What made you decide not to break up after a fight?

I talked to my boyfriend for seven years.

Last year, the quarrels were particularly frequent, and even once I proposed the idea of breaking up, deleted WeChat, ** number blocked, I cried in the dormitory for three days, during which I was very sad, and I felt that I had lost a particularly important person.

On the fourth day, the more I thought about it, the more uncomfortable I became, I couldn't forget his kindness to me, I was reluctant to have a six-year relationship, and in the end, I didn't completely break up after many years of relationship.

Now, we're getting married.

After the quarrel, I twisted my foot when I went down the stairs, and then my partner was so anxious when he found out about it, he immediately ran down and carried me to the hospital to take me to physiotherapy, which was what touched me very much, and finally decided not to break up, and I hope that our future can be better.

Because of love, quarrels are not feelings that have deteriorated, but a way of communication, my boyfriend and I always quarrel, but still haven't broken up, if there is a quarrel, we have to explain the reason, just talk about the matter, why quarrel, how to solve this matter, what to do in the future, instead of turning over old accounts, vexatious quarrels, even if they quarrel, we must make the quarrel meaningful, let it become a way of communication.

If you quarrel over some small things in life, when two people quarrel, they may say something that they can't control themselves, but when the matter passes, both people can calm down, in fact, they will find that this is simply some small things There is no need to quarrel, so as long as one party can let the other party go down the stairs, it is not a big deal, right?

Those who break up as soon as they quarrel can't say that they are 100% not true love, but most of them are also people with true temperament, dare to love and hate, and if there is a relationship, there is no need to be wronged by you. If you don't break up when you die, it's just that two people love each other, or the reason for this quarrel is not enough to threaten the feelings of both parties, it just expands it.

Everyone will have their own way of getting along, some couples never quarrel, because they are used to it, however, my boyfriend and I are used to being noisy every day, and if we don't quarrel for a day, we feel that today is very abnormal, and our relationship is cultivated in the quarrel, which may be related to our personality.

Although we always quarrel, but still reluctant to break up with each other, love is like this, no matter how unreasonable the other party is, they will choose to tolerate and choose to forgive, so that the love between two people will last longer. There is nothing to do with the small quarrels between couples, and when both of them take a step back, they can be reconciled immediately.

I had a fight with my boyfriend the night before Valentine's Day, and I forgot why I quarreled, and we were both very unhappy anyway, and I was almost going to break up, but he said, or let's break up, Valentine's Day is coming, auspicious. I couldn't hold back crying all of a sudden, he immediately apologized when he heard me crying, I love him so much, of course I can't let him go so easily.

I can't do it, wife, don't be angry with me, it's my fault that everything is wrong, can I call you grandma? It made me laugh all at once.

If two people don't care about each other, they basically don't quarrel because neither side can make the other angry and lose their temper and quarrel. People don't care what you do. So we all care about each other.

When the weather is hot, eat some cold vegetables and the fire will go down, and if there is no fire, you will not scold people, let alone speak ill of each other. It's normal for the scolded person to break up when he can't get angry after being scolded, and the only way is to invite her to dinner, and it just so happens that she loves to eat again.

I remember when I quarreled with my girlfriend before, my girlfriend was very angry, sometimes I apologized to her first, and after he was angry, he decided not to break up

After the quarrel, it was he who put down the shelf to coax me and make me happy, and I think he can still be forgiven.

After the argument, my partner confessed to me in person. Ah, the attitude towards it was sincere, so I decided not to break up.

Recently, I have always quarreled and said that I want to break up. You also know that there is a problem between you. If you know there's a problem, solve it!

Communicate well, spread things out on the table, and change yourself! It's the best way you can not break up! Just don't want to break up, but don't try to change!

In fact, quarrels are not necessarily bad. What boyfriends and girlfriends are most afraid of is the cold war and hurting their feelings. Quarrels prove that there is no gap in saying anything that does not need to be hidden.

Two very honest people are in the same direction, and small quarrels increase feelings. The ancients once said that it's not that friends don't get together, it's just that.

Actually, I think it's good, not the worst. It's like emotional venting. Sometimes a fight will not break up the relationship, but will make the relationship more stable.

When our emotions reach the lowest point, we need to vent our emotions, so that our dissatisfaction has a place to vent, don't suppress it in our hearts, it is easy to suffocate and get sick, so we must learn to adjust rationally.

Sometimes there is a problem in the relationship between husband and wife, and they will choose a cold war, and no one will**, refuse to say their right or wrong, do not say the reason for the quarrel, and have been in a state of cold war. They feel that the relationship needs to be maintained, and doubts keep appearing in their hearts. I agree with my boyfriend that no matter what happens, how angry we are, there is only one principle.

The next day you must speak, not a cold war. He's a good guy, no matter who's right or wrong, he always coaxes me first. I also know that most of it is my fault.

The quarrel does not affect our relationship, but gets better and better, which makes me feel that this man has high emotional intelligence, knows how to handle things, and makes his girlfriend happy.

When there is a rift in the emotional trip, we need to know how to repair it, and what can't be solved by quarreling is not the worst way to solve it. We should do our best to choose the best way to solve the problem. Don't make noise every day.

There is no peace at home. Home is a safe haven. We should fill our homes with warmth.

Don't quarrel all day. My best friend is getting divorced because there are so many fights at home. Everyone is tired and not suitable.

They were separated after all.

The next time you have a quarrel, you should calm down and communicate with the other party, and then think of a very good solution and method, so that you can solve the matter between two people. There is also the fact that you should take the other person out shopping, or travel or treat the other person, and eat something that the other person likes. You can also change yourself and cater to each other.

If you quarrel a lot, but you don't want to break up yet, then you have to make a change, when you want to fight, you should separate immediately, and when both parties have calmed down, then solve the problem, and one of the parties should also make concessions, so that there is no sudden quarrel.

Then two people can reduce quarrels, and each take a step back, learn to tolerate each other, and understand each other. And if there is a problem in the future, don't always think about quarreling, but calm down and communicate calmly.

It is most effective to communicate with the other party calmly and find a very reasonable solution.

Clause. 1. Why do you quarrel often for Bi Heng?

First of all, I think that often quarrels mean that there is a big difference in the values of two people, because we have different understandings of things, so we deal with them differently. For example, when a girl receives a text message from a courier, she wants to take it home immediately, but the boy feels that he has not finished doing what he is doing at the moment, so he doesn't want to be interrupted, so the girl feels that the boy is procrastinating. Secondly, objectively speaking, there is nothing wrong with both girls and boys.

The real reason for the quarrel is: the girl thinks you are my boyfriend, and I need you to accompany me to pick up the courier, but your grinding and chirping state makes me feel that you don't want to accompany me. In other words, girls have higher expectations of boys, and when boys' behavior does not meet girls' expectations, girls tend to interpret the problem as an "attitude problem".

Clause. 2. Is the conflict because it is inappropriate? Does conflict mean that two people are not suitable to be together? There is no standard answer to this question.

Because the difference in values is like no two leaves in the world that are exactly the same, this difference is universal. However, I would like to remind you that the reason why two people love each other is not only that we have similar parts that resonate, but also because of our different parts of each other.

In my opinion, quarreling itself is actually a kind of communication. However, because it is easy to complain, accuse, and even physically attack each other in a way that quarrels are often carried out, quarrels are a high-risk way of communication. And to put it another way, if a couple will often quarrel, then usually both people are more assertive and stronger.

Just like the girl in our case, one of the reasons why she chose her boyfriend at that time was that she felt that the boy's personality was very similar to her own, both of them were in management positions, and their work styles were both vigorous and resolute. The problem lies precisely here, because the more similar the strengths of two people, the more similar the disadvantages will be. Both of them have strengths and weaknesses as strong, so their weaknesses are also strong.

Then in life, if both parties are not willing to compromise, there will definitely be conflict.

So how should we properly face conflict? 1. Don't go online and label each other negatively; 2. Directly equate all the words and behaviors of your partner that do not conform to your own mind to that he does not value you and does not love you; 3. Talking about things on a case-by-case basis, talking more about things, and less about emotions, is a more sensible way to deal with conflicts. Clause.

3. Should I break up if I quarrel a lot? I think that the most correct answer to this question can only be found in the hearts of the parties themselves.

In intimate relationships, conflicts caused by differences in values are everywhere, and the key is that we should resolve conflicts with the right attitude, and see the key to the problem and a common solution in the conflict.

Through the process of resolving conflicts, we can promote each other to find problems, improve themselves, and understand each other in the relationship, and at this time, the conflict is no longer a bomb that cannot be avoided, but the only way to make the relationship step by step towards stability and harmony.

This depends on the degree of affection between the two people, and now it will be noisy when falling in love, but it must be moderate!

When two people get along, it is inevitable that there will be bumps and frictions, so it is understandable to quarrel, but as soon as they quarrel, they proposed to break up, which is absolutely indispensable.

In the process of getting along, Liang is sleepy, and quarrels are inevitable. Will a frequent quarrel get tired of breaking up? But if you quarrel often, it's time to think seriously about the real reasons behind it and the future trend of the relationship between the two.

At this point, trade-offs need to be made. If the relationship between you has disappeared from one argument after another, breaking up is certainly a good choice.

But if the breakup doesn't bring you growth, you'll still be doing the same thing the next time you hold hands. If your relationship is still alive, why can't you spend more time communicating and solving problems? Face up to the differences between men and women, and think more from each other's standpoint; Don't blindly give or take, establish a reciprocal system; Replace the generation of negative emotions with the rationality of thinking.

Learn to be a person who can quarrel and leave room for the other person. Don't always want to kill the other party, this bad scumbag will lose both. In the process of arguing, try to understand the true meaning of the other party's confusion, and think about the differences between the two.

Frequent quarrels should break up, barely getting by is very tiring and uncomfortable.