How can we be pampered?

Watch more movies, read books, watch TV, watch anime, and live a hundred flavors. And try more things that you haven't done before, so that you can exercise yourself for a long time and find your own shining point. If you have self-confidence and self-knowledge, you will not be surprised or frightened by any judgment that others make about you.

Tell the truth, do practical things, don't do things that are sorry for others, and don't do bad things. Think big and don't just limit yourself to this small area around you. When your vision is far higher than the environment you are in, you will naturally be able to be pampered.

First of all, train yourself to be moody and invisible, learn to control your emotions, and don't let yourself lose control because of a little thing. Then it is to establish the correct three views, which are more conducive to your correct understanding of the world, yourself, and your life.

I think it's easy to say it's easy to say it's not shocked, and it's hard to say it's hard. Generally, those who are not shocked are those who have seen the world, and they can do it without changing their faces when Mount Tai collapses in front of them. To put it bluntly, you have less experience, which is also closely related to the heart, and it is generally difficult for children who are very cheerful to be pampered, and that kind of naturally introverted children are easy to hide their inner thoughts, not that they deliberately do so, just because they are born without knowing how to express their thoughts.

When a person is suddenly favored or humiliated by someone else, he must be surprised in his heart. It is a conditioned reflex and a natural response, which is the accumulation of memory patterns and experiences formed by the body and mind over a long period of time. Although everyone knows that pampering and not being shocked is a standard of cultivation, no one can do it.

On the other hand, it is easy to be shocked if everyone is pampered.

Pampering and not being shocked is a very famous sentence in the "Tao Te Ching". In fact, as long as a person achieves these four words, he has already reached the realm of the Tao. But it looks easy, but it's hard to do, and in life, people who can be pampered and not shocked are simply rare and extremely rare.

If you are humiliated, it means that the external environment is unfavorable to you, there is a potential attack and danger, and you will further get the conclusion that you are denied, and if you are denied by the outside world, it means that you will be eliminated and eliminated, which is similar to death. So a person will be surprised when he is pampered, or when he is humiliated. Being pampered is a surprise, being humiliated is a horror, and the direction of energy is different, but it will also make a person's heart turbulent and no longer peaceful.

Lao Tzu put forward a standard in the "Tao Te Ching", which is called pampering and humiliation. When a person is pampered or humiliated, there is little inner reaction. It's like a calm lake, no matter how much you love it or humiliate it, it's still so calm.

Then the difficulty lies in the word "no". Because "no" represents a kind of confrontation and a kind of negation.

Read a lot! After reading a lot of books, you naturally have another understanding of life, and naturally you will no longer feel that you are very great because of a little achievement, and you understand that you will have a higher and farther way to go in the future, and set your goals higher.

If you think about it deeply, you have been pampered and humiliated, and there is panic in your heart, which may be related to the consciousness of death. In the human subconscious, if a person is pampered, it proves that he is affirmed, implying that the external environment is suitable for him to survive better.

Xunzi Daily Class 096丨In the workplace, how can you be pampered and not surprised.

1. To be pampered and not frightened: you need a good psychological quality and noble personality charm, a calm mentality, never be anxious, do not like things and not be sad for yourself, don't make yourself very sad because of a moment of ups and downs, and communicate with friends.

2, the bright and skillful moon breeze, do not work to seek, pampered and humiliated people in daily life and interpersonal relations, there is always a relaxed and leisurely mentality and performance, which is the embodiment of cultural cultivation and moral cultivation blind files, "the gentleman is frank, the villain is long grinding wide and chaotic relatives", this sentence can be said to be three points, of course, for such people is not at all useless, full of food all day long, idle, with the ups and downs of the world, but into a noble life realm.

It is to ask you to look at the world calmly, take the injustice of life as your own experience, the good and the bad are precious experiences, do not complain, if you can, I am willing to use the most kind and sincere heart, to deal with all the tribulations of life.

Finally, let's say something to add: Even if the wind rises, life will not give up!

Pampering is a kind of real tolerance for life, a full attitude of gratitude and contentment, humility is because you get what you want, and you have an honest and objective attitude towards what you can't get. It's not self-hypnotic telling myself: life is beautiful, I should be very calm.

Buddha's exhaustion: Do the things of entering the world with the attitude of birth. We are all just ordinary people, we can't be just without desire, it is good to be able to seek a moment of peace and not fight and not be angry, so why bother to embarrass ourselves with the appearance of a saint. Life is too short to explain everything.

Calming down should be a natural process. Because it is my own active choice, there is no helplessness in it. Such a realm should be a kind of prosperity and sincerity, a kind of calmness that is not shocked, a kind of calmness that laughs at the ups and downs of life, and a kind of wisdom that has gone through the vicissitudes of time - such a realm is probably what everyone craves.

Different periods, different people, have experienced different lives, and will have different perceptions. Calm and calm, it is after the noisy noise, it is after the big ups and downs, there are memories of the noise, and there is a perception of wind and rain.

Be a calm person like an orchid and open safely.

It's not the indifference to the feelings, but the sake left after the emotional precipitation and filtering, the transparent glass, through which you can see the color of life, calm and calm, faint color, and the heart is full of feelings.

This is more difficult, pampered and humiliated, which means that you don't take it to heart when you are favored or humiliated. Describe not being tempted by gains and losses. It depends on the individual's temperament, looking at things, and don't always focus on fame and fortune.