What do you think about the fact that it wasn t your family of origin that really ruined you, but yo

No matter what we do, we must respect our own ideas and never be swayed by others, so that it is possible to realize the value of life. And as a mother, you must respect your child's ideas, and you must set a good example for your child, so that your child will be better in the future.

I don't think so. Because Mother is always good for you, as long as you use the right method, it will not destroy you.

I very much agree, in fact, the formation of my own character and habits has a lot to do with my mother, and there is some truth in this statement.

It's true, I have to say that if you have a terrible mother, it will really affect your life, after all, you will be with your mother every day, so many of your mother's behavior and language can touch you.

Toxic family of origin, don't think you can change your parents, "Are you a pig brain?" How could you be so stupid? "You look at others, and then look at yourself, you lose the dead" "What is the use of being so timid, when you grow up?"

I really shouldn't have given birth to you in the first place" "I'm for your good." "Toxic family of origin, as just now, parental verbal violence can affect a person's whole life. People who grow up in a toxic family of origin environment try to change the cycle of this toxic family of origin when they grow up.

What I want to tell you is that don't think you can change your parents. Personally, I believe that the essence of human beings is difficult to change, especially the older you get, the more solidified your thinking and behavior will be, which is supported by psychological theories and wheel molds. What to do?

First, say goodbye to the past and embrace the future. In psychology, mental schema refers to the network of knowledge and experience that the brain already has. People are often empiricist, and past experience will have an impact on the process and results of his future cognition, in the vernacular, it is your cognition, that is, your way and method of looking at problems, which is a retracted extension of the family composed of many past knowledge and experiences.

Some parents are constantly updating and iterating their knowledge and experience, while some parents will use their own inherent knowledge and experience to explain everything, and some parents will not change dynamically in their own understanding. It is not thought that you will grow from a little baby who is completely dependent on them to an independent personality with her own opinions, her own life, her own pursuits, and her own values. They will only judge your behavior by their inherent whether you still listen to me, whether you accept my control or not, and for their desire for control, they have a term called filial piety.

Second, embrace yourself, love yourself, and accept yourself. If you want to be independent, if you want to get out of the control of your parents, it will make them feel anxious, they will attack you, and use their advantage of relieving the commanding heights of innate morality to attack you for not being filial, and even some parents cry and make trouble and hang themselves, making you blame yourself, guilt, and even self-doubt and self-condemnation. If you are unfortunate enough to grow up in this toxic family of origin, what you can do is accept yourself, that is, to have such a family of origin, and allow your parents to cling to their perceptions and prejudices.

We can only start with ourselves, strive to be a better version of ourselves, do what we should do, for ourselves, for our children, and be well, which should also be a happy appearance.

I think if your original parents have always been bad to you, then it means that they don't like you in their hearts, and they don't look down on you no matter how good you are.

It is indeed the case that it is actually difficult to change a person's ideology, especially a parent who has lived for decades.

The character of your parents has already been determined, you don't want to change your parents' personality, you just need to be yourself.

When I was a child, my parents didn't know much about the concept of education, so I thoroughly used my personal feelings and ways to educate my children. However, they do not know that some wrong education methods will cause children's psychological pressure, and in the long run, it is very easy to correctly guide children towards paranoia and lack of self-confidence. For example, when a child does not like to make friends when he is young, the parents will tell a certain child to make a comparison, which is actually very ironic when the child hears, but the parents do not think so.

There are also some parents who are accustomed to comparing their children's academic performance, and often do not leave other people's excellent three good students, often making their children in an extremely embarrassing situation, and then it is very easy to cultivate children's lack of self-confidence and suppressed and unconfident temperament, which will be harmful to the child's future development, but parents still insist on going their own way. Families like this do not know how to motivate and correctly guide their children to take a positive and sunny path, but they push their children into the abyss, resulting in their children's future lives under cowardice and pain, and such children are not only unable to create a chapter in their own lives, but also difficult to contribute to the motherland.

Therefore, parents should understand that to crack down on serious harm to their children, they must learn to actively motivate their children and correctly guide their children to make better personal behaviors, rather than blindly cracking down on ridicule, so that we are destroying not only the child's childhood, but also the child's entire life.

Parents have their own arrangements for marriage, but running a family is definitely a course that many parents need to learn. Many parents maintain a harmonious relationship with each other, the family atmosphere is peaceful and harmonious, and it is easier for children to develop an outgoing, lively and lovely temperament when they grow up under such conditions, and it is very easy to experience the strong care and love of their parents since childhood, which makes the child full of a sense of belonging, and it is very easy to create a child's self-confidence and strong character quality.

On the other hand, there are some parents who do not know how to manage their feelings, and often make a restless family atmosphere, which parents do not consider the depressed experience of their children at all, let alone the shaping and education of their children. In that way, children from family classes are not only introverted, very easy to be restless, but also may produce children's paranoid and angry temper, which causes children's personality defects from the source, character determines life, and destroying a child is a foregone conclusion.

Therefore, parents must be cautious when looking at their children and hopes for the future. Don't casually lay down the unfortunate theme of life for your child, you should be soberly aware of the harm of parental association to your child's development, and actively create a harmonious and comfortable family atmosphere to cultivate your child to take the initiative and be positive and optimistic in life.

If parents and friends are inspired by this article, they should also take practical actions to create and change their children's living conditions. Let's give your children a full childhood and create a bright future for them. If there is anything inappropriate, please leave a comment from many good friends, and take the initiative to teach.

Ignoring the child's face and casually ridiculing the child's family self-esteem is not only for adults, but also for children. But often many times we ignore the child's self-esteem, and when a friend's child doesn't know how to hide in ** to play, the friend calls him to eat

Home and everything is prosperous! If the family is not harmonious, it will greatly affect the child's mental and future growth.