My parents can t understand my thoughts, so I live separately, will it be unfilial?

No. Living separately can better solve the problem, let your parents understand your thoughts, and don't make your parents angry, which can be regarded as a kind of filial piety. Wait until your parents understand your idea, and then move back in with them.

I think that's the best way to solve your current problems. Let's take a look at two of the benefits of living separately.

First, give your parents and you a buffer time. When your parents can't understand your thoughts, you have to insist on your own ideas, so that you live together, and when you meet every day, there will be many contradictions, your parents blame you for not being sensible, and you complain about your parents' incomprehension, and after a long time, the contradictions will be difficult to ease. So, move out and give your parents a little space so that they can slowly accept your ideas.

Although you don't live with them for a while, it won't change your love for them. Distance produces beauty, when your relationship with your parents eases, then slowly explain your thoughts to your parents so that they can accept you from their hearts.

Second, facts speak louder than words. Speak with facts, since your parents can't understand your thoughts, then move out and do it for them, and use facts to prove that your ideas are correct, only if you use facts to verify your ideas can be successful, then even if you don't explain anything to your parents, they will understand you. It's better than living together and making the family atmosphere discordant with your parents every day because of your ideas, so that your parents are angry with you every day, and you feel uncomfortable.

Filial piety does not mean that living together is filial piety, and not living together is not filial piety. What's more, you are not living outside for a long time, as long as the conflict is resolved, you can move back to live with your parents. Filial piety is in the heart, not in these external forms.

So, I think it's better for you to move out and live separately from your parents for a while.

Nowadays, many young people will not live with their parents, sometimes because of external factors such as conditions, environment, and work, and sometimes because of the generation gap between children and parents, parents do not understand their children's thoughts, so children will even choose to move out if they have the ability. But I am also worried that it will be unfilial if I leave my parents. However, I don't think that's the case.

The right distance produces beauty. I think this applies to friends, but also to children and parents. Don't think that leaving your parents is unfilial, if your parents have enough ability to live, it is okay to leave your own living space for your parents, so if your parents can think about it, know that you live for yourself, and live separately Parents can still accept it, try to choose to live separately.

Just keep in mind that your parents aren't traveling far away. My college roommate, when the parents of the male ticket prepared a house for her male ticket, they chose not to live together and leave enough living space for both parties. Besides, I don't know if everyone has found out, if you don't go home for a long time, as soon as you go home, you will be treated as an emperor and princess, even if parents and children have different ideas, they will take into account each other's feelings and try to be good to each other.

In my opinion, this long time of not seeing each other not only did not reduce the relationship between the two parties, but maintained the relationship between the two parties. It's better than staying by your parents' side every day, looking at each other and hating each other, and making yourself and your parents unhappy every day.

So, in my opinion, if there is always a conflict of views between parents and children, it is better for both parties to live separately. I think it's also a way to manage relationships.

In fact, sometimes parents may be too much ****, and then many parents make the same mistake, and sometimes they will forcibly add their ideas to their children, because they feel that they are older than their children, so much must understand more than their children. And then in fact, they just want their children to take a little less detours, in fact, they are all for the good of their children, but sometimes it may be particularly easy to do bad things with good intentions, and then in fact, it is not easy for parents, in fact, with the development of the times, there will indeed be some generation gaps between us and our parents, because what happens around us is very different from that time of our parents, so when we want to do something, our parents have no way to understand us.

In fact, I don't think this can be said to be unfilial, because after all, you are also a person, and you should have your own ideas, and your parents should not be too involved in your life. Combine it with social reality, and then tell your parents, I think that as long as you say it is in place, even if your parents can't understand the problem, they will understand you.

In fact, no matter what, I think you can know that in fact, your parents are the people who love you the most in the world, that is, no matter how much conflict you have with them, as long as you need help in the end, your parents will actually lend a helping hand, I still don't want to see you talk to your parents now, I hope to be able to communicate more with your parents.

Why do you think it's unfilial to do so? First of all, if your parents can't understand your thoughts, they will definitely scold you often. When you don't get along with your parents, you won't get along.

In fact, every time our parents reprimanded us, they were very sad. So if it's not fun to live together, why not move out? <>

And even if you take 10,000 steps back, you will always leave home one day in the future, and one day you will start a family by yourself and go out by yourself to have your own living space, so is this not filial piety?

And sometimes you have to wonder if what you're doing is really wrong. Parents are experienced people who use their life experiences to tell us what was a detour, what was wrong, and what was right. So sometimes they see that you're on the wrong path and want to tell you.

But parents always seem to have a sense of superiority and will never talk to their children in an equal way. I always like to tell us directly that you are wrong and which sentence is wrong. In fact, they sat down and talked to us well, and we may not be unreceptive to their suggestions.

If you feel constrained by living with your parents, you can also choose to move out. However, if you are not yet an adult, it is recommended that you do not move out. Moving out is just adding to the chaos, and you can't solve your own life needs.

And after a long time, you will know. It's still good at home, you can eat when you want, sleep when you want, and when it's cold, someone will help you add clothes. Hungry, someone to help you cook.

If you are in your thirties or forties, whether you choose to live out or not, remember to spend more time with your parents. After all, their time is already counting down.

I'll tell you for sure: you're not unfilial! I'm going to explain it to you from a psychological point of view, and I hope it can help you

Social dictatorship does belong to the existence of classes, and class solidification is a problem that almost every country has to face, and when classes are solidified, there will inevitably be a "Matthew effect". That is, the rich get richer and the poor get poorer, and the social impact is that the upward channel narrows.

ok！！！Let's look at it from another angle, and ask the subject to take a closer look:

The rich class, going back to three generations, they are definitely not rich, so the prosperity of a family is not something that can be completed by one generation, it may take several generations of efforts, at least the subject is now aware of it, I think this is very good! You can be the leader of your family! Isn't that a good thing?

Secondly, it is normal for parents to be bound by the limitations of the times in which they lived, and everyone will have their own historical limitations. Who can guarantee that he will not be despised by his children in the future? Having a different point of view means that you are thinking seriously and you want to change, which is a good thing!

Again, the difference between the poor and the rich is not the value of wealth, but the level of awareness! People can never earn money beyond their own level of knowledge, and even if they can, it is luck, and society will still harvest your wealth through various means. You can look at the history of poor people who have won the lottery, and a few of them are doing well.

Finally, now that you are aware of it, you can make a change strategy according to your current situation. My advice is: work and study at the same time, find your own upward path, and constantly improve yourself.

In fact, this is a deep heart, not mature enough, deep down in the heart has not really understood some truths, that is, the importance of family affection, some superficial thoughts.

At this time, you have not realized the importance of real parents, and how to say it, there is a certain problem in your mentality, and you think yourself is too important, and then there may be times when there will be problems in communicating with your parents, and you should pay attention to these points when getting along with your family.

I have some suggestions for the handling of family relationships: 1. Be humble, don't be a needle to each other about everything, give each other more opportunities, think more about each other, avoid unnecessary conflicts, and family affection is priceless. 2. A surprise creates a dramatic effect, and often many contradictions are lost in jokes.

3. Divide responsibilities, assume your own responsibilities and obligations, do more for the family, and think less for yourself. 4. Dualized communication, many conflicts are due to the lack of communication between family members, which exacerbates the conflicts. 5. Be open-minded, life is short, we should create a harmonious society and a harmonious family, think about everything, don't worry about everything, don't intrigue, don't be greedy, be open-minded, and be grateful to live a relaxed and happy life.

Child, even though you are 33 years old, allow me to call you that, because your life has only just begun.

Everyone back.

There is a hand of cards, but how to play depends on the individual. What seems to you to be a bad hand, but it seems to me to have a bright future.

First of all, parents can't keep up with the times, congratulations, you have normal parents, because everyone is limited to their own growth, and in the end they will not be able to keep up with the times, you, me, all individuals.

Secondly, because of their limitations, although they can't help you, they give you the greatest freedom!! Is there any, free!! What you want to do, how you want to do it, how you want to plan your life, completely control it!!

In the end, your cards may be different from others, but God does not give birth to useless people, your cards must have bright spots, play well! There is only one life, within the bottom line of kindness, live life to the fullest! Complaining, complaining, these things don't make sense.

Please cherish what you have and let it blossom!

The moon is bright from the middle of the autumn to the mid-autumn equinox.

Copy, every good bai

Thinking of relatives. Parents, no matter whether we are rich or noble or lost and confused, they will cook a hot meal and wait for us to go back to our home.

True water has no fragrance, true love has no words. Sometimes they're nagging, sometimes they're stubborn, and sometimes they're annoying us. But more often than not, when we go far away, we gradually understand that their chatter is all about caring and loving us.

Our world is always big, but we often ignore them; The world of our parents is really small, but it is always full of us. We always want to be more successful and come back to our parents when we are free. However, the rate at which our parents age is far greater than the rate at which we can work hard.

No matter how big the world is, it is no bigger than a home with someone waiting for you. A child's greatest wish is that his parents are healthy and safe; The most important gift that parents want is for their children to come home often. This Mid-Autumn Festival, while your parents are alive and the time is right, put down work, put down socializing, and go home to see them.

As children grow up, they will slowly have their own thoughts and judgments, and the things they encounter every day are not necessarily.

Willing to share everything with their parents and mothers, some parents will answer that they are very disappointed and feel that their children are estranged from themselves, how to deal with this situation? Let me tell you.

1. Don't care about the child's inner thoughts.

Sometimes children may want to communicate with their parents, but parents do not care about their children's hearts, have no patience or even understand what their children say, and thus arbitrarily think that children are making trouble. And the child does not know what the parents are thinking and what they want them to do, but the child is not a puppet and has his own thoughts, so parents should respect their ideas.

2. It seems that only the things of adults are the most important.

Sometimes parents don't take their children's demands, what they say, and what they do. Think they're just kids who just need to eat, sleep, and study well. But children also have thoughts, and parents should sit down and listen patiently to their children.

3. Make all kinds of demands on your children, but you can't do it.

This phenomenon is very common among a large number of parents, sometimes they can't do it themselves, but they blindly ask their children, as if in their eyes, children should listen to their parents.

Therefore, parents should respect their children, usually take more time to spend with their children, and in a relaxed and happy environment, communication will naturally be smooth.