What does it feel like to let go of someone you ve loved for years?

It's easy to fall in love with someone, but it's not easy to love someone deeply. Years of running-in have made the two people inseparable, you have me, I have you. All it takes is a look from the other person to understand. <>

There may be many reasons why each of us gives up on the other, but it is certainly something that has been tried hard but has not yet been achieved. I've seen such a couple who used to be enviable, they are my seniors. Everything about them is very compatible, the boy is very caring, and no matter what he does, he will put the girl first.

For her sake, everything can be arranged properly. At the beginning, it was all vigorous love, but the hardest thing about love was the ordinary minute and second, and the couples around them were dividing and merging.

In this way, they still fell in love for six years until they graduated from college. I thought that I was not young anymore, and I took it home so that my parents could see their beloved, and I could plan for the future of the two. But the result was not as satisfactory as we had hoped, and the boy's condition was not very satisfactory to the girl's family, who did not agree to let the girl have sex with the boy again, and the relationship for so many years was over.

On the day they broke up, they wanted to do everything they did together again, but in the end they did cry with their heads in their arms.

Sometimes love is like this, I miss you, but I can't tell you. can only let the thoughts flood in the night. You fell in love with him so much that you couldn't help yourself.

But when you are separated, you find that you can no longer love. His shadow can only live in your heart.

Sometimes you can't let go of someone, not because that person is irreplaceable, but because you have spent too much time and energy on that person, and once separated, it is as if the castle that you have carefully built with your time and youth has collapsed.

In fact, there is sadness and a sense of relief.

Over the years, I once liked a boy who made me very excited, because it was the first time to be tempted, and I paid special attention to it, I never thought I would be tempted when I liked it, but then I could only accept it silently, after all, like what an uncontrollable thing, just like the song "Love has to be" sang, many times it is really difficult to suppress feelings with reason, but at that time I didn't understand that the person who was tempted first was destined to love the deepest, and it was destined to be harder. <>

I like him for less than three years, I really have no reservations when I like him, and I don't know that he actually has a girlfriend when I was just tempted, so what else can I do, I can only love silently, like it silently. I still remember that many nights in those two years would silently write those unspeakable words in my diary, and I feel very sorry for myself when I think about it now. Maybe it's because the relationship between the two people is usually tacit and they're good friends, maybe some people can see it, maybe he just knows it in his heart but pretends not to know, or maybe.

Many people joke that we want to be together or that we are too ambiguous, but I can only lightly refute, and then keep a little distance, graduated that year, classmates coaxed together, but in the end just drank the first glass of wine in their lives, silently waiting for the stalemate to end, we couldn't be together after all, maybe not good enough or not beautiful enough. In short, in the end, we are still friends, and maybe we can only be friends forever.

A few months later, it was the year the college entrance examination ended, and once I really couldn't help but tell him about those years. But so what, even though he was already single at that time, the relationship between the two was not the same as it was back then. At the end of that year, I silently wrote in my diary that I let go, and there would still be tears falling, but I was not very sad, maybe I was mourning the innocent self that year, maybe I was mourning the deep affection I paid in those days that year, and of course I felt sorry for the hard work of myself.

But I had a clear feeling of letting go that year, and I felt a kind of relief. After letting go, although sometimes I will see his shadow when I look at other boys, and see the bright boy back then, I have less pressure and sadness to get along with him than back then. Now we are friends, very good friends, and I have never regretted my decision, but later I also understood that in fact, the two of us have always been more suitable to be friends.

Even though I still think of all the things of the past, I just laughed at it, maybe after a long time, many things began to slowly look down.

No one wants to give up the person they love, but the reality is too helpless, and fate is over. Some pain has been held in my heart for a long time, and one day I was extremely disappointed when I broke out together, and I stopped loving because I was too tired. Time passed, and thinking back to the past a long time ago felt like a world away.

But when the obsession fades, you will understand that the love and hate brought to you by the person you once loved do not seem to be as painful as before, and people will slowly grow up in the hurt and slowly forget. There are thousands of reasons for giving up, and the result is only one to leave, since love can't be, it's just that the fate is not deep enough, and what you missed should not be remembered. It's not as deep as the truth, but it's not as cool as the heart.

I don't want to give up so I keep insisting, I don't want to cry so I keep pretending to laugh, and I pay without hesitation, but in the end, my flesh and blood are blurred. Some love is desperate to keep it, but there is still no result, and people's hearts can't be exchanged for people's hearts. Again and again I was sad and disappointed, and I forgave and repeated again and again, but I really couldn't find a reason to persevere, so I gave up.

In fact, people who have tasted the cold know that such a disappointment is extreme, freezing three feet is not a day's cold, and it is also expected again and again, and the disappointment again and again is completely dead in an instant.

He doesn't deserve your tears because someone who truly loves you won't make you cry. The most important thing in the relationship between two people is trust, and if you have been disappointed too many times, you may be able to forgive, but it is difficult to believe again. If you can't see the future, just let it go, it's not too late to stop loving him, no matter how late it is, it's better than a lifetime of heartache, and if you don't love it, you will be relieved.

Waiting for someone who doesn't love you is like waiting for a ship at the airport.

Don't think about what you can't get, don't wait if you can't wait. Love or not, time will not make decisions for you, and time will not produce qualitative changes.

Between two people, the reason why feelings arise should first of all be dependence. The saying of affection is that there is grace first and then love. Both sides are moved, and then there will be love.

The good-looking skins are the same, and the interesting souls are one in a thousand. It's better to wait for an interesting soul than to wait for a pair of skins, good-looking can't accompany you for a lifetime, fun is companionship. It's easy to be tempted because of the facial features; It is not easy to be moved, because of the three views.

It's just that one day, all of a sudden, you grow up and learn to be kind to yourself. Let the future be expected, and let the future be encountered.

If you can't wait, don't wait, one-sided love, only pay, will not last.

I believe that every adult boy and girl has also fallen in love with an impossible person, has been waiting silently, they have become an older leftover man and woman because of their crush, everyone may have experienced this impossible emotion, everyone may have a crush on a person they like, of course, this can only be a crush on Chunyan, so sometimes we need to give up the person we like for many years, and there are many reasons to give up.

Sometimes a crush is very beautiful, and having that memory needs to be cherished. If you fall in love with an impossible person, be self-aware and end this crush quickly so that you have a chance to start a new love. Give up the person you like for many years, it may be that the person you like for many years has a new partner, he is no longer single, he has not given others another chance to get him, so we have to learn to give up, only this is good for ourselves, but also for the person you like.

Yicheng regarded me as a good friend and continued to pay attention to him silently. Obviously, the reason why some people give up the people they like for many years is also because the people who have liked them for many years just treat themselves as ordinary friends, and it is completely impossible to treat them as partners, so at this time, many people may die for this person who has liked them for many years. Because they knew that they would not be able to be with this person for the rest of their lives, they gave up.

Your liking for that person will diminish over time until it all disappears eventually. In this world, there are other people who are worthy of your love, and there are other people who can make your heart move. Because I waited for too long, sometimes my likes were exhausted.

What does it feel like to give up a person who has been liked for many years, this depends on the specific leakage of early love and lack of search and sales, I think if it is suddenly found that he was deceived, then after giving up on him, it will be a feeling of relief.

From the perspective of cognitive psychology, when we break away from a relationship, it is a kind of social rejection, which means that we are excluded from a certain social relationship.

It is undeniable that the longer a relationship lasts, the greater the impact of the breakup on both parties. As we search for our next intimate relationship, we have a lot of mixed emotions.

Specifically, it includes the following aspects:

1.We don't have a fixed perception of feelings.

2.Once a new relationship is new, it is easy for us to feel unstable and insecure.

3.In the face of a relationship that has broken up, we still have heartache, and it contains physical and psychological pain.

Specifically, completely giving up on a loved one brings up three feelings.

Cognitive changes.

On the one hand, after the breakup, both parties will have a feeling of falling into the empty world.

Psychologist Harries first proposed the Interpersonal Cognitive System (ICS), in which he believed that two people in a relationship would have a common cognitive system to fill the void in their hearts.

You are inseparable, your lives are intertwined, and over time, he is also within the scope of your cognitive system. When you are separated, you will feel that your cognition is no longer complete, and you will feel abandoned and lonely.

You will often recall the bits and pieces of your past, and every time you come to a familiar scene, you will also subconsciously recall the past.

If two people have been together for a long time and have a deep relationship, both parties are not ready to form one with others again before breaking up. Whether it's the party who is breaking up or being broken up, this sense of vacancy will occupy most of the heart.

If we want to fill this gap, we need a certain amount of time to experience different people and things.

Feel uneasy. Giving up on someone you love means that you are actively ending the intimate relationship. Given up by someone you love, you feel so low in self-worth that you are "abandoned".

When the rhythm of your life changes from being used to being two people to being one again, there will be a strong sense of insecurity and instability.

Moreover, this end of intimacy will challenge our view of love, the way we look at things, and our imagination of the nature of love.

We have to jump out of the imaginary romantic love to face the real reality, and this leakage period after the breakup is the most difficult low point for us to survive. When we face our next intimacy, we are afraid of repeating the same mistakes again.

Although it is said that falling out of love makes us grow up quickly, longing still makes us anxious and even doubtful about life and the world.

Falling out of love is not only a separation from a person, but also a reshaping of the three views of the world.

Heartache"At the moment of breakup, we feel the heartache that is real, and even this heartache lasts for a long time. This heartache is not psychological, but physiologically caused by a strong physical reaction.

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