Matchmaker economy? Is the blind date introduced by the matchmaker credible?

In today's China, matchmaking is indeed a profession, and if it is done well, it is very profitable, especially in the countryside, and in the cities, it is generally an institution, that is, a marriage agency.

My grandmother's family has a very powerful matchmaker, and she makes a lot of money because she introduces people to people. In their village, the ** is that the matchmaker leads to meet and gives the matchmaker melon seeds and sugar, and there are also one or two hundred meeting fees, if the two of them are successful, the engagement and marriage must be given to the matchmaker like candy snacks for relatives and friends, and another five or six hundred money will be paid. This is just a general standard, if you meet a child who is not in good condition and difficult to find a partner, you have to give the matchmaker more money.

I heard that there is a boy in their village whose personal conditions are very bad, he is short, fat and dark, and he has not found a partner in his twenties-four-five, and the family is very anxious, and the family conditions are still very good.

My husband's grandfather is also a matchmaker in their village, and he often rides electric tricycles around to talk about matchmaking when he is old, and once he even pulled a relative of ours to go with him, saying that the money given by the matchmaker is calculated according to the capitation, and the more people who go, they will give an extra money, and they can earn five or six hundred at a time.

In fact, I think this is indeed a good industry in China, which can not only bring people income but also provide a place for those who are single, but now many people have become exaggerated in order to make money due to the trend of interests, and there are not so good conditions to be said by the matchmaker to become very good, if you contact for a long time, you can still slowly find out the facts, and if you are far away and can't inquire about it and the contact time is not long, it is easy to be fooled.

Now in this society, the matchmaker economy should no longer be so popular, in today's various social software is so developed, people's understanding is no longer only dependent on the matchmaker, and now some of the more popular blind date software such as: Century Jiayuan, Lily.com, Youyuan.com There are many friends like this, and everyone is going to get married.

I still remember when I was a child, the streets and alleys were enthusiastic matchmakers, their favorite thing was to go to each house to see the right young men and women, and then see if they had the intention of getting married, if the parents of the people didn't mind, then the opportunity for the matchmaker came, all kinds of fancy praise of each other's boys or girls, until their parents couldn't wait to see what they called "a young man" and "beautiful as a fairy" girl, at that time the matchmaker didn't care about getting too much money, What I like more is the good intentions to facilitate a marriage, but some matchmakers will also want some snacks and fabrics in return. After all, this job is mainly based on eloquence and does not require much cultural knowledge and professional skills.

A few years ago, matchmakers in the countryside were still very popular, because ordinary people did not have the opportunity to contact all kinds of men and women of appropriate age, but matchmakers were different, whose daughters and sons reached the age of marriage in ten miles and eight villages, they all knew in their hearts, and remembered that in previous years, matchmakers could get about 1,000 commissions for every marriage they promoted, so this money is also a considerable income for most rural people.

Now a new type of "matchmaker" is a variety of social blind dates**, instead of the traditional matchmaker, it is equivalent to providing a platform and bridge for young men and women, boys and girls pay a small amount of money, you can choose a variety of interested objects, there is no pressure, you like to socialize together, you don't need to force each other if you don't like it.

The key point is not who introduced the blind date, but what the mentality of the person introduced.

Parents and elders were serious and cautious in the early stage, and after weighing all aspects before opening their mouths, they succeeded a lot.

If it must be said that the blind date introduced by the parents and elders is difficult to achieve, in addition to the fact that most people do not live in the same city with their parents now, or the parents and elders have a more casual attitude, and feel that those who live alone with different genders meet the standards for introducing their children; Either the parents and elders are too concerned about the situation after the introduction, and feel that they are good at everything they have introduced, ignoring individual needs and orientations; It is more likely that the parents and elders completely ignore the child's positioning and advantages and disadvantages in the blind date market, and want to find it according to their own minds with their eyes closed, without considering the child's thoughts at all, such as good economic conditions, establishment, knowing the roots, and being good at grasping these "advantages" that are partial and comprehensive, and the children get along with them, completely ignoring the reality that the two sides do not have any common language and cannot produce feelings.

The way of understanding blind date determines whether the two parties know each other or not, and the quality of the relationship depends to a certain extent on the introducer. If the introducer himself is familiar with the situation, has a clear mind and is impartial, whether the introducer is an elder or an equal, he can get along well. After all, compared with free love, the advantage of blind date is that each other can understand in advance some of the situations that are not easy to ask, such as income, family conditions, parents' work, personal work ability and even parents and personal conduct.

2.The family introduced it is slightly better, but generally women have a higher tone, and it is difficult to make it. I don't know why, it's the woman who always thinks that someone supports them or what, anyway, my feeling is that the woman introduced by the family, I have to face the pressure of the three parties, the pressure of the woman, the pressure of the introducer, and the pressure of my parents, I always think that I can't talk, it's my problem, the woman has no problem at all, and she does ideological work for me at every turn, so that I can take the initiative, they don't know what the woman's attitude towards me is.

3.It's best to find a partner by yourself, don't let others introduce, these days, let others introduce, it's not very reliable, women don't seem to be coming on a blind date, the kind that is very aggrieved, it seems to be to complete the task.

These days, it's really hard to find a partner, so difficult that most men don't want to find it, in the words of my friend, all his unhappiness now is because of finding a partner.

I can't say that, in fact, now there are matchmakers who are not necessarily reliable, and the profession of matchmaker is also derived from ancient Chinese culture.

When our country was in a feudal society, the suppression of women was very powerful, and there were countless sayings such as "men and women are not at the same age at the age of seven" and "men and women are not kissed", and girls will not have their own names until they get married, and even some have no names at all. How can such a woman with no status come to a free love.

But in order to pass on the family lineage in order to inherit the family, the man will hire some local middle-aged and elderly women who can speak well to propose marriage to the home of a woman of the right age.

Nowadays, it is not practical for many people to find matchmakers just to be reliable, and I think matchmakers are not necessarily credible.

Half and half of it.

Some people are married on a blind date and are very affectionate.

Some are not doing well.

And matchmakers are also important.

If you are an acquaintance, you will know both families.

The introduction should be a good match.

So it's up to the individual Young people nowadays are quite averse to blind dates.

It's not completely reliable, it depends on the relationship between the matchmaker and your side, if the relationship is average, the matchmaker will praise the other party very well, and can't see what the reality is, of course, the final result is still to be able to vote or not.

I think it's reliable, much stronger than the current Internet, the bar is much stronger, it must be introduced by acquaintances, the least information is there, the key is that everyone is busy now, and it can only be solved by blind dates. No matter what you choose. But while you're young, be sure to keep your eyes open.

A lifelong thing.

The key is to see if this matchmaker is reliable. Some are very reliable, some are very unreliable.

Not necessarily, if the matchmaker is your acquaintance, then it's okay, the intermediary, you have to know more.

I think so, some people are too enthusiastic to say no in person, so they can only go once, and then it will be a bad deal.

I think many people go on blind dates just to give the matchmaker a face, because the matchmaker is generally an elder who is closer to him. And this kind of thing most people want to grasp by themselves.

No, some people really want to go on a blind date, because a blind date can give the other party one more chance to grow their relationship, but some people choose to go on a blind date to cope with their elders.

Yes, many people now believe that it is really just to give the matchmaker a face, because in their hearts they actually don't want to go on a blind date and don't want to get married.

No, many people go on a blind date because they feel it is necessary, so it is basically unrealistic to go on a blind date to give face to the matchmaker. We are responsible for our marriages.

Yes, some people may not be able to refuse, so they agree to go out and meet with each other, because many times the matchmaker who introduces us to the partner is a friend of the parents, and it is really difficult to refuse.

It is very likely that because she doesn't want to go on a blind date, and then the matchmaker always finds her a blind date, she can't refuse the matchmaker too absolutely, so she goes on a blind date.

Yes, because none of my people are my aunts. My aunt was so enthusiastic that I was really embarrassed not to go, but I didn't expect the man she introduced to me to be too ugly.

No, in fact, blind dates are indeed a way to get to know someone, and some people can find someone they can be with for a lifetime through blind dates.

I think many people go on blind dates just to give face to matchmakers, because most matchmakers are friends of their parents, and she really wants to help me find a partner, so I'm really embarrassed to quit.