Does my husband calculate that my family doesn t love me

It is good for a husband and wife relationship to trust each other. There is a rift between the two of them, and they don't trust each other, which is a very painful thing for both of them. When the two of them haven't broken this protective film of trust, please stop taking good care of it, once he is meaningless broken for some trivial things, it is difficult to repair, it will cause a lot of misunderstandings because of mutual suspicion and distrust, and the two torture each other painfully.

Buying a house is a good thing, maybe his family's conditions are indeed not too good, or he feels that on this basis, he is a big man and really can't bear to ask for money from his family. In fact, don't be too upset as you, you have to understand him, as a man, he doesn't want his family to be his strong backer, if he wants money, money, power, and power, he can take it with his hand, and he has more face in front of his wife and father-in-law. But the reality is that the conditions of the old father and mother are not very good.

Your husband said that he borrowed your parents' money, not to coax you to coax your parents' money, but that he came forward and said to borrow, this is a man's responsibility, from this point you don't have to think wildly, you, the dual identity of both a daughter and a wife, only need to do two things: first, please ask your parents to give you how much to be sensible, but also to do what you can, consider the future life security of their elderly. Second, make it clear what you give and what you lend, what you give is given free of charge, and what you lend needs to be repaid, and you must take the initiative to give an IOU to the elderly, which is the real guarantee for the elderly to you.

Even if there is anything in the future, this money can also be guaranteed through the support of the court. In this way, you guess that your husband's calculations have been solved, and you have solved it. If the old people on both sides don't get much, you can borrow more, and you mainly rely on yourself to live.

Whether it is calculated or not depends on the actual situation, for example, your lover's family background is really not good, and as an adult, he doesn't want to ask his parents for money anymore, so he will think like this to you and want to solve the problem by borrowing. You can put forward your opinion, but there is no need to consider him in this way, if you really consider it in this way, it means that you are calculating, and there is no trust in the relationship between you, even if you buy a house, there will definitely be other considerations.

I think this needs to be judged from your husband's usual performance, if the house is written in the names of both of you, it is okay for both parties to take some money, if only his own name is written, I think the problem is still up for discussion, you think about it yourself.

He didn't ask his parents if it was because his parents were in difficulty? If so, you should understand that this aspect also reflects that your husband's income is not very high, and he does not have the confidence to repay those debts. If you buy a house and buy it with debt, you will become a house slave, and you two will have to think twice about the long days ahead.

Since the down payment is not enough, you can consider borrowing a loan, and then repay the loan slowly after the house problem is solved, don't think that he is calculating because your husband wants to get more money from your parents, the landlord thinks twice, hope!

If you invest in buying a house, you have to take a good look at it, and buying a house with us is a loss of money, unless you can see a big project appreciate in a few years.

Eh, every family has a scripture that is difficult to read.

First of all, make sure that the other party calculates what method you use and what his purpose is. Then according to his ideas, the best way is to meet the moves.

Because if your husband wants to calculate you, he must have his purpose, such as wanting to divorce you, for example, wanting to make you feel bad, or wanting you to pay something else, this is his real purpose.

So you can pretend not to know first, and then use his relaxed vigilance against you to find out what kind of state he is in with you. In this way, you will be able to get a better idea of what he thinks.

When you know what the other person is thinking, so that you can pinch the other person when he is thinking and doing things, you can let yourself know, and you can also master it better.

And when it's time to let go, you must choose to let go, that is to say, you should know what your husband calculates what you want to do, and if he really has that kind of particularly bad thoughts, then you shouldn't have too much nostalgia.

Because the emotional argument is that if two people are good, then they naturally need to be treated in the best way, but if two people have a bad relationship, then it is best to separate.

So when your husband calculates you, you don't have to think too much, if not, both of them should separate as soon as possible, and each can find their own lives, there is no need to make the relationship between the two people very stiff, but there is no need to wronged yourself and the other party.

Because you have to know that when your husband often calculates you when he does something, it means that he doesn't have much love for you anymore. And when the other party has no love for you, it is useless for you to do more wrong things yourself, and many times it is not you who pay more to be the better result.

So if your husband calculates you, you must know what he thinks, what his purpose is to carry the bridge shed, and when it is decided, when you and your husband have some bad problems, there is no show of love between each other. So this time should be separated as soon as possible.

When you don't have feelings for each other, it's better to separate as soon as possible. Because if you don't choose to separate at this time, there will be more and more problems between you in the future. When you find that there are many problems, you may be quite conflicted, so it is better to relax some feelings as soon as possible, maybe you will make yourself happier and find a better love.

Preferred, I think it's not the same thing to buy a house only from ** to find money, and to love you or not.

From the information you provided:

His family is average, at least not particularly wealthy.

In this case, you already own a house and in a sense have fulfilled his ideal (or purpose). So he was not motivated to buy a second house.

He is a more faceless person and doesn't want to ask his parents for nothing. Because it is very likely that the family does not have or does not give it, it is a little embarrassing to ask for it.

I think you have to think about it:

Why do you want to buy two sets, is it an investment or a necessity to improve the living environment to buy two sets.

If so, does the repayment process affect your life?

After you think it through, you can communicate with him well.

It is recommended that both parties take half, let him take as much as you take, and repay the loan together.