I always want to care about others, I always feel hated, what should I do?

Then don't care about it yet, after all, there are so few people in the world who want to help others, and your appearance will always be misunderstood. I used to be like this, and every time I got into trouble, I felt nosy, and finally I slowly changed it. I can't say that I am ruthless, I can only say that I can't help it.

First of all, you have to think more about yourself, which is not to say that you have to be selfish or something, it just means to do your own things well first. While you care about others, you also have to do your own things well. Otherwise, some people will always think that you have a plan, is there something that can't be done for him to help?

Don't think that others don't think so, not everyone is selfless. You do your thing well, and they won't say anything. Otherwise, others will say that they can't do their own things well, and they still go to slap others, don't they hurt their hearts?

Moreover, you must have a correct attitude when you are good to a person, otherwise it is easy to cause misunderstandings. For example, you are very good to a person, but you have that kind of vague relationship. Then there will be rumors, and everyone should start gossiping about you.

If you don't take a stand and keep doing this, everyone should think that you are doing something bad. Do you think people will like you very much at this time?

Also, don't care about everyone, because not all the people you know are worthy of your care, it's too tiring. And, if it's a net-wide type of care, how many friends do you feel you can make? Just be nice to the people who are good to you, and don't care about the others.

Otherwise, everyone may think that you are just a bad person, how can such a person be likable? Sometimes I think it's a sycophant, don't expect others to like such a person.

I also know that I was the class leader when I was in school, and the class leader didn't care about everyone at that time, but the class leader was annoying.

Of course, if you really want to care about a person, you have to help him when he needs it, and it's not appropriate to blindly show kindness to others. Hook your heart first, then ask for it. The reasoning is similar, the difference is not bad.

So, you have to figure out what people need before you show that you care. Otherwise, people will think you're meddling and clever. Gather your universal heart, not everyone can let you do that, the family and friends you care about the most are the ones you should pay attention to.

No matter what others think, if you really feel like you're doing something wrong, there's definitely something wrong with the method. Don't do it without thinking about anything, it's like helping an old lady cross the road, and when you help it over, you find that the old lady is not crossing the street. That's embarrassing.

But you are a good person, few people will be so enthusiastic to help others, put your mind in order, just think about whether you want to do this or not. Sometimes it's good to be a "selfish" person.

I hate other people's care, and I crave other people's care, what's going on?

It has something to do with the family of origin where you grew up, if you have been too strict since you were a child and have lost yourself. Then when he grows up, he hates being cared about. In the kind of care that has been missing since childhood, the need to stare at Lu Xin in his own cover has not really been seen.

So when I grow up, I still crave the care of others. I hope I can help you, if you have specific questions, you can also write to me to help you seriously do a good psychological analysis.

Why be disgusted by other people's concerns? I don't think it's too troublesome, he's verbose! Then you are still too young and have experienced less. When you reach an age, there may be no one to be verbose, and you nag you and annoy you.

1 There is no such thing as true empathy.

2 Not all concern is well-intentioned.

3 Ultimately, all problems must be solved by oneself.

There are many ways to manifest a person who is disgusted.

The most basic performance is to see each other, show that they hate each other very much, quarrel with each other, and give each other a roll of their eyes from time to time and look down on each other.

And then if you hate a person, you can also ignore the other party, and when you see it, you don't see the other party, which means that you are not familiar with the other party.

I think I hate a person to see what the relationship is with the other person, adults always say, to be happy and angry, hating a person is also to hide in the bottom of the heart, don't let the other party see it, keep a distance from the other party, this is a very high level, I believe many people can't reach it, including myself.

If you dislike a person, it also depends on what you hate him, such as the other person's character, or the other party's behavior, we can all show our own form, and there is nothing wrong with it.

Me too, sometimes I get goosebumps all over my body.

Is it the psychological problem caused by something that I have experienced?

Is it wrong to care about anyone? I think there are a lot of people who are confused. Why is it that I obviously sincerely pay my care, but I can't get the corresponding gratitude and touching from the other party, but I am still disliked?

Is it because of the other party's vexatiousness, or because of your own excessive concern?

In fact, in real life, many people will have such an experience. That is, when we show an excessive concern for someone, or show an excessive concern for his behavior, then instead of gaining the gratitude of the other party, you will be inexplicably treated coldly by the other party, and even the other party will have a feeling of resistance and disgust. At this time, we will breed a kind of grievance in our hearts that the other party does not know what is good or bad, and lives up to our own good intentions.

But is that really the case? Of course not.

Colleague A was sick one day, so colleague B kept going to her to "give lessons" during A's illness, and he even looked concerned and always asked for warmth. Although it is a good thing to send charcoal in the snow, B's enthusiastic care does not make A feel warm, but there is a kind of disgust that makes it worse, and I feel that this kind of endless care is really difficult for people to accept.

Why is it annoying to care about a person as a result? In fact, the misplaced overcare is that you are wrong. So what did B do wrong?

1, he overestimated his status in the other party's hearts, they are not boyfriend and girlfriend, nor family, and they can't even be called good friends, but B imposes his own thoughts on A, which will inevitably make people disgusted.

2, who would like to be scolded and scolded by an ordinary person because of a trivial matter, and the other party has to play the banner of "because I care about you". The problem is, you care about me but I treat you as if you're farting, and it stinks.

3. Excessive concern is sometimes a manifestation of low emotional intelligence, and most people do not like to talk to people with low emotional intelligence. Because they don't know what to say.

4. Caring for a person, sometimes whether it is a colleague, a friend, or even a family member, the care given should include private space, if it is blindly given, it will inevitably make people feel full of "pressure" and difficult to accept.

As the saying goes, "not in his position, not in his government". It's because that person always forcibly closes the relationship with the other party, but in fact it's not like that, but he plays happily by himself, so it's inevitable to cause the other party's disgust.

Getting too close is a disaster, and what you think is caring for him is a bondage. Keeping a distance is the best way to get along.

Excessive care, in fact, has nothing to do with care. This is the manifestation of too much control. They just want to decide your life. And it doesn't matter what you think.

Caring for people is good and worth it