My boyfriend and I have been in love for three years, but my parents are strongly against it, what s

Updated on psychology 2024-02-09
22 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Your parents are stopping you now, just because they want you to marry well and live a better life in the future, after all, they can't be with you for a lifetime, so they are afraid that you will not be good in the future, so they will oppose you now, a man who can't let you live a happy life in their eyes. But first of all, you have to see not only whether this man loves you, but also whether he is an ambitious person, if he just loves you, but does not pay attention to the career at all, then I hope you don't lose your life, after all, only love without bread is not able to live, or think carefully about it; If he is also very attentive in his career, it doesn't matter, not being good at the beginning does not mean that it will never get better, as long as he is attentive, the money is earned back by people, and his life can be slowly improved, so take advantage of it.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Does your boyfriend have the potential for social collision if he is a strong person to survive. Even if you are poor now, you are undoubtedly the future lady of so-and-so. If he doesn't have any ambitions, even if he does, it's just between the two of you, and you can consider living a mediocre life.

    To truly understand someone, the length of time is a factor, but not a real reason to love someone. If there is an element of accommodation or just a concerted effort to break down the resistance, you may be ignoring other aspects of it. If so, consider breaking up.

    I mean, as a man, these things are up to him. If he doesn't have the courage to make up his mind to confess to his future parents, on the one hand, he lacks confidence in himself, and on the other hand, I think he has concerns about whether he will really be united with you.

    Many men, "duplicity", just don't want to end up with disloyalty. Even if you do, his and your parents' complaints will grow day by day. Will you be happy?

    I hope that through my above suggestions, I hope to think about whether there is any point in continuing to have a relationship. Anyone's claims are just a reference, including your parents.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Only your own choice will not make you regret it! Do you understand?

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Decide for yourself so you won't regret it! Consider whether this person is worth living a life of betrayal? You should also think about what your parents think, after all, your parents are the best relatives in the world!

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Put your hand on it and you might compare.

    My heart may not hurt anymore.

    The cruelty of reality is even more terrifying than these.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    First ask yourself if you really love him, if not, it doesn't matter!

    If so, I advise you to respect your parents not for a lifetime, you should know how to control your own destiny, and it is not easy for a person to meet a few people who truly love themselves in his life!!

  7. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    To be a door-to-door son-in-law, is he willing?

  8. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Marriage is a pair of shoes, and you know if they fit or not.

    What do you think of it yourself?

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    What Bad Shu said makes a lot of sense

    Parents can't resist their children, the key lies in your own ideas

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    It is highly recommended to look at love more**, hehe, maybe it will help you a lot.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    Tell your boyfriend to work harder, family conditions can be changed, as for the zodiac, you can give examples to prove that your mother's feudal thinking is serious.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    If you also love him, continue to persevere with him, because the human heart is not made of stone, I believe that one day you can be together forever, grow old together, I bless you in advance!

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    Have you ever wanted to give up? You don't really love him, you just stay with him because he's good. Please don't hurt a man who loves you deeply.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Although love is very beautiful, but in love should always remain rational, if a relationship, can not get the blessing of both parents, then such love, there is no need to stick to it. It's a pity, but it's better to let yourself go sooner rather than be miserable. You must know that falling in love is a matter of two people, and marriage is a matter of two families, so you must weigh the pros and cons.

    When the relationship is opposed by the man's parents and has been together for 7 years, this matter must be treated according to the situation. If it is because the marriage issue has not been negotiated, then it should be communicated well. If the man's parents are dissatisfied with the woman for unknown reasons, then in this case, they should say goodbye in time.

    You must know that a girl's youth is very beautiful, and there are not many 7 years in her life. If the relationship you are in love does not work out, then you should let go in time. If the girl asks too much because the parties are talking about marriage, such as the bride price, then in this case, the parties can negotiate with each other.

    After all, it is a life with a boy, as long as your boyfriend is self-motivated and ambitious, you can communicate again. <>

    If the man's parents maliciously oppose or simply oppose the relationship, then in this case, they should break up in time. Because in this case, even if a girl marries into this family, she will suffer a lot of grievances. Because for an unreasonable mother-in-law, there is no reason at all.

    Rather than having no dignity after marriage, it is better to let go decisively before marriage. If it is because the disparity between the families of the two parties is too large, or they are not the right person, then in this case, it depends on the individual's wishes. <>

    First of all, it is necessary to clearly understand that if there is too much difference in the basic conditions of two people, it will lead to no common topic between the two parties. And there may always be quarrels in the life after marriage, in this case, the marriage will not be happy. And in this case, you must listen to your parents' advice, after all, your parents are from the past, and there are still a lot of things you have experienced.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    Communicate well, if your boyfriend is very protective of you and is willing to live separately from your parents, you can also try to insist, if it doesn't work or the opposition is too loud, it is recommended that you think about it, after marriage, it may be more cruel than you think.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    Let's separate. No matter what the situation is, your parents will not harm you, so sometimes we have to think from the perspective of our parents.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    You should know why your parents don't like your boyfriend, then you should think about whether your boyfriend is really so unreliable, if so, then you listen to them, otherwise, you listen to yourself.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    When you are opposed by your parents, don't talk back or turn against your parents, but calmly analyze the relationship. I have a cousin, before his wife married him, the woman's parents also resolutely disagreed, and the woman's parents cried before the marriage, but the woman was determined not to marry my cousin, and now she is still married! Therefore, it is recommended that you communicate calmly with your parents first, so that your parents can slowly recognize your boyfriend, after all, everyone wants their love to be blessed, especially the blessing of their own family.

    You can mention your boyfriend's goodness more in front of your parents, and then look at your parents' reactions, if your parents have something loose, you can occasionally take your man home and let him behave well. Your man is really good to you, and if you insist on it, your parents will be relieved. Carefully observe and think about why your parents oppose the relationship, find out what the problem is, and then explain your parents' concerns.

    Impress them emotionally and show your boyfriend's strengths.

    Although parents want their children to be happy, they don't know what kind of happiness their children want. Women just want to find a person who is wholeheartedly good to them for a lifetime, and there will be temporary opposition from parents, because the love you find is not designed for you by them, and you are not moving forward on their tracks, but in the battle of love, as long as you persist and hold the confidence to win, in the end you win family affection and love.

    Parents will always be your parents, and the person you love now is the only one in your life. As long as he is positive and has no problem with his character, it is worth your persistence. Today, just today, I have encountered such a problem, but I choose to persevere.

    Let your boyfriend work hard with you! Let your parents witness that your love is not easy to come by. I believe we will all succeed, bless you.

    Don't say how much you love each other, no one can do without whom, and how deep your feelings are. The more you say that, the more your parents think you are naïve and impulsive. Skip all of that and talk about your plans for the future.

    Tell them how you plan to live a stable life on what you already have, what you are working towards, and how you plan to make your life better. The purpose of saying this is to reassure your parents about you.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    I think we should break up, because a marriage without the blessing of my parents will not be very happy at all.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    You should listen to some parents and think carefully about the meaning of this relationship. If you think it's worth it, you can continue the relationship.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    The love that your parents oppose, you should work harder, and then slowly convince your parents that this love is worth being together, and slowly let your parents affirm the two of you.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    Shouldn't.

    First of all, let's be clear: the love that the man's parents opposed, basically failed to get married in the end. The love that the woman's parents opposed basically became in the end.

    Analysis: Generally speaking, the reasons for the disagreement of the woman's parents are basically related to the man's poor family conditions and the man's own poor strength. And these two points, if the man can show enough sincerity and show enough ability, such as hard work, hard-working and other qualities, and future development potential, etc., the woman's parents can see a acceptable future, and finally the woman's parents have the possibility of relenting.

    More importantly, in love, girls are more blind than boys. They are more likely to look at love and ignore whether other objective conditions are suitable. Even if the boy fails to meet the above conditions, the girl will still be stupid and stupid, work hard, and insist on marrying the person she loves despite the opposition of her parents.

    The reason for the opposition of the man's parents, in most cases, the woman cannot solve it by her own efforts. For example, the woman's family is a drag, the education is too low, the work is not decent, the age is old, the appearance is low, the height is short, etc. These shortcomings, girls basically have no way to lift like boys, and rely on improving their economic strength in the later stage to make up for them.

    At the same time, compared with girls, boys are more realistic and pay more attention to weighing the pros and cons. When it comes to marriage, they don't just think about love.

    Therefore, many of the love that the female Zhengzhi and Fang's parents opposed, have entered into marriage. And the love that the man's parents oppose, and the one who can enter into marriage, is very few.

    This very small number of examples, I think, may be realized basically that the boy likes this girl very much, loves this girl, and does not hesitate to fight for her and his family. In reality, very few boys can do it.

    Back to the subject's example, although I don't know what your boyfriend's family is dissatisfied with you, can you correct it and make up for it. But I know your boyfriend doesn't love you much.

    If he loves you extremely strongly, he will tell you that although his parents do not accept you, he will not give up on you and that he is willing to give you a home with his own efforts. If you say yes, then then, when it comes to gaining support from his family or confronting him, he is your ally, and you can walk side by side.

    In the worst case, you end up without the support of both parents, and you can also get the certificate on your own and become a legal couple. Since he didn't say that, and has already proposed a breakup to you, it shows that under the pressure of his family, he weighed it and chose to give up. He has given up on you, and there is no point in your redemption.

    Because in this case, even if you try, the probability of you being able to recover is extremely low.

    The smaller the probability, you have succeeded in redeeming it. But the previous problem has not been solved, he does not love you enough to help you overcome family resistance and lead you into marriage. So you're still going to break up.

    To sum up, let it go, girl. Keep moving forward and look for someone who is a better fit. His family likes you, your family accepts him, and your union can be supported and blessed by both parents. This is the tone of a happy marriage.

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