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The gentleman can be handed over or not, and the villain can be used or not", which actually has great educational significance for our conduct and behavior. First of all, let me explain the meaning of "gentlemen can be handed over or not available". Gentlemen are in a way our life mentors, and their presence is a good alert to our own bad behavior.

A gentleman is the embodiment of beauty, in other words, it should be the embodiment of beauty of our friends. So, can a good friend confidant take advantage of? Naturally, no, it would hurt two people.

On the contrary, we might say, aren't friends supposed to help each other?

Isn't this just "using" in a way? What I want to say is that this is not a use, people help you out of a kind of friendship, and it does not contain "use". And in making close friends, the most important thing is not to deceive, and to treat the friends you want to take seriously with sincerity.

The villain can not be used" is actually helping us to sort out the distance between us and the villain. In fact, what is the contemporary definition of "villain"? Is it the bad guy?

Is it the one who speaks ill behind his back? Is it the one who stabbed the knife in the back? Is it the one who steals?

In fact, these are too one-sided, villains are actually those who are nice to you on the surface, but don't really say how they really feel.

The villain can not be used, its practical significance is to tell us that it is inevitable to communicate with this kind of person to do some things, so do we have to be friends with him to ask him to do things? Naturally not, whether it is available or not is to tell everyone that we have a reliable distance from the "villain". This kind of distance is not close, but in some occasions you can use his meaning, I don't mean unkind here, but this degree of neutrality needs to be well grasped.

It's like a company hiring someone, does he take into account the quality of that person when he chooses someone? For the company, the villain can be used to the greatest extent.

The gentleman can be handed over but not available, and the villain can be used but not handed. The only thing that is different, and the essence that is fundamentally determined, is that we have to carefully judge the quality of that person. Confidants and villains are indispensable to our lives.

Isn't there a saying, "If you want to stay away from a friend, then do business with that person." This means that if you work with friends or do business in partnership, there is a high chance that there will be disagreements or even fights because of the interests involved.

The gentleman can be handed over or not", which means that you can talk to the gentleman about some romantic nights and ambitions, but do not entrust the work task or business to the "gentleman" who has always been close to you when employing people. In order to avoid the breakdown of the relationship between the two parties due to differences of interest in the future, it is not only the loss of an employee or partner, but also the loss of a close friend. We all know that confidants are hard to find, there are many talents, but confidants are the most rare.

Villains can not be made", there are many villains in this world who are capable but have bad intentions. Society still needs to move forward, and we need capable people to assist us in our work. It's like I once watched an argument in "The Art of the Heart":

If you are sick, you are willing to let a doctor with good medical ethics but poor medical skills to diagnose and treat him; I am still willing to let doctors with good medical skills but bad medical ethics diagnose and treat. "I think the villain here is a doctor who has good medical skills but bad medical ethics. If you think only from the perspective of treating diseases and saving people, of course, you should choose a doctor with more medical skills to treat you.

However, although such a person can help us achieve our goal of healing, they cannot be our friends. Because, they are scheming, and it is better to provoke less.

In short, the gentleman only communicates, and the reasonable use of the villain's work ability can help me get closer to the next level. However, don't get involved in the interests of the gentleman, and don't have a heart-to-heart relationship with the villain, because you will be betrayed at any time.

In my personal opinion, a gentleman is like a friend, which can only be used as emotional sustenance and communication, but you must not use friends, and villains can only be used, but not emotional.

In fact, this kind of example is still very common in life. We often meet like-minded friends, but I don't know if you have noticed that when you are with good friends, the most you think about is not to take advantage of good friends, but how to make your good friends happy. In fact, in the final analysis, there are very few gentlemen in this world, and there are only their own friends who are used for analogy, and our friends we think about the most will not be used, but more about our spiritual level of communication and communication, sometimes we can't talk to our wives, we can't talk to our parents, but sometimes we can tell our good friends, because friends are our lifelong wealth.

But villains are different, villains only have interests in their eyes, we have to admit that businessmen in this world are actually a kind of villains in disguise, businessmen are mercenary, there is no absolute friendship between businessmen, only absolute interests. The relationship between businessmen is the relationship between using and being used, so businessmen can't be emotional, because emotion sometimes makes your own way of thinking deviate, often this kind of thing, we will be most victimized by others, resulting in the loss of interests.

Therefore, the gentleman and the villain, these two completely different people, our sometimes choice depends entirely on ourselves, only by letting ourselves know clearly what we need, can we know what ways and means we should use to face and deal with it. I think there should be more emotional communication between people, less utilization, and more sincerity.

There is nothing to hand over and not to hand over, and you have to have a mind for everything you want to do. There must also be a corresponding moral standard. The mind is the lower limit, and morality is the upper limit.

In fact, there is only a little bit of space for us. If the mind is not enough, the mind will not agree with the moral standard. Nothing villainous gentlemen.

is reliable, villains are an objective existence, and they can't all be caught. They don't have high ideals and are more pragmatic, but they can play some tricks. But distinguish between the villain and the wicked.

I don't know if the subject has heard of this point of view in **, in fact, this point of view is problematic!

The relationship that the subject is talking about is actually the exchange at the spiritual level; Use is the material level of communication. There is no theorem for this level of interaction.

Some gentlemen can be used as friends, because that is a natural trend in the depths of human nature;

Some gentlemen can't be friends, and the wild scum is too tired;

Some gentlemen can have material dealings, because gentlemen have the righteousness of wealth;

Some gentlemen are not allowed to have material dealings, because the friendship between gentlemen is as light as water!

Some villains can be used as friends, because righteousness slaughters more dogs;

Some villains can't be used as friends, because they are easy to be betrayed;

Some villains can have material dealings, because villains are profitable and drive them to the way;

Some villains can't have material dealings, because the shaft is not enough to conspiracy!

Hope it helps!