In love, once you get it, you are afraid of losing, but you don t want to be alone, what should you

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Love is very beautiful, if you are afraid of losing, you don't dare to get it, and you don't dare to start, then you are destined to be single. I think brave people strive to have it, and then use their strong body and soul to protect love, and if they don't want to lose, they treat it sincerely. If you don't start, you won't be able to try the beauty of love.

When you don't get it, you want to get it, and after you get it, you are afraid of losing it, which is the heart of gaining and losing. Everyone has this mentality many times, in love, and in relationships. But this kind of psychology is not conducive to people's growth.

First of all, since you choose to be with your other half, then you have to believe in the other person and believe in yourself. If you are scared all day long, afraid that the other person will leave, then many problems will occur. And thinking that the other party will leave all day long, in fact, it is also a hint in my heart, and there is a trace of expectation in my heart to let the other party leave.

And this hint often ends up being realized. Since you are with each other, why not trust each other, and the other person will not leave you for no reason. If the other party is really leaving, then there is no point in thinking about these things.

Then, stay optimistic and don't spend all day thinking about things that you don't have. And there are so many things that need to be done by yourself every day, don't indulge in love all day long. It's okay to find something to distract yourself from and don't let yourself get caught up in a mess of fantasies.

Secondly, both parties need to communicate frequently to give themselves a sense of security. If there is any dissatisfaction in life, say it in time, and the two of you will solve it together. Some people just don't care about a small thing, and it gradually develops into a serious big thing, and in the end, it is irreparable.

Finally, give each person their own space. After all, people are independent beings, and everyone has their own thoughts and attitudes. Don't take the other person too seriously, and care about the other person's every move, word and deed all day long. In this way, the other party is not happy, and he is not happy.

Instead of being afraid of the other party leaving, it is better to work hard to improve yourself and make the other person inseparable from you.

It's understandable that you don't want to be alone, then the only way is to find the right partner for you, as for the fear of losing, then you have to change it, so that you don't have to be afraid of losing, so that you don't have to be alone, and you don't have to suffer from gains and losses.

Most of the reasons for the fear of losing are either given to you by the other person or your own.

If it's the other party's reason, the other party is not the kind of girl who does her duty, she always has ambiguity with others, and she is cold to you, so you can simply break up, and find someone to live in peace and security, it's okay, it's not a problem, if you just like that kind of girl, then there's no way, you deserve it.

In fact, I feel that a large part of the reason for this problem of loss is that you don't believe that you meet that kind of restless girl, and a large part of the reason for the fear of loss is that you are not confident, and you don't believe that you have enough charm or strength to keep this girl, so you will be afraid of losing, it is possible that you have been hurt in this regard, betrayed, so there is this shadow in your heart, but you are now looking for a new girlfriend to start your new life, Therefore, you must become confident, believe in your own vision and ability to see people, and also give trust to the other party, only trust, will dispel your anxiety and unconfidence.

For such a situation, you still have to change yourself, change your heart, don't think so much, believe that you can get true perfect love, believe that you believe in the other party, and one day you will get out of such a predicament and meet a new life.

Generally, it's more difficult, you just say that you can be an ordinary friend, you don't want to alienate him, if you feel embarrassed by the comparison, you basically can't be a friend.

Maybe there is some pressure or something in Er's heart, forcing him not to want to fall in love and put love in his heart, maybe he is not ready to go to the arrival of critical love, it is impossible not to hurt his heart, it can only be said that the hurt is deep or shallow. I don't like it, just find a time to make an appointment and politely refuse, although it's still a bit cruel, but it's the best way.

What if the guy says he likes you, you don't want to be with him and you don't want to lose him - tell him that I don't deserve you like this, that I don't deserve you, it's all for your good. Then he touched his face and said don't cry, we're still friends. That's what my female ticket said next to Li Bu.

Then I never talked to her again.

Some boys have always expressed a good impression of you and said that they like you, but you don't like him, how can you have a good relationship with him? -You can tactfully tell him that you don't feel that way for him, but you like to be friends with him, and tell him that you are not his fate, and hope that he will find a good girl! If you have someone you like, you can also tell those boys that you have someone you like, and the boy who likes you won't insist too much.

There's a guy who's always liked me, but I don't want to be with him, what should I do? Hehe, ignore him, it's okay.

Because when you like someone, you have to give your love to the other person. Don't be afraid to lose your stupidity, because when you are in love, you can see his strengths and weaknesses. Is it someone you've entrusted your life? Then it is necessary to cheat and feel it in your heart.

Cherish the moment.

That's a normal reaction of love.

Because I like it, I suffer from gains and losses, become unconfident, and even have some low self-esteem.

1.First of all, improve your love quotient, that is, your love IQ, don't idealize your partner too much, because many times if we love a person we imagine, then we will have a lot of expectations and standards for him, and imagine that all our needs can be obtained from the other person. But this is not the case, we must know that the other party is also a person with many shortcomings like us.

To improve your love quotient, you must first cultivate an attachment mentality, make more friends of the opposite sex, not to say that you have several boyfriends at the same time, but make more friends of the opposite sex, and let you see more types through usual chat and communication! It's not just the man in front of you.

2.To cultivate their own hobbies, even if you have love, you can't throw it away, with your own hobbies, the critical moment can make you less lonely, sad, it can also make your eyes not only staring at a certain person, it itself is a resource for you, to cultivate and use well!

3.Re-understanding yourself is based on your family of origin, and although each of us is influenced by the shaping of our own family of origin, it is not immutable. That is, to reconcile with one's own parents.

You can write about your own strengths and weaknesses, and you can learn more about yourself through feedback from friends around you.

4.Learn to plan and enrich your life, love is only a small part of our life, and there are more things worth working on besides love! Learn to love yourself, and those who can love themselves will love others.

Knowing that the other party has a family, it is impossible to really love you, but the landlord knows that he can't do it, in fact, it is a manifestation that he doesn't care so much about himself! To re-understand yourself, reconstruct yourself, and there may be answers you don't expect!

First of all, you have to understand one thing, being in love is just a part of your life, one thing, that's all. It's the same as everything else you've experienced, like work, study, and so on. And your own personality thoughts, as well as your perception of these things, determine your attitude and way of dealing with these things.

Whether or not you will lose yourself when you are in love, as mentioned above, depends on your own personality and thoughts. If your own personality is not independent, and you don't have your own ideas to support it, then you will inevitably lose yourself in love, and not only in love, but also in work and study, you will also feel lost and don't know what to do.

So, if you don't have it, it's best to cultivate your own independent thoughts. Practice more, think less, and keep recognizing and understanding your true character ideas in practice, and then you can build your own world around.

Because the more afraid you are of losing, the lower your position will be, and inadvertently the position of the two will be unequal, and in the long run, there will be a rift in the relationship between the two.

Because of the fear of losing, people will become very sensitive, and it is easy to have conflicts because of various trivialities in life, and each conflict may worsen the relationship between two people.

Because the more afraid you are of losing yourself, the more humble you will be, the more you will be looked down upon by the other party, and the easier it will be to lose.

Because it is easy to be worried and afraid, it is easy to cause cranky thoughts, cranky thoughts will produce contradictions, and it is easy to lose after contradictions occur.

Because you take the other person too seriously and the other person doesn't put you in the same position, the more you are afraid of losing, the more fearful you will have in your heart. Love naturally doesn't last long.

Sometimes because of the fear of losing, I invest too much in this relationship, which leads to being too humble, and finally becomes a slave of love, and slowly loses the way love should be.

When you feel afraid of losing, then it means that the other person feels that it is no longer appropriate to be with you, so even if you are afraid, it will not save the relationship.

All things have providence, we have revenge, ideals and hopes, feel at ease, leave the past behind, no version is the highest, do you have the right to understand? ? The dawn after the clouds is enough. I have a feeling of tears when I think of your past, and although I am willing to walk with you, I know in my heart that I am definitely not together for a long time.

I'll try to forget.

Can we be together if we strive for it? If yes, then I will. If not, then for nothing.