist in such a marriage.
After two people get married, it is a legally recognized husband and wife relationship, and everyone should cherish it, after all, before two people get the certificate, they have experienced a lot of pain and a lot of hardships. There are many more things to go through in this life, so the couple should spend it hand in hand.
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There is no need to divorce because of a little thing This kind of marriage can actually be maintained Two people sit down and talk slowly Open to each other Look at personal thoughts Husband and wife should understand each other, love each other, take care of each other, in order to last.
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It is better to communicate more, marriage is not easy. Don't get divorced for the sake of a trivial matter. Some people often quarrel over a trivial matter, but they don't take it to heart, but if they do get divorced, it will hurt their feelings.
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No matter what the reason is, I think that since we have chosen to be together, we should understand and tolerate each other, don't want to divorce at every turn, there is a solution to everything, we should sleep together for thousands of years, and cherish our hard-won feelings.
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There will always be all kinds of problems, and husband and wife should face the difficulties head-on, and solve the problems when they encounter them, and they can't say divorce at every turn, so there is really no need to continue such a marriage.
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Husbands and wives want to divorce for a little thing, in fact, women are more hypocritical, they don't really want to divorce, just say angry words to coax women, to maintain a relationship, you must know how to tolerate each other's shortcomings.
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Hello, there are conflicts between husband and wife, quarrels may be angry and will file for divorce, but it is not necessarily completely emotionless, as long as there are no substantive problems and contradictions in a marriage, try to communicate and cultivate well.
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If our husband and wife divorce because of a trivial matter, there is no need to maintain such a marriage, because in our marriage, we should understand each other and tolerate each other.
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If the husband and wife quarrel for divorce because of a trivial matter, I think we should find out where the contradiction between you is? Is it a disagreement in terms of personality, or is it a difference in your values? Quarreling for divorce because of a trivial matter, can't you discuss to solve things?
Maybe it's because there's too little communication between you.
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It is normal for husband and wife to have some small things in their lives, and if you always divorce with small things, then it is useless to maintain such a marriage.
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It is best for couples to divorce without meaning a little thing, after all, marriage is really hard-won, try to save it at once, don't run away with a little thing.
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There is no need for such a marriage to continue, mainly because a divorce can be done over a trivial matter, then their marriage may be very fragile.
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Yes, you can't really divorce just because you say divorce, you can talk to the other party well, be tolerant of the other party, and try not to talk about divorce as much as possible.
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There is no need to maintain it anymore, because the relationship between two people together is gone, and time is also very hurtful.
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There is no need to maintain it anymore, because it will cause a lot of harm to each other, and there will be a lot of problems.
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Because of a trivial matter to get a divorce, I think maybe um, we still have to talk more, and everyone runs in with each other.
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Yes, the attitude of being noisy about divorce over a trivial matter means that it is all impulsive behavior and is not true.
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Now there are more flash marriages, two people have no feelings, they have been in love for a short time before, they don't know each other, and their feelings are relatively weak, and they will be prone to disputes after marriage, because they have no feelings, so they will divorce under impulse.
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In fact, these small things can cause a series of problems.
Small things are endured for a long, long time before they erupt.
People will not choose to divorce because of a small thing, but it will lead to a lot of conflicts because of this little thing.
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Nowadays, many couples divorce because of some trivial things, some divorce because of a sudden quarrel between two people, discord between husband and wife, and sometimes they may choose to divorce because of a sentence and quarrel, mainly because of the hype, the other party does not give themselves a step, no face, and there are more people who choose to divorce, and there are very few divorces that are really emotionless.
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Because of the acceleration of the pace of society, women now have a lot of things that are difficult to endure, or the psychology of comparison is heavier, and they often choose to do divorce because of these There is no way to make their lives normal, and when the competition is sometimes too much in the heart, they want too much, and they don't know that they should put themselves in the ** The pace of life is too fast.
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Nowadays, many couples divorce because of a trivial matter, mainly because both parties are not good enough in managing the marriage, and in this way, the conflict will be resolved calmly, but blindly quarrel, so in the end things cannot be resolved, resulting in divorce
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Now couples may quarrel because of some trivial things, quarrel for a long time, emotional discord, personality discord, two people slowly for a long time emotional estrangement, so now many couples may divorce because of some trivial things...
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Couples who will divorce because of some small things, not only because of some small things, but also because these things have been repeated over and over again in the long run, giving too much disappointment to both parties or one party, so that when it happens again, it will become the last straw that breaks the camel's back.
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Nowadays, there are many couples who may divorce because of some small things, because the husband and wife do not communicate well during the cooling-off period, and they are often easy to be impulsive, and both parties are under the strong position, which can easily cause the marriage to break down.
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This is because many couples are very impulsive in their relationship, and often quarrel over some small things, resulting in estrangement between the two people, and they can't deal with emotional problems well, so they will divorce because of some trivial things.
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People now are different from the people they used to be, they are more impetuous now, and they are more selfish, and they are likely to want to divorce because of a little thing, because they don't want to tolerate each other, and they don't want to be wronged.
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Because the emotional foundation is not enough, or the lack of communication is spirited, it is not easy to get married, and the relationship requires the two to go both ways.
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