I m not a father lover plot, I suspect that I have a father love plot! What is the usual performance

I think you can try extra girl dating, do you think of yourself as a man?

Hello、2.Psychological research has found that there are two trajectories in the formation of father-love complex: one is that father-love complex mostly appears in families where father and daughter are dependent on each other, or father-daughter is too close and mother-daughter is not close enough, which is an objective environmental reason.

The second is that the personality of the paternal complex is mostly introverted, and most of them are squeamish, brutal, and willful, which is the reason for the subjective personality. The crux of the father-lover complex is that the daughter is unable to achieve psychological separation from the father, and even some daughters are adults and still ask to sleep in the same bed with their father, the result is often very bad, not only will hinder the normal interaction between the girl and the man of the same age and even marriage and love, even after marriage, the relationship between the husband and wife is difficult to deepen; It will also affect the father's marriage, and it may also lead to family tragedy.

3.Traumatic experiences.

Girls who lose their father's love prematurely often transfer their feelings for their father to a certain character in reality, who becomes a substitute for their father, but he is different from his father. Under the aura effect of the father, the image of "him" often becomes taller and becomes an irreplaceable "love saint", enshrined in the depths of the girl's memory. Because "he" is closely associated with a specific period, and that period is unforgettable for girls, invisibly, the latecomers will always make girls feel that they lack resonance.

4.Insecurity.

The loss of either parent during childhood can seriously undermine a child's sense of security. The most direct response to insecurity is the aggravation of defensiveness, often rejecting or avoiding all uncertain factors.

"Complex" is not equal to "love", but ignorant girls can't tell the difference, so the special emotions in adolescence become "Canghai Sea" or "Wushan Cloud", which overshadows the feelings afterward. As Sang Yu said, she doesn't really want to stay in a single state, but love seems to be knotted, and it can't be straightened out, let alone marriage. If you want to "break out of the cocoon", you can only unravel the complex first.

The father-lover and mother-lover complex are the same, but don't worry about it, it will slowly change when you grow up, and if you really can't stand it anymore, and it hasn't changed, most women will choose a person with a personality or appearance like their father to marry, and they will generally forget it when they grow up.

When a girl grows up, she is never able to achieve psychological separation from her father, and as a result, her relationship with her mother is estranged, and her normal interactions with men of the same age and even marriage and love are often seriously affected. Such girls are always looking for father-like lovers, consciously or unconsciously, but even if they do, getting along will become a problem, because father-loving girls are mostly introverted, squeamish, and willful, and often have sexual resistance.

I myself think that it is personal selfishness, I don't want others to share my father's love, and I am afraid that my father will care less about me because of others.

The paternity complex generally occurs in girls.

Such a girl has a special affection for her father, and feels that only her father is the most perfect man in the world.

The reason for this situation is basically that the relationship between family members is not well grasped, which causes a lot of misunderstandings for children.

A lot of dependence on the father and the treatment of boys is also a manifestation of this family-oriented.

I like to be older than myself and want to have physical contact with him.

It is that in your mind, you will pursue the opposite sex who is older than you1

Haven't you heard that a daughter is a lover of her father's last life?

。。。Girls are a bit dependent on others, don't be cranky, really.

No, the father is dependent and only dependent.

I like mature people and hate my mother.

Stick to your dad like you want to stick to your boyfriend.

Very dependent on ...... father or something0 0

I guess you must have a good relationship with your father.

Well, I don't think so, people say the same about me.

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Visually, I like to be of the same type as my father.

Categories: Medical & Health >> Psychiatry.

Problem description: I have a big crush on men who are 10 or 20 years older than me. I can't extricate myself from the feeling of dependence. But I don't depend on my father.

Because at a young age, his father betrayed his mother. My mother has never divorced me for the sake of me as a young child (now I'm 18 years old). But I was very lacking in fatherly love.

I crave that dependence. But when I see my father, I am sick. Now he regrets it and goes home often (once a week), but I am indifferent to his return.

I hate him as long as I think of him leaving my young mother and me to go out looking for women, and even beating my mother for wild women. Mom now forgot about it and forgave him. But I never will.

I was very miserable because of the lack of fatherly love, and I fell in love with my teacher, who was 16 years older than me. (I'm in high school now).I know it's very pure and wrong, but I can't help myself.

I don't want to see a psychiatrist, first, I don't have the courage, and I've been there before, and I spent thousands of dollars, but it didn't work. I was very sad. I'm 2 years old now, and I'm afraid it will seriously affect my studies.

Because my dependence and expectation on him are getting deeper and deeper. I may fall. What am I going to do?

I told my mom about it, but she didn't care, thinking I was still young. But I was in a lot of pain. I fought all the pressure on my own, and I couldn't resist it anymore.

I don't want to destroy the teacher's home, I don't want to love him, but what should I do? I've heard enough of those who study hard and focus on their studies, or you're still young, and you'll meet better when you grow up. But I'm sure that in the current situation, in college or society, I will still like mature men who are so much older than me.

Alas. Analysis: Love and hate are always so close that they can't be separated.

The father's "wild woman" took away the mother's husband and the daughter's father. You hate her.

But whether the "wild woman" exists in reality, you can't effectively vent your hatred for her. So, you need someone you can hate and vent your hate.

How can I find this object most easily? - It is to turn yourself into a person you hate. Little girl, have you noticed that you are trying to get down the path of the "wild woman"? Your current pain is the result of your deep hatred for yourself.

Little girl, you are fighting with yourself, and the loss of love makes you angry, and the object of this anger is being played by yourself.

It is an indisputable fact that your father hurt you. But life is often more complicated than people imagine, maybe my father has his own hardships and reasons. Little girl, hate comes from love, and love can also come from hate.

When you are able to give up your hatred for your father, you will find that you too will be freed from the mire of pain, your mother did it, can you do it?

1.Cultural Thought. History has always had a lot of culture passed down for example, for example, Chinese children have received the ideological education of supporting their parents and being filial to their parents since they were young, so most parents know that their children will come back to be filial to themselves.

2.Welfare mechanisms. Because China's welfare mechanism is not as good as that of foreign countries, when parents are old, they may need to support their children in order to continue to live, like some countries abroad with low birth rates are because the national welfare subsidies are too high, resulting in enough money to support the elderly in their later years and do not need to support their children.

China is different, China does not have such a high welfare package, so you need to have children in your later life.

3.China's educational environment. China's gaokao system is the most cost-effective method of success today.

After three years of hard work, you can be admitted to a good university and have no worries for a lifetime. Because my parents were a little dissatisfied with the college entrance examination, and some didn't even take the college entrance examination, my current work situation is not very good. And their children have not yet taken the college entrance examination, so the child hopes to be admitted to a good university, once admitted to a good university, the life will definitely rise in latitude, and parents will share the benefits.

To what extent?

It is that women like mature men, and the most common example is teacher-student love.

It's just that he has a good impression of men who are older and belong to the same type as his father.

It depends a lot on the love of elders like father's love that cannot be left out.

It is attached to the father, mostly for daughters.