Help me! People with social phobia want to go on a blind date!

It's normal to be nervous beforehand, because of inexperience. Pour cold water on you first, your current state has less than a 30% chance of a successful blind date. Many people think about whether they can succeed before doing things, not whether I need to do this, I haven't thought that if I don't go, I won't have a wife, and I will be very miserable in the future, and you can't decide whether to succeed or not, what you can decide is to think about your own situation clearly, and think about your future personally, why not give it a go?

If I don't succeed in the job, I'll leave, and I'll get a few days' wages anyway. The blind date didn't work, and I took the experience and left. If you don't work, you won't have food, and if you don't go on a blind date, you won't have a wife.

Work must be done, because it is necessary to save life. Blind date is for happiness, if you feel satisfied if you have something to eat, then you can not go on a blind date, everything is just for yourself.

Mindset is to practice your social skills and self-confidence, and practice as much as you can, because this is a great opportunity for you to change yourself. If you want to behave better, practice by chatting with a few strangers or saying a few words before you meet, and your performance is directly proportional to the number of times you practice, so do more positive psychological cues. Most of the problems of social phobia can be solved through one's own practice, but there is no strong motivation.

Here's your chance.

It's okay that girl may be a sunny girl, maybe she will fall on you at a glance, and she should make you happy without you talking.

Don't wear glasses, then she should be blind.

How to solve social phobia?

Find the root cause. See what you're afraid of. Fear is psychological. People with poor psychological quality will have a phobia in some way. This can be changed through hard work.

Social phobia is a subtype of phobias, formerly known as phobia neurosis and a type of neurosis. Excessive and unreasonable fear of an objective object or situation in the outside world is the main manifestation, and the patient knows that this fear reaction is excessive or unreasonable, but it still recurs and is difficult to control.

Hello this friend!

Your problem is not social phobia, but afterglow compulsion, a type of obsessive-compulsive disorder;

You always can't control yourself to look at others, you look at others with your peripheral vision, you don't actually want to look, but you can't control yourself, resulting in others always staring at you in the end, and then you are very uncomfortable, and in the end you are afraid when you see people, you are afraid, and you don't even want to go out of the door.

Obsessive-compulsive disorder is a psychological problem that can be a**; I suggest that you find a more powerful psychological counselor to help you make a systematic adjustment. (If you don't have this condition, you can only find a way to self-regulate, the central idea of "Morita **" is; For example, if you want to smoke and you have a smoking addiction (smoking as a compulsive behavior), then someone comes to you and asks you to solve a very important matter, and you promise your friend to help him solve the problem

Best wishes!

Feeling a little depressed, what you lack most right now is self-confidence, not social phobia.

Hello, glad to answer for you.

You're about the same as me.

But then I changed and became a bit of an extrovert.

Because in the past day, I realized that introverts are no longer suitable for today's social trends, and they are too introverted to communicate with others.

At first, you can talk to people who are a little more familiar with you, first of all, you have to have etiquette, because you want to improve yourself, so you must first talk about other people's favorite topics, improve your favorability, and then abandon etiquette to a certain extent, become intimate with him, be casual, don't completely abide by the etiquette rules written in the book, but let others think that you are rigid (formal occasions are not counted).

That's how I am, little by little, getting to know each other, getting active little by little, it's not an overnight thing, it's a very practical sentence, it's really not okay to find a psychiatrist.

In fact, the most basic rule is, as long as the other party does not bother you, then you have the possibility of intimacy, friendship is accumulated bit by bit, only by understanding each other can you overcome fear, you do not take the initiative, and generally no one takes the initiative.

Only by taking the initiative with each other can we better understand each other, be familiar with each other, and listen carefully when others are talking

I recommend you to read "Challenging Low Complex" by psychoanalyst Audler.

It is necessary to find the root cause of your deep-seated social fear in order to change it.

Low self-esteem, shyness, introversion, have to give yourself confidence, be confident.

Every time you encounter this situation, you just say, "Cut, what is this?" I still don't believe it, I still have to try.

When no one is around, it will be much more comfortable to yell a few times into the sky.

The main manifestation of social fear is that it is afraid of dealing with people, is very sensitive to the stimuli of the outside world, and is always under an inexplicable pressure, and is very nervous. In the long run, there are some dangers like this. So how do you overcome your fear and socialize normally?

1. Think more about the harm of social fear, the importance of normal social interaction, and patients should try to socialize.

2. Write down the reasons for the fear of socializing and see the worst outcome. In the end, it wasn't as terrible as I imagined, but I thought too much, and no one cared too much about you, just scared myself.

3. You can talk to yourself first, talk to the big trees and scarecrows in the open field, treat them as your own audience, and try to explain your own opinions in an orderly manner. You can also read your favorite articles aloud at home. Try to be natural and relaxed.

Let yourself speak first.

4. Talk to the people closest to you, and try to find as many topics as you can talk to. Relaxed and enjoyable communication. Exercise your courage and overcome your fears.

5. Gradually go to strangers to communicate and snore. First of all, you can say some words that you encounter in daily life, such as: how are you feeling today, and you have a happy event to share today.

From simple to complex, step by step. In fact, the speaker belt is really interesting, you can share the happiness of others, after tasting the sweetness of speaking, you are getting bolder and bolder, and finally you dare to speak in front of the public, enjoying the pride and sense of accomplishment that everyone is paying attention to. The main thing is to put down your face, take the first step, and be bold in your attempts.