Why is it so hard for colleagues to be friends?

It's really hard to be friends with colleagues in the workplaceIf you want to maintain such a colleague relationship, it is best to keep a distance, only in this way can you protect yourself.

There is a good saying,"Rely on your parents at home and your friends when you go outBut the relationship between such a friend and a colleague in the workplace is completely different concepts. It is precisely because of the different environments that this idea will change, everyone can make a lot of bosom friends when they first come into contact with friends, but it is really difficult to make such bosom friends when they step into the workplace.

At work, it is completely the relationship between colleagues, and this title has changed a form, and it can only be completely talked about some things at workIt cannot involve the privacy of the individual。In many cases, dealing with colleagues is completely about getting by on face, which is a perfunctory state, completely relying on one's own ability to contact, there is always a gap between colleagues, and this kind of getting along is really difficult.

At the same time, there is a completely competitive relationship between colleagues, and there is a conflict of interest in this situation. People who have stepped into the workplace have considered such problems, and even some people are not good at communicating, such people will be confused in their work, so that their work does not make much progress at all, and even not much contact with colleagues will eventually lead to resignation.

If you want to maintain a good relationship with your colleagues, you can maintain a neutral state by not crossing this bottom line. At the same time, you can also make some small jokes with colleagues to alleviate this embarrassment, because many people have meticulous practices in the workplace, but such people's "popularity" is very bad. It is precisely because there is a state of depression or seriousness that there is a sense of tension in talking to such a person, and occasionally easing the atmosphere will break the deadlock.

Only in the workplaceAll of them are competitors, in order to keep working hard, constantly to strengthen their own conditions, don't contact with the attitude of a friend, but harm yourself, because such a circle only belongs to powerful people.

The contact between colleagues should not be too unfamiliar, but it should not be too close, because there should not be too much emotion at workIn the end, you can only use a competitive mentality to contact with colleaguesOnly in this way can you continue to develop in your work and make yourself stronger.

It's hard for colleagues to be friends with each other, why? I think there are two main reasons why classmates, comrades-in-arms, and faxiao can become close friends, but it is difficult for colleagues.

The first reason is conflict of interest. In real life, we can see many examples of this, because the interests of brothers turn against each other; Because of the benefits, some people can even deny their parents. And classmates and Fa Xiao can become good friends, because they are raised by their parents, they don't have to worry about food, they don't have to worry about clothing, in addition to playing is learning, the sky is falling and there are parents on top, and there is no conflict of interest.

So as long as they have similar personalities and similar interests, they can easily become good friends. Not to mention the comrades-in-arms, the state provides them with all logistical support services, they only need to train hard and work hard for a common goal - to serve the motherland, and there are relatively few conflicts of interest.

Colleagues are generally old and young, and they go to work to earn money to support their families; The second is to realize the value of one's life, especially money, although money is not omnipotent, but without money it is absolutely impossible. Therefore, it is easy for colleagues to have conflicts of interest in the unit, which makes it difficult for colleagues to become real friends, and some are more friends of alcohol and meat.

The second reason is limited energy. Whether it is a classmate, a young man or a comrade-in-arms, they have no pressure to support their families for the time being, and they have more time and energy to make friends. In addition to making money to support the family, they also need to educate children, accompany their wives, children, and parents, which require time and energy, and a person's energy is limited, so there is less time and energy spent on making friends.

As long as you carefully observe the people around you, you will find that when they are not married, single dogs will still often play together, and when they get married, the relationship will slowly drift apart, not because they don't want to, but because of limited energy.

Because colleagues are competitive, it is difficult to trust each other, and it is difficult to dig out each other's hearts, so they can become close friends.

It's because there is a competitive relationship between the two, and it's obscure, just afraid that your colleagues will put small shoes on your back, and the two can never become friends, just superficial friends.

This is because there is a relationship of interest between colleagues, and if the relationship between them is too good, it will be very difficult for the two of them to become friends, and in the end there is no way to be friends.

First of all, there is a certain competitive relationship in the work, and it may be difficult to be friends because of the misunderstanding between two people because something is not done properly.

This is because in many workplaces, there are many problems that are inconvenient to communicate with others, but it is easy to create estrangement.

Because of the relationship of interest. There is competition between colleagues, and there are also disputes of interests, and it is impossible to become friends.

It's because there are interests between colleagues, so it's actually very difficult for them to become friends.

This is because there is competition between colleagues, there is tension within the company, and they do not end up becoming friends.

Because there is competition between colleagues, if there is a position, colleagues need to compete with each other.

1] Different interests and hobbies.

In life, the people who can become friends are generally the ones who can play together. Enjoy the same movie, love the same book, love the same sport. With the same interests and hobbies, two people's lives can have more intersections, and because of the same hobbies, the two can communicate in depth, and develop the relationship from the surface of eating, drinking and having fun to a deeper level.

If two people just have a high degree of tacit understanding at work, but have nothing in common in life, it is difficult to become friends. In the same way, if two people have the same interests and hobbies, but have different work concepts and working methods, it is difficult to cooperate tacitly at work.

For example, some people like to do their best at work and pursue the best in everything; But some people think that if they do their best, the result of their work can reach nine points, then when these two people are working, the person who pursues perfection must feel that the work is very laborious, because everything needs him to push the other party to act. But this is not necessarily the case in life.

2] The principle is too strong.

As employees of the same company, they all work under the same framework of rules. If both people are principled people, communication will be smoother and there will be less disagreement because they both follow the same set of rules.

But life is different, and the rules of life are personal habits and preferences. People who are too principled will have more conflicts and contradictions. If two people are too principled and unwilling to give in, there will be a lot of inconvenience in getting along.

Everyone has their own set of life philosophy, and the most important thing to get along with friends is to understand and accept each other's life philosophy. Only in this way can we deal with some differences between each other more flexibly.

Therefore, if two people who are too principled will cooperate very well in their work, and they can also reduce the cost of communication. But in life, you will encounter a lot of contradictions. It is difficult for such a person to become a good friend at work.

3] There may be a conflict of interest.

In the workplace, there is competition between everyone, but it is only a matter of the strength of the competitive relationship. The closer the position is and the more the job content is the same, the greater the competition.

If two people work together, it means that all aspects of the work of the two people are basically the same, then the competitive relationship is the strongest. In this case, there would be a conflict of interest between the two.

For example, when two people work together to complete a project, and the benefits of the project are distributed in the workplace, it is impossible to divide the two people equally.

Don't suffer from a small number but suffer from unevenness", no matter how it is divided, there will be one party that is not satisfied. Even if this dissatisfaction is not manifested, it will leave some "shadows" in the hearts of two people, and these "shadows" will definitely be carried into life. Therefore, instead of getting along with each other in life, it is better to have no intersection. Counting.

There is a certain competitive relationship between the first shot chain infiltration in the work, and it may be because something is not done well, two people will have a misunderstanding, and it will be difficult to be friends.

When I came out to work, many things were related to interests, and I couldn't be as innocent as I was in school.

There is a more or less conflict of interest, more or less envy and jealousy. Co-workers can become friends, but once one party leaves, the friendship is even more difficult.

Colleagues are often involved in a lot of work, and it is often difficult to communicate with each other.

Two people with interests cannot be friends. Friends should help each other, understand and tolerate each other.

Each of us wishes that we would be able to have more friends and get more help for ourselves. ......But when we enter the workplace, some people will tell us not to treat our colleagues as friends. For such a statement, Defend Xiaoyu himself has determined that it is correct after being verified by practice.

The reason for this is that it is difficult for colleagues to become friends due to different concepts, there is a competitive relationship between colleagues and they cannot become friends, and social distancing between colleagues restricts each other from becoming friends.

1. There are differences in concepts between colleagues, and it is difficult to become friends with each other.

The most important characteristic of friends is that they are like-minded. Only with this characteristic can two people develop friendship and become friends. ......However, colleagues have their own ideas and ideas from each other.

Such a state makes it difficult to maintain a relatively distant relationship with each other, and it is difficult to become friends.

2. There is a competitive relationship between colleagues, so Shen Oak cannot be friends with each other.

In addition to like-mindedness, friends have a lot in common with each other in terms of interests. ......However, there is competition among colleagues because they have different interests. This makes it difficult for colleagues to have common interests and therefore become friends.

3. Social distancing restrictions between colleagues make it impossible for both parties to become friends.

Friends have a close relationship with each other and have close relationships with each other. ......However, for colleagues, it is necessary to maintain an appropriate social distance from each other, which is much farther than the social distance between friends, and this state makes it impossible for colleagues to become friends. And it is precisely because of the above reasons that it is difficult to make friends with colleagues in the workplace.

Therefore, we should face up to this situation, not treat colleagues as friends, but maintain an appropriate social distance.

Each of us hopes that we can have more friends and get more help for ourselves, but when we enter the workplace, some people will tell themselves not to treat their colleagues as friends, for such a statement, they are determined to be correct after being verified by practice, and the reason why we say this is because of the same, the concept is different, it is difficult to become friends, and there is a competitive relationship between colleagues and cannot become friends. and social distancing between colleagues to limit each other's ability to be friends.

First, there is a lack of concept between colleagues, and it is difficult for filial piety to become friends with each other. The most important characteristic among friends is that they are like-minded. Only with this characteristic can two people develop the intention to become friends, but colleagues may have their own ideas.

We support the idea that we have different ideas from each other, and that makes it difficult to be friends with each other because of the fact that we can only maintain a relatively distant relationship.

Second, there is competition between colleagues, so they cannot be friends with each other. In addition to being like-minded, friends have a lot in common with each other in terms of interests, but because of their different interests, there is a competitive relationship between colleagues, which makes it difficult for colleagues to have common interests, so it is difficult to become friends.

Thirdly, social distancing restrictions between colleagues make it impossible for both parties to become friends, and friends have intimate relationships with each other. However, for colleagues, they need to maintain an appropriate social distance from each other, which is much farther than the distance between friends, which makes it impossible for colleagues to become friends, and it is precisely because of the above reasons that it is difficult for colleagues in the workplace to make friends, so we should face up to this situation, not to treat colleagues as friends, but to maintain an appropriate social distance.