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This family model was formed not overnight.
You only said your family's current situation, and your helplessness about the current situation, and I can't see the deep reason for the matter from these fragments.
But there are two points that seem to have some content.
You said that your father is machismo, you say humiliating words about your mother, you are a bit addicted to the Internet, and you don't do your job, but your evaluation of your father has "maybe a good father", which seems to be contradictory.
You talked about the quarrel and divorce at the end of the year, why is it even worse at the end of the year? Is there a deeper reason?
I can only do some preliminary analysis from your description, and if you want to dig deeper, you need a lot of other information. For example, your parents' love experience, your relationship status before you were born, the reasons and main content of the quarrel, etc. Would you like to say this information here?
My advice is to find a counselor for counseling, or find a local counseling agency for family counseling (if your parents want to). There, the information you say is safe and confidential.
Given that you are a high school student and have a tight study schedule, you most likely don't have time for these things. Then in life, some of your practices can actually play the role of an emotional bond, at least to maintain the temporary balance of the family. Parents don't want to affect your studies because of them, they will calm down for you.
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Lots of uncertainties:
Parental age. Job.
family environment (expenditures, income, size).
The reason for such a temper of the father.
You follow your father one day and see how he works.
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Where does household income come from?
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Summary. Hello, what are the family or psychological problems? You can tell the teacher in detail that the teacher will help you <>
Hello, what are the family or psychological problems? You can tell the teacher in detail that the teacher will help you <>
Hello, how are you? You can tell me the problem in detail, I will help you solve the problem, no matter what problems arise in the family, the family is also our eternal harbor.
Hello, if you have any discomfort psychologically or physically, you can come to me for a review, and then I think that no matter what, you have to face this life must be optimistic, so that your life will get better and better in the future, and you will have a better future and life if you face it more clearly.
I participated in a conflict between adults and helped my parents speak, but some adults thought I had a problem and kept saying and scolding me, and finally this matter became complicated because of my participation, and now adults are also talking badly about me everywhere.
Hello, this situation because of you.
Because you originally wanted to solve this problem, but because of some misunderstandings, they didn't understand what you said, so this situation caused everyone to misunderstand, and I don't think this situation is your own fault, everyone has a reason.
You don't have to blame yourself for this matter, I think you should solve this matter to them to better explain that your intentions are good, but you haven't done this well, please don't talk about you like this anymore<>
I explained, but they didn't listen to me, so I first scolded them when they scolded me, and then I calmed down and reasoned with her, but they thought I was a child and didn't have the right to talk here.
Hello, I don't think it's your fault in this case, so don't be too upset that you may be the fault of the parents, but they don't want to admit it, so don't be too sad, I hope the teacher's can make you more happy.
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Summary. Hello Kiss is happy to answer this question for you. Family Counseling:
Family psychological counseling, also known as family**, is known as the four major international psychological schools along with cognitive behavior**, psychoanalysis, and humanism**. Family psychological counseling is not simply an exploration of individual behavior, but focuses on the use of systems thinking to creatively view the family as an organic whole, explore the interaction in the circular interpersonal relationship, and then change the problem from the root of the emotional conflict of the members.
From the perspective of family counselors, individuals have psychological problems, and individual counseling cannot be fundamentally solved by only conducting individual counseling from the individual's perspective. Therefore, family counseling should break the perspective of the individual, start from the overall system, make adjustments and changes to the family system, and promote the benign interaction of family relationships, so as to improve the problems of the individual.
Hello Kiss is happy to answer this question for you. Family Psychological Counseling: Family psychological counseling, also known as family, is known as the four major international psychological schools along with cognitive behavior, psychoanalysis, and humanism.
Family psychological counseling is not simply an exploration of individual behavior, but focuses on the use of systems thinking to creatively view the family as an organic whole, explore the interaction in the circular interpersonal relationship, and then change the problem from the root of the emotional conflict of the members. From the perspective of family counselors, individuals have psychological problems, and individual counseling cannot be fundamentally solved by only conducting individual counseling from the individual's perspective.
Therefore, family counseling should break the perspective of the individual, start from the overall system, make adjustments and changes to the family system, and promote the benign interaction of family relationships, so as to improve the problems of the individual.
What problems can be solved by the family**In today's society, the shaking of parental authority, the diversification of marriage and family models, and the change of intergenerational interaction make individuals who are deeply fettered by the family at a loss. Family counseling is very effective in addressing individual psychological problems and family relationship problems. If you encounter such a problem:
1. It is difficult to talk about educational issues such as parent-child topics, intimate topics, and growth topics, and there is no way to communicate smoothly with the child's partner; 2. Helpless in the face of children's and adolescents' emotions, school boredom, anorexia and other problems, and children cannot grow up healthily; 3. Resist intimate behavior with partners, and the relationship between husband and wife is not harmonious, which destroys the overall family atmosphere; 4. There are family problems such as mother-in-law offside, husband absence, wife dislocation, etc., and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law "war" and widowed parenting are often staged; 5. The parents are divorced, and the child is facing the dilemma of a single-parent family, and is worried that the child will not accept it and have psychological problemsIn all of the above scenarios, you can try family psychological counseling.
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Family psychological construction refers to the promotion of mental health and good family relationships among family members through a series of actions and measures. Here are some methods and practices for family psychological construction:
Communication and listening: Establish good communication channels and encourage family members to listen to each other and express their emotions and needs. Maintain an open and respectful attitude and encourage positive dialogue and understanding.
Jointly develop family values and rules: Family members work together to develop family values and rules, establishing shared beliefs and expectations. This helps to strengthen family cohesion and common goals.
Time and interaction: Create meaningful time for family interaction, such as dinner, outdoor activities, or shared interests. Such interactions help to increase the sense of connection and intimacy between family members.
Support and respect: Support and respect each other's feelings and needs in the family. Encourage family members to support and help each other to create a warm, supportive, and safe environment.
Conflict Resolution and Cooperation: Teach family members positive conflict resolution skills and encourage them to handle disagreements and conflicts in a cooperative and understanding manner. Foster a sense of shared responsibility and cooperation.
Healthy lifestyle: Encourage family members to pursue a healthy lifestyle together, including a good diet, moderate exercise, and adequate rest. A shared focus on physical and mental health.
Cultivating intimacy: Invest time and effort in nurturing close family relationships. Family members can be supportive, caring, and respectful of each other, creating deep and meaningful connections.
Coping with challenges and changes: The family is a dynamic system that faces a variety of challenges and changes. Help family members build resilience and coping strategies to cope with changes and difficulties in life.
Seek professional support: If the family is experiencing serious mental health issues or relationship conflicts, seek support from a professional counsellor or family therapist. They can provide guidance and help families get out of difficult situations.
Family psychological construction is a long-term and comprehensive process, which requires the joint efforts and continuous attention of family members. By establishing a positive family environment and healthy family relationships, mental health and well-being of family members can be promoted.
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Because the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the family have a significant other person in common, they also constitute another kind of intimate relationship, that is, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship. If mothers, sons, and daughters-in-law want to manage their relationships well, they must first and foremost define their goals.
The mother's goal is to want her son to live a good life and be happy, and this core goal must be well clarified. Be sure to avoid doing bad things with good intentions in your interactions with your son and daughter-in-law, or just blindly trying to satisfy your emotions. For example, if something doesn't matter, they will be better, then leave it alone.
If you still have to care, it is to only pay attention to your own emotions, which is a bit selfish. Of course, if it is because it is not respected, you can make your own demands to your son and daughter-in-law.
As a son, you must be filial, not just foolish. For example, a distressed mother can't be built on the basis of sacrificing her daughter-in-law, and her daughter-in-law didn't do it, so don't blame it. The daughter-in-law should respect the old man and love the old man.
The mother's nurturing grace is that the son wants to pay it back, not the daughter-in-law, and she can't feel that she is morally kidnapped when she is a family with her daughter-in-law, let alone say that her mother has suffered before, and the daughter-in-law must also empathize.
As a daughter-in-law, you must see that your future happiness is the happiness of your current mother-in-law. Because the way you treat your mother-in-law now is the way your daughter-in-law will treat you in the future. From a certain point of view, you are her heir and heir in this family.
Therefore, her good experience should be passed on.
Family is a place to give. The psychological construction of the family should start from the psychological quality of the family, and see what kind of mental and rational quality the family members need to have, so as to resolve the problem, rather than simply judging who is right and who is wrong. Because the experience of each family member is different, and there is no right or wrong experience, it is only related to the level of mental health.
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First of all, let me share my personality traits with my father, Dad's personality is cheerful and lively, the point is in the left center, and the emotion is more rational, its form is extroversion, real feeling, emotion, dependence. My own personality traits are cautious and cautious, and my personality forms are extroverted, intuitive, emotional, and dependent. From the perspective of personality form, we are all extroverted people, more inclined to say, always want to express ourselves, energy ** crowd, and prefer to participate in some daily friends gatherings, dinners.
At the same time, we are also two emotional people, that dad is emotional and rational, by observing the daily behavior of dad is more inclined to reason, rational people are usually right things, and emotional people are right people, so when we face the same event, dad can generally rationally analyze the process of things and draw conclusions;
The same is a dependent character, independence or dependence is mainly a manifestation of the difference in lifestyle, independent people have to be in order to do everything? When you ask him to go to a meeting and don't tell him the time and steps of the meeting, then he will feel that the meeting is meaningless. In response to this problem, the person who relies on it, he will feel that it is so serious, why should he do this?
This is the conflict of **? Because dependent people like to do last-minute fights. Well, its habitual action is to look for something.
The last difference is that Dad is a real sensitive, and I am intuitive, from the point of view of the spine of the sun, Dad's sensitivity will be relatively low, and my sensitivity will be relatively high, so there is often such a conflict in daily life, well, I feel more that I feel good to do well, then for real people, he is more concerned about the present, and because of low sensitivity, so, Min Kai Ma often says hurtful language to me without knowing it, but he will feel that it is just a joke. The shape of the brain of men and women is different, men are left-brained rational brains, women are left-brain rational and emotional brains are rational and emotional brains respectively, scattered thinking, I think no matter what it is, as long as I tell him, I am the one who lies flat.
No matter what kind of personality combination, I think everything is the best arrangement, we say that there is no good or bad personality, only difference.
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