A friend who understands psychology can help analyze it

I think there is a very important factor missing in your work - sincere and normal interpersonal communication, you should communicate more with familiar friends and confidants, and you should also take the initiative to interact with people who are not very familiar with you. If you try some methods and don't solve it, then don't hesitate to "jump ship".

Take a break in your busy life, read **, magazines.

Make friends, you idiot!

The main manifestation of depression.

1. Sadness, or anxiety.

2. A sense of boredom, rarely able to feel the joy around you.

3. Listless, unable to lift up the usual interests of affairs and activities4. Lack of sense of worth, easily denying personal value or achievement.

5. Guilt, excessive guilt, or self-blame.

6. Thinking that there is no hope in life, in life.

7. Significant changes in appetite (weight) and sleep disturbances.

8. Lack of concentration or frequent hesitation, and slow thinking.

9. Thoughts of death or suicide.

1. Overcome loneliness.

2. Enjoy solitude.

3. Defeat loneliness.

4. There is no loneliness.

Loneliness is not without friends, and it can be lonely to have friends; Loneliness doesn't have to be lonely, in the midst of a large group of friends, in the midst of the noise, you can also be lonely.

If loneliness makes you miserable, you overcome it;

If loneliness makes you helpless, you enjoy it;

If loneliness scares you, you conquer it;

If loneliness makes you strong, you don't have loneliness.

Actually, loneliness is a psychological suggestion

Several simple and easy methods of psychological massage:

1. Humor: Humor can drive away troubles, turn pain into joy, and make embarrassment into harmony. Where there is humor in the family, there is joy and happiness; When there is humor between husband and wife, they can get to know each other. Humor is the MSG of life, and humor is indispensable for mental health.

2. Laugh: A smile relieves a thousand sorrows. Laughter is the lubricant of mental health, an art of life, it is conducive to eliminating psychological fatigue and enlivening the atmosphere of life.

When there is laughter in life, there is a breath of beauty. When relatives and friends are in a bad mood, you might as well make him laugh; When you are distressed, you may want to think of an interesting story that makes you laugh.

3. Listen to songs: In ancient and modern times, there are sayings at home and abroad that they can cure diseases. ** can cultivate sentiment, people can gain strength from**.

Listening to music is not only a beautiful enjoyment, it can also regulate people's emotions. Whenever you're feeling down, listen to a song you love and let it transport you to another world.

4. Flower appreciation: Flowers and plants are a symbol of beauty, and appreciating flowers with eyes is a good way to use the window of the soul for psychological massage. Surrounded by flowers and trees, with flowers as companions, and flowers make friends with flowers, it suddenly makes people feel refreshed, forget the unhappiness in your heart, as if your heart will also bloom colorful flowers.

For the convenience of enjoying the flowers, you may wish to grow a few flowers on the balcony or indoors as a companion.

5. Self-entertainment: Although modern entertainment life is varied. But they are no substitute for self-entertainment.

In the family, some recreational activities can be carried out from time to time, which can enliven the family atmosphere, enrich family life, close the relationship between the old and the young, and increase friendship, so that relatives will have more mutual respect and love, and less quarrels.

In your spare time, it is recommended that you buy some professional-related books to supplement and nourish yourself.

Make your life and work a little more fulfilling.

Try to find friends to hang out with or go to crowded places after work.

Learn to regulate yourself, hehe.

The easiest way is to approach the crowd after work, blend in with the group, and drive the loneliness away.

You can ask your boss to find you an assistant, a colleague or something.

Brothers. First: Most women want a trust and dependence, and no woman likes a man who is squirming and pinching, which is very unmanly.

Second: for people. No self-confidence is more devastating than anything else. Everything it produces is geometrically superimposed, and the consequences are very serious.

Third: Since you recognize. Prove that you are still saved. Change yourself now. Start with your appearance and dress neatly.

Hair gets a little more energy. And then it's your actions. The speech is calm and humorous. Make yourself a little more manly. Yes.

Be bold. Be self-motivated. It's too much to practice slowly.

Note: None of this really matters What matters is whether you want to change yourself Do you want to be good Do you want to become liked by women Think about it.

For what kind of people. These are the key.

If you want to change anything, it's easy to do. Of course, these are not something that can be practiced in a day or two. It takes a myriad of experiences and journeys.

You're still young, there's still a long way to go, as long as you stick to a heart of change, the easiest way to do it is: imitate idols, we have watched a lot of TV and movies, you find a person you are artificial, men are to be like that, and then you first imitate how the characters in the characters talk, how they do things, how they think, how they see things, and then you imitate it first, and it will naturally be good after a long time.

And then you usually read more books, and now you're very conflicted, very entangled, so let's read psychology first, NLP.

And then there's the books that enrich your life.

I used to be like you. I lost a lot of things. Now I have my own company and a virtuous and kind wife.

Believe in yourself, believe that everything will be fine, and prove yourself with actions.

Good luck! Become sunny, handsome, happy, self-motivated, responsible, and become a giant in your girlfriend's heart, a superpower, hehe.

When you say you've had enough, it's a great place to start! It means that you are ready to make changes, you have seen the problem, and then you need to think about the problem to solve it, we are just suggestions, you need to have your own way and don't always follow what others say. Personally, I think you just lack initiative.

Be proactive in everything and think more about other people's feelings, boys are too boring.

You tell her your feelings directly that it is the best, express your thoughts when you don't know what to say, say what you think, and be the most authentic version of yourself, so that your girlfriend will understand your real thoughts and help you solve the problem together.

First of all, you have to regain your self-confidence, to know whether you like her, if you are sure that you like her, then you don't have to be nervous, don't treat dating as a date that can't be mistaken, you have to treat him as a happy date, what to say, so that you can understand each other, not to find a topic, and afraid that you are wrong, always thinking about this issue, so that you are nervous, your attention is not concentrated, of course, the thinking problem is not clear, you have to treat it as a very common thing in daily life, In this way you will be able to get rid of your nervousness and regain your self-confidence, (you have to know that you are not introverted, you are cheerful) and I can only give you these suggestions based on your suggestion, and I hope it can help you.

In fact, you know how to do it in your heart, but you are desperately trying to escape. If I were to say that there was no cure, would you still lose your confidence? Introversion is not an excuse for character flaws, and if a man is not ruthless, isn't he more discriminated against by the outside world?

This pimple comes from your heart, you don't have self-confidence, so you need to learn to find it back! Since this girl has said everything she said to you and done everything she should do, it means that her psychology is yours, then you don't have to be afraid! Dispel the fear of fear!

Take courage! Or shout out your inner fear! Then try to do something you haven't done before, and you're sure to break through!

Be yourself, don't speak, just listen, don't be afraid to make a fool of yourself, show your sincerity, she will understand. The most rustic things are more beautiful than any ornate embellishments.

It's not necessarily a bad thing for you to be the best listener!

This is based on the quality of the individual's personality.

People who don't talk when they are angry generally belong to the rational personality, such people can control their negative emotions in extreme situations and digest and deal with themselves, they are a more intelligent type of personality, and they are also better in interpersonal communication, because they will not act in a way that hurts others because they are angry. One of the things we often say to people with impulsive personalities is, "When you're angry, wait 3 seconds before you speak." "Because people are prone to act contrary to common sense when they are in such extreme emotions as anger.

Being nice to some people and not being respected may be a problem with different personal values. Everyone's definition of "good" is different, and not everyone has a sense of gratitude. The other person may have a very different definition of "good" than yours in their hearts, or the other party may have a resistance that has been formed since childhood.

Therefore, being kind to others without asking for anything in return is the best state of mind.

The feelings are too delicate and concrete! A very simple sentence is called "You treat others as treasures, people treat you as grass, you treat them as grass, it treats you as treasures" The truth is like this. This is true for everyone.

People who don't talk when they are angry are generally more introverted, usually don't talk much, and have more inner emotions.

It's very simple, if you are angry and don't speak, you either feel that the other party is very naïve and ridiculous and disdain to speak, or you are very aggrieved, and you can say it in vain, so don't say it, it takes more courage and willpower to say it than to say it, if the other party is the kind of friend who should understand yourself, then don't talk when you're angry, it's just to pass as soon as possible, if the other party is a stranger and not very familiar, then not talking means looking down on your emotional intelligence, not wanting to fight, and there's no point.

If the other party doesn't like you, then your low profile is like a bowl of luxurious seafood and egg noodles, but he only likes to eat beef noodles, if the other party likes you, your low profile becomes like the yogurt that is about to expire, and it is wasted if you lose it there, and you don't want to drink it if you don't lose it.

To be good to a person, you can only occasionally and not often, otherwise the inferior nature of human nature will make him unconsciously look down on you, maybe not to look down on you, sometimes just to ignore, that is, you say you don't pay attention to it, because you need him, not that he needs you, maybe when he needs you, you are important, but that's just a need, so once he returns to the world and finds what he wants, he won't respect any of your happiness, and he won't value you.

This person is a person who likes to be alone and quiet when there is something, and he has his own way of thinking. is a person with a strong personality and a bit of an introverted personality.

The "projection effect" refers to the psychological phenomenon of treating others with oneself, which aims to illustrate that people will always habitually project certain characteristics of their own, such as experiences, likes and dislikes, desires, concepts, emotions, personalities, etc., onto others, believing that others must also have the same or similar characteristics as themselves, which is a cognitive disorder imposed on others.

It has two manifestations: one is emotional projection, that is, thinking that other people's likes and dislikes are the same as one's, and then trying to influence others according to one's own way of thinking; The second is the lack of objectivity in cognition, which is mainly manifested in excessive praise of people you like, or belittling people you don't like. The projection effect tells people that people's hearts are different, and they should adhere to the principle of objectivity and fairness, and project accurately to make it easier to convince others.

It is often not possible to properly measure others by your preferences.

People will always unconsciously add their own psychological characteristics, such as experiences, likes and dislikes, desires, concepts, emotions, personalities, etc., to others, thinking that if they think like this, others should also have the same thoughts, and try to influence others through their own thoughts, but the results often backfire.

Psychology Story.

As the saying goes, "Like gathers like, and people divide into groups." "This is not just a common saying in life, but also a reflection of people's psychological activities.

In the eyes of many people, people in the same group will always have certain characteristics in common. Therefore, in the process of influencing people, for those whose identity, status, age, and personality are the same or similar to themselves, they will habitually use their own preferences to recognize, evaluate, judge, and measure, and think that they should also have the same ideas, concepts, and principles of doing things as themselves. But in fact, driven by this psychology, people's behavior is often biased, and then they cannot better influence others to do things for themselves.

Projection effect: refers to the tendency to attribute one's own characteristics to other people. It is a cognitive disorder that thinks that if you have a certain characteristic, others will also have the same characteristics as yourself, and project your feelings, will, and characteristics onto others and impose them on others.

That is, in the process of interpersonal cognition, people often assume that others have the same attributes, hobbies or tendencies as themselves, and often assume that others take it for granted that they know what they think in their hearts. For example, a kind-hearted person will think that everyone else is good; A person who constantly calculates others will feel that others are also calculating him, and so on.

Famous experiment: Ross did this experiment to study the projection effect, asking 80 college students who participated in the experiment if they would like to walk around campus with a large sign on their backs. As a result, 48 college students agreed to walk around campus with signs on their backs, believing that most students would be happy to do so, while those who refused to do so generally agreed that only a few students were willing to do so.

It can be seen that these students project their attitudes onto other students [2]. Spend the belly of a gentleman with the heart of a villain" is a typical projection effect. When other people's behavior is different from ours, we are accustomed to using our own standards to measure others' behavior, thinking that others' behavior violates the norm; A person who likes to be jealous often attributes the motivation of others' behavior to jealousy, and if others are disrespectful to him, he feels that others are jealous of him.

Because of the projection effect, we can often infer the true intentions or psychological characteristics of a person from what they perceive about others. Because people have certain commonalities, have the same desires and requirements, so, in many cases, we make more correct assumptions about others, however, "people's hearts are different, each as its face", after all, there are differences between people, regardless of individual differences, random projection, there will be mistakes.