How to use positive discipline to cultivate a confident and self disciplined child?

Educate children positively and cultivate their self-confidence and self-discipline. Generally, it can be carried out in the following three ways.

1. Let children experience the success and happiness brought by self-confidence and self-discipline.

Successful and joyful experiences can promote and strengthen the development of qualities. To cultivate children's self-confidence and self-discipline, we must consciously guide children to face problems and tasks confidently, consciously restrain their bad behaviors, and on this basis, we should guide children to understand the relationship between self-confidence and self-discipline and success and freedom and happiness. In this way, a positive behavioral experience is formed, which promotes the child's self-consciousness and initiative in self-confidence and self-discipline, and ultimately becomes a good quality in the child.

2. Set an example of self-confidence and self-discipline for children.

The most effective way to cultivate children's self-confidence and self-discipline is not only to "talk the word", but also to "teach by example". Parents' self-confident and self-disciplined behavior will play a subtle educational role, far more effective than chatter. Moreover, if parents themselves cannot be confident and self-disciplined, it can only cause rebellion and resistance in their children.

For example, how can you convince your child not to litter, and as a parent, your home is always messy and dirty? For example, teaching children to obey the order, and when they buy things in the supermarket or shopping mall, they are always crowded and scrambling, can it have a good impact on children?

3. Educate children to learn from outstanding people.

You can usually tell your children more stories of celebrities or successful people, and you can also guide your children to read books on their own, so that children can understand that the reason why excellent people are successful, they have many excellent qualities, self-confidence and self-discipline are one of them. In this way, we can consciously learn from outstanding people, and in the process of growing up, we will continue to cultivate the quality of self-confidence and self-discipline.

"Positive discipline is a method of disciplining a child that is neither punitive nor pampered. Only in a kind and determined atmosphere can children develop self-discipline, responsibility, cooperation, and the ability to solve problems on their own, learn social and life skills that will benefit them for life, and achieve good academic results.

So how to use positive discipline to raise a confident and self-disciplined child?

First of all, parents should let go with love: Trust the child, believe that the child can do a lot of things on his own, do not obstruct the child when he is full of curiosity and trying to do things, but encourage and guide, let the child do it; So let go of the child and what to do? Housework is the way to go.

In the process of helping with household chores, children can experience the joy of doing things, and they will also feel that they have contributed to the family and can gain a sense of value.

The second is that being aware of mistakes is the best opportunity to learnParents can use heuristic questions to ask their children, "What can I do next time I encounter this situation?" For children's help, we should be patient and hand-in-hand to help children learn basic skills;

The second is to pay attention to the positive, find out the child's progress bit by bit, and encourage the child's growth；The encouragement here is not simply to say "you are awesome", but to give specific descriptions, thanks, and empowerment for specific progress and specific efforts. As Drexes said, "A child needs encouragement like a plant needs water", "A child who misbehaves is a child who lacks encouragement", and children draw the power of self-discipline from encouragement.

Only by letting go can children manage themselves and have self-discipline and self-confidence.

Now that positive discipline has been mentioned,The easiest way to do that is to give your child affirmationThat is to say, the school may say that the homework is not good, and the parents, for example, look at his homework, how his child's grades are, yesterday was 53 points, 50 points in the last term, and this week's test score is 55 points, so the school continues to criticize,But as a parent, you tell him that he has improved, that he has improved.

When he is doing better, affirm that he is better, and at the same time tell him that you have a lot of opportunities for improvement, and use this positive way to promote your child to move forward.

The establishment of self-confidence is a gradual and long-term process for children. When I have confidence, it's not that I suddenly get 90 points at this moment, I reach 100 points at this moment. I have self-confidence, not to say, he saw his efforts, his grades have improved, and the parents' direct on how to work hard to improve this part will definitely help him gradually build up his self-confidence, this process is continuous, until one day, when his child has enough self-confidence, he will say that this time I scored 70 points in the test, my efforts are not enough, this score is deserved, so next time I work harder, I can reach 70 or 80 points.

What does it mean when a child can express it like this, he can be confident in his own ability, and at the same time he no longer needs external affirmation of his ability, but before this process arrives, it is indeed necessary for parents to affirm his progress.

To give great recognition to his efforts part, we are not sure to be smart, but to be sure of his efforts.

Positive discipline is a method of educating children that is neither punitive nor pampered......Only in a kind and firm atmosphere can children develop self-discipline, responsibility, cooperation, and the ability to solve problems on their own, and can they learn social and life skills ...... that will benefit them for lifeThrough the Happy Family Wealth Studio, we will continue to help parents learn how to use positive discipline methods to enable their children to acquire this ability.

Each family will have a different parenting style, which is divided into the following four quadrants according to the degree of kindness and firmness.

We parents expect our children to have good qualities and skills, such as self-confidence, independence, self-discipline, independent thinking and problem-solving skills, so that they can feel more at ease when they walk alone in the future. Then when we communicate with parents and friends, we always encounter a lot of challenges, which sometimes makes us very crazy and helpless (

Positive discipline is a professional parenting training system designed to develop good social character and life skills such as respect, responsibility and cooperation. It is a rainbow bridge from today to tomorrow full of parenting challenges