My boyfriend said that I always like to think about pessimism when I do things

a) From what you have said above, the following personal conclusions can be drawn:

1: I guess you're a quiet girl, right? (That is, sometimes I often like to feel alone).

2: It should be between you and your boyfriend - and your boyfriend says you're like that, right?

I won't speculate on the rest! Because it is for the person who asked the above question 2) The following are the methods that individuals feel can be changed:

1: Try to put your thoughts on the ground! When you read what I wrote here, you try to close your eyes gently, and then don't think about anything, open your mouth, and gently inhale and exhale with your mouth and nose!

Isn't it comfortable? I thought about how good it was that I had always maintained such a mentality! So there's nothing to bother you about!

Don't think about .. anymore

2: Do more exercise! It's good for the body and mind! Blow water with others a little more..

3: Whenever you encounter something, (only you can help you) you can subconsciously convince yourself not to think too much, and not to get angry so quickly! Slowly let yourself think through the idea of good things first.. and then deal with them

In short, don't think much about it! It's okay to exercise more and blow water、。。 I think that this way everyone who feels sorry for themselves can get out!

The above is just my own thoughts! Hope it helps! Don't laugh!

First of all, you have to change your attitude. Since you know that you are a radical person, you must think twice before doing anything.

All you have to do is think about the consequences before you do anything.

You have to have this subconscious, which is that everything has two sides.

Sometimes, I also try to accept those things that cannot be changed, do not give up before the inconclusive things, be full of confidence, look at the love of the people around you will make you feel happy and confident, and also give yourself positive psychological hints, to encourage yourself to look good, come on, bless you.

Take your time and you'll be fine! My boyfriend said the same about me, slowly change, anyway, it's better to be optimistic than pessimistic.

As far as I'm concerned, when I'm pessimistic, I want to be happy or look at things with confidence.

I'm just like you. I don't know what to do either.

You can only control your emotions, which has a lot to do with your mood and mentality, since you know this, and want to avoid pessimism and extremes, then deal with your things positively, try to do your best, and create optimistic conditions.

No one else can do anything about it!

We must forget about the bad and try to do it for the better.

In fact, sometimes boys need to feel safe, too.

Anyway, as long as he accompanies him in his heart, it is estimated that he feels very satisfied, and the poor quality in his heart is not to say that he can exercise if he exercises, it depends on what he is afraid of, so that it will be much easier to find out the reason!!

First, maybe he has something on his mind, and second, maybe he wants to break up with you and tell you something bad to make you feel embarrassed.

This is a man with low self-esteem, and what he wants to give you is the best he thinks but he can't achieve it now, because he thinks you deserve this, and he can't give you now, so please communicate with him well and hope you are happy.

He should be in a state of struggle now, he doesn't want to be separated, but he feels that it is difficult to be together for other reasons, and there is little hope, so he is a little negative.

Talk to your boyfriend more. I felt something was wrong with him. Or you have an inferiority complex.

He doesn't think he's worthy of you, and he's inferior, to be precise.

Maybe a little more physical, mental, or family care.

He should have unspeakable privacy, and I'm afraid that you won't be able to accept that he is trying you to see your reaction, if you say that you will not leave him in the future, no matter what, he will be moved by your true feelings, and I will tell you the privacy.

Maybe it's because he has low self-esteem, or maybe he doesn't want to be with you anymore and wants to say goodbye to you.

First of all, dare to pursue a good girl!! Again, the disabled may win sympathy, but it is difficult to get love, sympathy will be exhausted in the suffering, but love will not, too impulsive will put yourself in a dilemma, and the competitiveness of a disabled person is indeed relatively weak, so I hope you postpone the decision to withdraw from marriage. From your description, he is a mature man who has experienced society, and many men will be ashamed to export love at this stage, because he already understands what love means to him (the more valuable the "love" is, the less easy it is to say, just as Ji Bu Yinuo is worth a thousand dollars, and the promise of splashing is to fart), you can tell him about your worries the next time you meet, now your identity is his fiancée (even if you treat him as a stranger), you don't have to worry about seeing outside, talk about your worries about your lack of common topics, And he tried to solve the problem.

There are two benefits: 1You can understand each other's personality traits (amiable and irritable, optimistic and pessimistic, etc.), values (for example, for eating dog meat, sweet and salty tofu brains, etc., which are caused by different values, two people with different values together, there will always be only compromise and being compromised, unless you change your values), hobbies and other aspects to know in your heart, and see if you and he can get along.

2.You can see through communication what status you and your family have in his heart (roughly distinguish between strangers, people who know, people who are familiar, people who care, and people who love). If you come to a conclusion, I hope you can think about it more, after all, it is not easy for girls to be disabled in society, and even if you don't like it, I believe that time will make you get used to each other's existence.

It's best to be casual, don't restrain yourself, it's not good to put too much pressure on yourself, he said him, but you don't do it against your wishes, it's too tiring. Besides, if you always plan your future life according to his ideas, do you feel tired?

The common problem of women is that they envy others for doing well and want to climb to the sky in one step, so they face the status quo pessimistically. Many things want to develop in a good way, which everyone wants, but the good side has to have a process, not a day or two can be completed, and it is not a day or two to fail to meet expectations and be disappointed, this is the reason why women in love are pessimistic.

For example: someone else has a car, and I want to buy one. 3 months have passed, hey, I still can't afford it, so pessimistic.

Someone else has a house, I want to buy a house, half a year has passed, hey, I still can't afford it, so pessimistic.

Others have traveled abroad, I want to travel, 8 months have passed, hey, I can't afford to go, so pessimistic.

Expecting too much about life, not understanding, asking too much, and having too much common topic.

What pessimistic things did you say to make him think that you were too tired to talk!

There is no common language, there is no mutual tolerance, there is no love between you! Divide it!

Do you think you are pessimistic or not?

Sometimes it's quite happy to be a stupid woman, and if you don't think about it, what you can't do right away is that the boat will naturally go straight to the bridge.

There are two possibilities, one is pretending, and now many people like to pretend to be gloomy, cold, or something. If so, there is no way, you don't bird him, life will tell him that pretending to be x will be struck by lightning.

The second is that his past life experiences have caused him to be more pessimistic, you need to understand what he has experienced in the past, what caused it, you yourself should maintain an optimistic spirit, give him more smiles in ordinary life, encourage him more, give him confidence, let him communicate more with others. It's a long-term thing.

Some things are born with you. I myself also like gloomy things, such as cloudy days and cold rain, but I am not pessimistic, and it can be said that I have overdone it. Therefore, it is necessary to distinguish whether it is a matter of appreciation angle or psychological character.

You can take a look at a book on psychology, or just find a psychological counselor, what **movie**sport** or something.

One of the most important things is to let him know that he is happy, lucky, and that there are many people whose fate is even more miserable, and that life is already very good for him.

Eh, the problem in his heart is solved by himself, and the man is not like the woman, and he needs to solve it by himself, and the man will not rely on anyone to save face, and the girl can rely on someone to solve this matter... How much do you care about him, don't let him think about it, support him more...

In my life, I'm the main character.

For the lives of others, we are at best.

A hint of encouragement inspires.

And genuine love.

These attitudes may thus enrich the lives of others.

But it is not possible to develop into - acting as an agent for the lives of others.

We can't afford to live for another life entirely

Even if someone else gives it that right.

Everybody has an inner journey that goes through it alone.

Even though he knew that someone was there for him.

but not to get a complete understanding.

Without that kind of thing, you will be His salvation.

Everyone can redeem only themselves.

Congratulations, you have a very good boyfriend, don't lose him, a lot of people are rushing to ask for it, cherish it, slowly change yourself according to what he said, you will be happy. Praise!

People in love always suffer from gains and losses.

It's hard to say these things, but it's good to be happy when two people are together.

Your boyfriend is not wrong, it's just that you should be positive, and he may prefer your optimistic side.

Yes, he wants you to change back to the you he knew before, the happy you, he wants you to communicate with him and tell him everything, he said he doesn't want to break up with you, why do you think like that? Try to change your mood.

Your boyfriend feels too strong about himself, a little self-righteous, arrogant.

Men and women in love....Who knows...Hehe.

Almost!

Boys will treat love like chewing gum, and the more they chew it, the lighter it gets.

Girls will treat love like wine and get stronger and stronger.