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Some parents say that they want their children to treat them badly, the worse the child, the more filial the child, the so-called talented, filial son, the more you beat, the more **, the child will serve you, and the more filial to you. Is that really the case? All I can say is that the parents who say these words are just a little bit of wisdom, but it doesn't apply at all now, but it applied well in the past.

In the past, some parents advocated filial piety under the stick, using rude and simple methods to make children obey them, children did not listen to their beatings and scolding, and when they were in a bad mood, they vented their bad emotions on their children.

<>At that time, the children were poor, had not read any books, and their cognitive abilities were not very high, so they thought that there was nothing wrong with their parents. But even so, many people are very upset with their parents. Look at the old people who lived miserable lives in their later years.

In the past, although the children did not have any education, they were also very smart, and they generally dared to be angry at the beating and scolding of their parents, because the previous moral kidnapping was the most serious, and if you didn't listen to them, they would say that you were unfilial, and morality kidnapped you, and then that's how they attacked you!

What these parents want to do is take complete control of their children and let them be their tools: the tools of wealth and retirement. They know that they have nothing in life, so they can only rely on their children to fulfill their desires, whether they like it or not!

In any case, they can carry out moral kidnapping, as long as the child has a little bit of his own thoughts and ideas, they will feel that the child does not listen to them.

So as to make all kinds of moral kidnapping, such as "I gave birth to you to give you a life, you owe me a life", "everything I do is for you, you must repay me as soon as possible", "I gave you a life, you must listen to me, if you don't listen to me, it will be unfilial" and so on, these words are very correct, in fact, it is to read magic spells to children, the more you read the child's head, the more painful it is, and even the child's life is wasted! Isn't it filial piety for a child to stay with his parents and take care of them all his life? Even if parents don't like their children who have been around all their lives, there is no way because the children's abilities are suppressed by them.

I think the feelings between parents and children are mutual, if parents can understand their children, children will also be filial to them, if you just blindly suppress each other, the other party will not be good to you.

Personally, I don't think so, children have the instinct of trust and dependence on their parents, but if parents are getting worse and worse for their children, children will slowly become cold-hearted, and they will gradually dislike their parents.

Of course not, if you treat your child badly, then the child will not respect you at all, and will not honor you, nor will he understand your good intentions.

The more filial a child is, the more sad it is, and the reason is that the child is too sensible.

Filial children are naturally sensible and can understand the difficulties of their parents and the difficulties of their families, so they rarely make excessive demands. Even if there is a desire in the heart, it is usually buried deep in the heart and dare not say it.

In the end, it becomes a normal request, and I feel that I am wrong, and I look at my parents' faces carefully. Parents also selectively ignore well-behaved children and focus more on crying children. Once the parents have formed this kind of thought, if the child makes some embarrassing requests, the parents will be even more angry and blame the child for disobedience.

Difference Between Filial Piety and Filial Piety: Although filial piety and filial piety are both filial piety, there are still slight differences.

Filial piety is unconditional respect for the elderly, and sometimes it becomes a good or bad listening, which has a sense of awe. And filial piety is not only to be filial in supporting the elderly, but also not to be as knowledgeable as the old man, knowing that he is wrong, but on the surface to pretend to listen to them, mainly for his pleasure, but after the incident, what should you do.

Summary. Dear, are you filial piety, but also feel wronged? Actually, this question depends on how you understand it. "Bullying" in your eyes is nothing more than too strict with you in the eyes of your parents.

Why do parents bully their filial children?

Dear, are you filial piety, but also feel wronged? Actually, this question depends on how you understand it. "Bullying" in your eyes is nothing more than too strict with you in the eyes of your parents.

If parents have been too doting on their children and spoiling their children, which is called laissez-faire parenting in psychology, then the child is likely to be unfilial when he grows up. But if parents are strict with their children from an early age, and the children become more and more excellent, such children are the most filial. Therefore, the reason why parents like to "bully" filial children is not because they are unreasonable when they are old, but because they have always treated their children like this, and it is only when the children grow up that they discover this fact when they are filial to their parents.

This is indeed the case, because if these parents treat their children badly, the children will want to please their parents, or they want to make themselves better and make their parents happy.

This is because parents think that those very good children, they have better development, can not always be by their parents' side, because their work is also very busy, and those who are not very good, children are more willing to live with their parents, so they can give their parents some emotional comfort, and can also be by their parents' side when they need help; Indeed, there is some truth to this.

It is indeed like this, although it is said that parents are not particularly good to their children, but children are very filial, and they are also very grateful to their parents.

This view is incorrect, it is very bad for children, children will not be filial, will have opinions about their parents, and are unwilling to associate with their parents.

I don't agree with this point of view, how can you be filial to your children, people's hearts are flesh and blood, if you are good to him, he can be filial to you.

I don't agree with this point of view, parents treat their children badly, it will cause psychological harm to children, and this kind of damage may not be able to ** for a lifetime.

Why is there such a saying that "the worse you treat your children, the more filial they are"?

1. In real life, is it really "the worse parents treat their children, the more filial their children are"?

In fact, this sentence is a law summarized by people in daily life, although they are their own children, but many parents are partial, for some children are more pampered, but for individual children are very cold, but after the children grow up, they find that the original pampered children are not as filial piety as the neglected children, therefore, they will also feel very guilty scum Xiangkong, thinking that they have seen the wrong person before, and should not be too bad for this child. Therefore, they have summed up such a rule.

2. Why is this happening?

According to people's conventional thinking, the more concerned parents are for their children, the more grateful they should be to their parents, and the more filial they should be to their parents. However, this is not the case in reality, some people have also analyzed such a problem from the perspective of psychology, if parents care for their children too much, they will feel that parents should do this, on the contrary, if parents are more cold and blind to a child, they will want to behave more to satisfy their parents, therefore, they will behave better, in fact, this is also a psychological change. Of course, this is only for some children, not all children are like this.

3. Parents can't deliberately snub their children because of such a sentence.

Perhaps after seeing such a rule, some parents think that they should be strict with their children and not be too nice to them. In fact, this idea is not right, whether the child is filial piety in the future, and the education of parents has a lot to do with it, the ancients often said, the son is not filial to the father's fault, the child's education can not just stay at the level of good and bad, should let them really understand what filial piety is, only they understand these truths from the heart, in order to be able to do the right thing.

Parents who are poor to their children, children do not feel the love of their parents, and the parent-child relationship is estranged, so there will be no superficial conflict between the stool and the scum, and the scum looks like the child is more filial. In fact, such a cold relationship is the most dangerous.

Because such a child has a grateful heart, he is not spoiled by his parents, and he knows how to give back to others without a willful character, and understands that all his things are because of his dedication to others in the calendar.

This is because children want to get their parents' attention, so they will be nice to their parents.

The meaning of this sentence should not be that the worse the more filial piety, but that it does not spoil the child, everything follows the child's rough sedan acorn, the child does something wrong, you have to criticize and educate him, beat, scold, which may seem to some people to think, oops, don't hit the child, we have to tone better, mouth education. Don't give your child everything well, let him develop clothes to reach out, and open his mouth next to the rice rock, so that the child can be independent.

All parents want their children to be well, healthy, and smooth. Parents all over the world have the same heart for their children, but children's hearts for their parents are unpredictable. A very real problem is:

Even if parents are good to their children, they cannot guarantee that their children will be filial when they are old. I once met an elderly man who, after retirement, worked tirelessly to take care of his children like many other elderly people. However, the old man's health was not good, and someone asked him:

If you work hard for your children like this, when you are a little older, you can no longer do it, you can only be served by your children, if you find that your children are not filial at this time, what will you do?Will you leave your property to them?The old man was very direct.

If they are found to be unfilial, the property will not be left to them".

The old man said: I am now retired, and I am not looking for a quiet place to enjoy happiness, that is because I feel that my son and I are a family, and the family should help each other and pull each other in difficult times. I feel that my body is okay, and I also feel that I am doing my part, and it is the care of the elders for the younger generations.

Most importantly, I feel that my children are very good to me, and I am happy to do so. You said that when you are old, your children will not be filial, and you should have been able to find out earlier. If I find out that they are not filial, the property will not be left to them.

Because if I haven't waited until I can't take care of myself, I'll find a nursing home to live in by myself, and they won't be filial piety, so don't worry about my money.

Don't mention the matter of dividing property with your children too early, otherwise it will easily lead to their disobedience."

The old man also said: If you want your children to be filial, don't mention the matter of dividing property too early. I have seen how many friendly and harmonious families that were originally loving to mothers and children, but because of the division of property, relatives turned against each other.

When their children grow up, what kind of life they live depends on their own hard work, and counting on the old man's little property, he will sit on the mountain sooner or later. Therefore, parents must understand in their hearts that they cannot indulge their children and carry things for their children, otherwise they will only raise unfilial white-eyed wolves.

Of course, many parents can't pass the level in their hearts, worrying that they are old, and one day they suddenly leave, and there is a problem with the distribution of property, and they want to plan early. However, it is also important to remember that you should not mention the matter of property to your children too early, otherwise it will easily lead to their disobedience. You can make decisions secretly and privately, and don't make your life unpeaceful because of the distribution of property when you are healthy.

The old man was very direct on the question of whether to leave his property to his unfilial children, that is, "no". Of course, the right and wrong choices of the old man are not judged by outsiders. However, it is worth commending that the old man put forward the idea of "don't share property with your children too early, otherwise it will easily lead to their disobedience", which is worthy of attention.