I m in pain, what should I do, what should I do if I m in pain now?

Hello! Anyone will have problems, some people have problems solved, and some people don't. A good attitude is destined for a person's success or not. No matter what we encounter, we should have a good attitude, actively forge ahead, be strong and unyielding.

In life, we will encounter such and such problems, the only person who can change these things is himself, only if he has confidence in himself, you can calmly complete your life road, the road ahead is very long, on the way we have walked in our life, there will be an oasis, there will be wind and sand. Bumpiness and flatness exist at the same time. When encountering setbacks, you must show your own courage and face them bravely.

When you try to face difficulties and pressures, I believe that these difficulties will one day succumb to your feet and face life with a new attitude. Believing in yourself is equivalent to having infinite power.

Also, please think carefully about what is bothering you the most now, and then try to solve them one by one, and finally when everything is solved, you will not be as annoyed as you are now, you will think, "Oh! It turns out that life can be so easy and so beautiful! ”

If you feel that life is very difficult, you can go to the intensive care unit, where people are experiencing a struggle with death.

What is the difference between a person who is not suffering and a dead one?

All human suffering is essentially anger at one's own incompetence! (Wang Xiaobo).

Your current pain comes from your gains and losses in this relationship. In this relationship, you put yourself very low, down to the dust. You always think that you don't deserve this feeling, you always worry that the next moment he will leave you, and you are always in the illusion that this pain is about to happen and you can't extricate yourself.

At the end of the day, your core question is:

Self-awareness, you don't have a clear self-awareness. Who am I and what am I going to do? What can I do? Where do I stand in this society?

If a person does not have a clear sense of self, it is easy to go with the flow under the influence of others or circumstances. Just like you in this relationship, you have lost the ability to think rationally in this relationship. For example, the core question, what is the most important thing in the emotional world of two people?

Is it the physical appearance of an individual? Is it character?

In fact, in an emotion, what we can't part with is actually experience or memory. In the fierce love, it will eventually become a bit of daily life, and in the precipitation of time, it will become a family affection that is constantly parted. Why is it that the longer we spend with someone, the more painful it is when we are separated from him?

Because the present self is actually the present me made up of past experiences (or memories). The self-consciousness of the present individual is formed by the gathering, absorption, and fusion of the consciousness of the books read in the past, the people he has come into contact with, and so on. Separating from him is actually separating the memories you spent with him before, and in essence, it is actually dividing your own consciousness, so the pain will hurt your heart.

When it comes to returning to self-establishment, first of all, it is normal to have low self-esteem. We are not omniscient and omnipotent, and we cannot determine the family circumstances in which we come from. So there will always be some aspects where I will have a gap with the people around me, how do I deal with this gap?

Is this difference innate or acquired? Can I catch up with my acquired efforts? If not, should I embrace it and develop it into other strengths through personal effort?

Low self-esteem is an unavoidable problem for human beings after forming a group society. We need to integrate into the social group in order to live a better life, and we need to find a sense of belonging and security in the social group. But at the same time, we are afraid of being assimilated by the group and losing ourselves completely.

Therefore, the establishment of self is so important, the only way to establish self-confidence is self-confidence, through reading a book, doing a small thing, competent for a job to slowly build self-confidence, only to establish self-confidence, there will be the possibility of self-personality building.

How to communicate correctly between husband and wife. Communicate more, love should be expressed more, it can be in various forms, love needs to be expressed in words, and it also needs to be expressed in action.

Your situation is a bit serious, and even a little psychological.

If not, you can consult a psychologist.

It's not a good thing in the long run and can lead to depression.

It's better to try to adjust and don't think too much about unrealistic things.

Talk to friends more, or go out and do a job too, and after a long time, confidence will come.