How do I continue to socialize? 50

To be honest, you will say this to prove that you still haven't understood that "society will not pity me, only I will become stronger, and I will no longer feel sorry for myself." This sentence. The fact that you ask such childish questions online proves that you are still in excessive fear and low self-esteem.

Dealing with relationships, no matter who you are dealing with or what method you use. First and foremost, the most basic point is that your heart should be strong, and you should be strong enough to serve the naturalness of the person itself, such as when you are alone, you always want to have friends to care about, you are afraid of loneliness and being ignored, and so on. From the heart, everyone will have the above feelings, just say that your own heart should be strong, don't care about being lonely, don't be afraid of not having friends to accompany you.

Once you get through these, you won't care too much about other people's feelings and thoughts. People do have to be appropriately tactful, but don't deliberately change your personality for the sake of so-called interpersonal relationships, it's completely unnecessary. If you deliberately care about others like this, you are complicating interpersonal thinking.

Don't think about what others pity you, the more frustrated you are, the more you have to be strong (strong), just like a saying, life is like an angry bird, when you fail, there are always a few pigs laughing, there are many people who are those pigs, when you fail, always show weakness and cowardice to absorb the sympathy of others to solve things, in fact, many people are weak and cowardly, the more they look down on you. And now you want to find comfort on the Internet, you are still taking a detour.

You're only 24 years old, don't forget to have a normal career plan for at least 20 years. When you look at the people in society who have cars and houses, if you calmly observe, most people (no background, general education) are only about 35 years old, and they will not reach the peak of their achievements until they are 40 years old. So you're only 24 years old, and nothing is normal right now.

If you want to become famous in two years after graduation, then China has already become a developed country.

If you want to get professional answers, you can talk to a psychologist. However, from the perspective of ordinary people, I want to say to you that the divorce of your parents does not mean that you are ashamed, you should correct your mentality, encourage yourself, discover your own strengths, and don't only take into account the feelings of others when making friends with others, friends should be equal, and the same is true when you fall in love. As for simplicity, it was originally an advantage but in today's society, it has been distorted into a disadvantage by materialistic ideology, in fact, a simple girl is very valuable, but you need to make yourself simple and strong, I think you are too inferior now, too unconfident, and lack of parental care.

But at the age of 24, it's never too late to do anything, you're still so young, I hope you can adjust your mentality, get rid of the shadow of your family, and live your own life.

Come on, don't be afraid of making mistakes, you can find it again if the job is gone, and you can never find it back if your friends are gone! The road is your own, as long as you pay sincerely, even if you are treated coldly, you feel that you have a clear conscience. Be cheerful, don't be afraid of being hurt, I actually have a similar experience to you, I know this feeling, as long as you care about your friends in subtleties, as long as you don't care too much, they will always be moved by you, work hard, and the boss will always reuse you, which is also a good exercise, isn't it?

It's not too late, if you can self-reflect, it means that you are very sober, maybe you lack some love, an object to talk to.

Two words for you: self-confidence. Be confident in yourself, have confidence in others, and be confident in yourself.

I've also suffered in this regard, I understand your feelings very well, in fact, it doesn't matter if you don't have friends, as long as you try to have no enemies, because friends are also hard to find, not that you are good to others, others will remember your good (I deeply understand this), many people just love to bully people like you who are weak and inferior, society is like this, human nature is so. When you first come into contact, you must not dig out your heart and lungs, no one can afford such a person, because knowing a person too well will sow the seeds of disrespect. If someone offends you, then you must respond verbally (with the exception of your boss) so that these people will no longer dare to be rude to you.

You must know that many people are bullying the weak and afraid of the hard, and if you are stronger than him, he will naturally retreat. After a long time of understanding, if you are really good, then you must cherish it, treat it sincerely, and be a lifelong friend, because there are too few such people.

If you want to deal with interpersonal relationships well, first, you must learn to respect others and respect each other, so that two people will be willing to make friends with each other, so a person who will respect others will not lack friends around this person, and his interpersonal relationship will not be bad.

Second, we must learn to be tolerant, tolerant of others, people are not sages, who can do no fault, when others make mistakes, we should get along with him with appropriate tolerance, if a person is always pursuing some inconsequential small mistakes, such a person is no one wants to contact him, no one wants to be friends with this kind of person.

Third, be honest, don't deceive friends, treat friends loyally, no one wants the person around them to be a **.

Fourth, don't harm others and benefit yourself, people directly have a certain degree of interest relationship with each other, and if you want to handle interpersonal relationships well, you can't do things that harm others and benefit yourself. By doing the above four points, I believe that your interpersonal relationships will not be bad. Everyone needs to be heard, so being a friendly listener will make you a welcome person.

Being a good listener can gain the understanding and trust of the other party, and most importantly, it will make the other person feel the existence of their own value.

Educator Dale Carnegie said, "Being an audience is often more important than being a speaker." Listening attentively to others is the greatest respect, care and praise we give them. ”

Being good at listening is not just listening, but requires you to listen attentively, empathize with the person who speaks, fully mobilize your existing knowledge, experience and feelings, respond to the other person's conversation, and achieve emotional communication with the other person.

Listening is both a skill and a competency, and it is one of the ways to enhance one's personal charm. People who know how to listen are more likely to build a large network and win hearts and minds. As long as each of us pays attention to the cultivation of listening skills in our daily work and life, learns to listen, and is good at listening, you will be able to be more comfortable in your work and career.

Interpersonal communication should first be open-minded and good at accepting others and oneself. Don't lose time in giving praise to others. However, it is important to be careful not to exaggerate, which will cause people to have a sense of hypocrisy and lose the trust of others.

Again, master the art of talking to people. When talking to someone, listen carefully to what they have to say and give appropriate feedback. Attentive listening represents understanding and acceptance, and is a bridge to the heart.

When expressing one's own thoughts, we should pay attention to being subtle, humorous, concise, and vivid. Implicit not only shows your self-cultivation, but also plays a role in avoiding differences, explaining opinions, and not hurting the relationship between the head and the child. Humor is the spice of language, it makes conversations lively and interesting.

Brevity requires mastering what to say and not to say when talking to people. When talking to people, you must be emotionally invested, so that you can move people with emotion. It's vivid.

Of course, to master the skills of expressing oneself, we need to continue to practice, and constantly increase one's cultural accomplishment and broaden one's horizons.

Summary. Hello, I can relate to your anxiety, many people will feel that the most difficult thing to be born as a human being is not to make a living, but to socialize. But in fact, interpersonal relationships are not complicated, just read these unspoken rules.

Hello, I'm going to transfer to another place, and I don't know how to fit into a new group.

Hello, I can relate to your anxiety, many people will feel that the most difficult thing to be born as a human being is not to make a living, but to socialize. But in fact, interpersonal relationships are not complicated, just read these unspoken rules.

1. Praise people behind their backs, get twice the result with half the effort and let people accept praise in an indirect way, which not only avoids face-to-face embarrassment, but also amplifies the effect of praise. Insisting on complimenting others behind your back can have unexpected effects on your interpersonal interactions.

2. The circles are different, there is no need to force ourselves to integrate into the circle we don't like for the sake of so-called interpersonal communication, do our part, and strive to make ourselves better, which is enough.

3. When everyone communicates with others, his expressions and actions will convey a lot of information to the other party. Observing words and emotions is an indispensable skill in interpersonal communication, and it is also the key to winning the favor of others.

4. Interpersonal communication is not as complicated as we imagined, in fact, people get along with each other, and they all exchange sincerity for sincerity. If you are good to each other, the other person will be good to you.

Heart-to-heart and heart-to-heart, this is the best way to communicate with people.

Okay, thank you for your hard work.

Finally, I hope that you will integrate into the new group as soon as possible, so that everyone can get along with you as the most comfortable person, drink and talk, and talk about everything. <>