Is it really because of the original family that ruined your life?

If we want to have a better material life, we should become more positive and sunny in life, and through our own efforts we can get rid of the influence of the original family.

Everyone's family situation is different, for some people who like to complain, they think that the original family has brought too many disasters to themselves, which leads to a very negative side of life, in the bones that the original family has a vital impact on their own life, as everyone knows, what really determines their own happiness in life is their own family concept and self-awareness, we should also clearly understand their parents in life, We have done our best to provide us with better conditions, because wealth needs to be accumulated, so we should also correctly view the harm caused by the original family in our lives, and remain optimistic in order to have a better life.

The family of origin will have a certain impact on people's lives.

For some younger children, if the original family is not happy enough, it will also lead to extreme personalities, so we should also learn to be friendly with their other half in life, so that we can make the child's life path happier, and we should also provide children with a better material life in life, of course, not to produce too much spoiling situation, although the original family will have a certain impact on people's lives, but people's achievements mainly depend on whether their cognition is clear.

Keep yourself clear.

Everyone's life value is different, the way to achieve it is also different, for people with poor original families should learn to promote their strengths and avoid weaknesses, to firmly believe that setbacks are the driving force for their growth, and in life they should also learn to make themselves more hard and better, only in this way can we usher in the dawn of victory, and we must not push our failures to the original family, to their parents, which is an extremely immoral behavior.

I think it may not be the original family that ruined the life, it is the performance of the parents in the original family and the disregard for the child that has a very serious impact on the child, after all, the child's heart is very fragile, they are very eager to receive care from their parents, if the parents do unimaginable behavior to the child, this is a very serious psychological blow to the child.

I think it is very likely that you will ruin your life because of your family of origin, because what you experience in your family of origin will cause a shadow of your life, and it will cause you to have low self-esteem or depression, which is particularly harmful.

Personally, I think it's not because of the original family, but because of myself, as long as I dare to work hard, even if it's a family, I can't stop you.

Work hard to make money, for one day in the future, we can all say: It's good to have money! Instead of helplessly saying: If you have money, it's good......

<> "4 major influences of the original family, each of which will affect your life!"

The original family is a person's fate! Everyone has two families in their lives, and the first one in Zaolu is the home where we grew up from a blind child, with parents, brothers and sisters; The other is that when we grow up, we get married, start a family, and start a new family. The first of these is our family of origin, and when we have children, we become the children's family of origin.

In everyone's life, the earliest, greatest and longest influence on him is the family of origin. From birth, we have been influenced by the members of the system. From a certain point of view, the family of origin does affect the fate of a person's life.

1. Intimacy.

In psychology, there is a theory that our patterns of intimacy, marriage, and affection often come from the psychological experience of interaction with parents during childhood. The family of origin is the first place to learn about personal emotional experiences and ways of getting along with the sexes.

Whether a person is happily married or not is usually planted in the family in which he grew up and in the experiences of his childhood.

If a person has missing parts in his original family, he will often desperately double up to find them in adulthood, and even bring them into his future love and marriage to find them, which will bring trouble to intimate relationships; And the part of a person who is satisfied in the original family is easy to make trade-offs.

2. Personality traits.

Lee Kai-fu said: "Those who grow up in criticism are sentenced to empty eyes and blame others. Children who grow up in fear are often worried. Children who grow up with ridicule have a shy personality. Children who grow up in shame feel guilty. ”

Children who grow up with encouragement are confident. Children who grow up in tolerance are able to endure. Children who grow up in praise know how to be grateful. Children who grow up in recognition, like themselves. ”

In just one paragraph, it shows how different original families will bring different personality traits to children. Psychologically, it is believed that children's self-confidence and affirmation of their own value as a person are fundamentally the unconditional love of their parents.

3. Parent-child relationship.

If the trauma we suffered in our original family is not healed and grown, then we are likely to repeat the tragedy in our own children. As the world's top family volleyball tutor Bertu Ushamo said: The love that parents can naturally give their children is usually the love they get from their own parents.

4. Money relationship.

Often, people who are struggling to make ends meet, or who have wealth and always feel deprived, have one or more of the above limiting beliefs. And these beliefs are often shaped in their original families and growth environments.

Not necessarily.

Some children from bad families will learn from their parents, just as their parents and family inspire their evil.

However, some children from bad families will understand that their parents are wrong, so they deliberately avoid their parents' bad habits.

I once knew a friend who had watched his parents quarrel since he was a child.

The father was a drunkard, drunk and often beat his mother and him after coming home.

Emotionally, this man is not responsible, and playing outside must be innocent.

Financially, he doesn't care about his family, he doesn't earn enough to spend on himself, and he never cares about his wife and children.

When this friend grew up, except for the occasional little impatience in his personality, everything else was normal.

Three views are correct, feelings are single-minded, upright, optimistic and positive, and work seriously.

Although it can't be perfect, there is no problem with character.

At the same time, I don't agree with my father's performance.、So remind yourself from time to time not to be like him.。

So after falling in love, he is very single-minded, loyal to his girlfriend, considerate and gentle, delicate and thoughtful.

His mother has never experienced "being loved seriously and carefully", so when he is in love, he is extremely responsible and focused on the girl he likes.

The unhappy marriage of his parents did not affect his view of marriage and feelings.

It did not lose the ability to love others.

There are many such examples.

The parents are not very good, but when the children grow up, their physical and mental health are not greatly affected.

From this point of view, the three views or habits of a person's personality when they grow up may not all be related to the influence of the original family.

As long as he himself has the consciousness of the ability to absorb and approach the "positive" energy, he will not be influenced and controlled by his family of origin all the time.

Therefore, what a person grows up to be, don't blame it all on the family of origin.

Although there will be an impact, it is not comprehensive and absolute.

Later, I still have a lot of opportunities to change and correct ......