How to give up your obsession? How to give up this obsession?

Obsession is the idea of not wanting to give up, it is a wish to be achieved, I don't think I have to let go of the obsession, because it is very difficult, it is also very uncomfortable, and it will be a lifetime regret if it is not handled well. If this obsession is wrong and not worth it, then there is no need to persevere, learn to look down, divert your attention, people's energy is limited, if it is occupied by other more things, there will be no free time to think about it, learn to forget, do something positive and happy, time will help you lose unwanted things or unnecessary emotions. If this obsession is reasonable and meaningful, or it may never be realized, we may consider letting go or choosing to continue, everything is from the heart, I should choose to let go, and it may be easier to let go of a little obsession, there is no obsession that you can't let go, but whether you want to let go or not.

"I have doubts about this unwritten rule, because when a boy and a girl appear on the same traits, romance must follow," Miyazaki said. Instead, I wanted to depict a slightly different kind of relationship, one that motivates each other's lives.

If I could, then maybe I would be closer to portraying the true expression of love. ”

I've become so obsessed with this that I can even let go of any other request and just ask for it, but it's not so easy to find in this day and age. I firmly believe that only in this state can there be a good intimacy.

I believe that you also think that my conclusion is very reasonable and very reasonable, and you will also feel that my request is very special, very rare, and our one-sidedness with each other is exposed here. I'm going to talk about how I let go of this obsession.

Lifelong learning and lifelong growth are of course great advantages, and in today's society, how many people pay attention to inner growth, which will still have a strong attraction to me, but I no longer have requirements for this.

I know that the probability of casualness is getting worse and worse, it's true, and it will eventually be distorted. At this time, it needs to be commanded by reason, and reason exists only to fulfill the needs of sensibility, because fundamentally human beings are emotional animals.

Life is mostly emotional, pure rational life is like a person without flesh and blood, and seeing flowers and trees are also full of carbon, hydrogen, oxygen, nitrogen and sulfur, I don't think we will like it.

Good intimacy is relaxed, uncompulsory, unconditional, and non-satisfying. The so-called these, like thorns, pierce into the flesh of the partner and end up destroying a relationship. Most of the dissatisfaction between couples is also the failure of the other party to do what we think we should do according to their own requirements.

Taking a step back, "what I think" isn't all that important, and it's not necessarily true.

Incomprehension, suspicion, and one's own psychological defects are all factors that destroy feelings. Although lifelong learning can solve this problem, it should not be a requirement, we have 10,000 reasons to trust our judgment, but it should never be imposed on the partner, she has her charm, her tenderness, her beauty, then we stimulate it, appreciate it, keep it good. All roads lead to Rome, so why bother with this road.

The change of concept is a matter of consciousness, and it is necessary to constantly observe oneself, deny oneself, and verify oneself. This is the foundation for my change, and it is also the source of continuous self-improvement, so that we can meet a better version of ourselves.

When we have an obsession in our hearts, it is difficult to truly relax and enjoy life. Here are some tips to help you let go of your inner obsessions:

1.Recognize the negative effects of obsession. Knowing that obsessions can bring negative effects such as anxiety and insomnia can make it easier for you to let go of your obsessions.

2.Ask for help. Talk to friends, family or professionals, listen to their advice and support, and ease your worries by empathizing or solving problems.

3.Practice meditation or yoga to relax and unwind. Through meditation or yoga, you can learn to let go of control, achieve the effect of relaxation, and relieve the distress of obsession.

4.Set small goals to make a difference. Start small, set some small goals to break obsessions, gradually go to bed early, wake up early, adjust your mentality, and achieve inner peace.

5.Admit that your obsession is uncontrollable and try your best to let go. You can't control everything, and obsession takes time and effort to relax, work hard to do it, and let go as much as possible.

This story happened to a friend of mine.

My friend fell in love with a girl in his class when he was in college, and he thought that this girl was very beautiful, smart, and kind, and the two had very similar interests. So he began to approach the girl through various channels, taking the initiative to chat with her, do projects together, participate in activities together, etc., but the girl didn't seem to have much interest and response to him.

My friend didn't give up, he felt that he had a lot in common with the girl, and he would impress her in various ways, such as often giving her small gifts, helping her with things, and often following her on social ** and giving comments.

But the girl has always kept a certain distance from him, and has not given him any clear response.

My friend started to feel frustrated, he felt like he had given a lot, but the girl remained cold and cold to him. One day, Tsukiko made it clear to him that she didn't like him and hoped that he would give up the pursuit. My friend was very sad and lost, but he decided to respect the girl's decision and give up the pursuit.

This experience made my friend see his own shortcomings and shortcomings, and he began to reflect on his own behavior, and also learned to let go of obsessions and entanglements and start a new life.

Although the experience was painful, it also allowed him to grow a lot, become more mature and respectful of the wishes of others.

I like the boy at the back table in junior high school, although more than ten years have passed, although I have talked about a few boyfriends later, there is no boy like him who has always been remembered, he is always in the depths of my heart, I will turn him out from time to time, and think about it carefully.

It's ridiculous to say that I didn't talk to him very often in junior high school, and his grades were so good that I wouldn't even think to ask him questions, so there was zero communication between us, and there was no spark of love.

When I was silently in unrequited love, I was stupid and awkward, and when he sent me a message inviting me to a class reunion, I was so happy, and then I pretended to reply with an "oh" word, and later...I didn't know most of my classmates well, so I still didn't go to the party.

After going to high school, his grades have always been very good, in the best high school in the city, the best class, and my grades are mediocre, only in the city's ordinary high school, three years of high school, although he is not in the same school, but during the holidays, he will see if his QQ avatar is **, whether he is dynamic and laughing, pay close attention to the news of their school, sports meetings, parties, etc., and then find clues about him.

Time flies, and in the blink of an eye we all graduated from college and are both working, in different cities, in different fields. Now we are just an avatar lying in each other's WeChat friend circle, and I will occasionally post work updates, while he has basically never posted any updates in the past two years.

But after so many years, I still think of him from time to time, and even meet someone who looks similar to him, and I will have a moment of trance Maybe it is because of his excellent academic performance, average appearance, great sports, artistic cells, and a good personality, so I felt that he was perfect when I was young, and I also regarded him as a template for "ideal boyfriend". If you really want to forget, then you might as well meet again, have a profound imitation of the mountain Han exchange, when you find that the concept and personality of the two people are not the same, maybe you will let go of this so-called "obsession".