When you grow up, do you have to control your emotions?

Everyone has emotions, almost every day we are accompanied by emotions, happy and excited when encountering good things, frustrated and lost when encountering problems, and fearful and worried when encountering challenges. When we grow, it's not about controlling our emotions, it's about that

1.Ability to recognize one's own emotions

For emotions, many people are in a state of ignorance, that is, they lose their temper and they are not aware of it. So at this stage we are controlled by emotions, and emotions happen automatically. The first sign of growth is that we realize that we are happy or sad about something, and we have emotions about it.

2.Be aware of the reasons behind your emotions

Gradually, when the same emotion recurs, we can perceive why this is happening. For example, I used to get angry when my family and friends said that I like to post on Moments, and later realized that I was criticizing me by expressing them like this, and the deeper awareness was that I found that I especially needed the approval of others, and once others questioned it, there would be negative emotions. So, this awareness will support us to transform our emotions, to make peace with them, and to learn from them.

3.Accept your emotions

Many times we hate our negative emotions and seem to wish we could be happy all the time, but this is not possible. So, as we grow, our change is to accept our emotions more and more, emotions can come and go, we can look at them without being controlled by them, and we don't do things that hurt ourselves and others because negative emotions appear. We think of emotions as normal and are here to remind ourselves of things we need to pay attention to.

As we continue to grow, we will realize that emotions are indeed a good gift to help us better discover ourselves, accept ourselves, and allow ourselves to continue to break through and improve.

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When we were young, we would make a lot of noise whenever we didn't like something, and we didn't know that our noise would affect other people. And when we were young, we were more likely to get one thing, and that was forgiveness.

As we grow up, we realize that our temper can't be casually spoken, and your emotions will affect many people.

At home, our emotions will affect our parents, they will worry about you, and they will feel that there is something wronged in your heart. At school, your emotions will affect the classmates around you, making them feel that you are a manic and unapproachable person, and you will gradually lose the friendships they bring you. When you grow up and work, your emotions will affect the colleagues or bosses around you, and people in society will no longer be simple, they will think that you are for profit, everyone is selfish, and your emotions will not be understood.

When we were children, we could be forgiven for losing our temper, but when we grew up, we should have nothing to trust except to reveal our inner thoughts to our parents. <>

In this world, except for the parents who love you and the people who are really good to you, everyone else is an outsider, and when you vent your emotions, they will only take your emotions as a joke, and some people may ask you what's wrong, but do they really care about you, and the answer is no. You have to believe that no one in this world can really understand you except yourself, who knows your inner thoughts. Their greeting is actually to test whether you are really doing well, if it is good, they will be jealous of you, if not, their hearts will be happy.

Therefore, when we grow, our emotions should not be easily exposed.

When you grow up, you have to take on certain responsibilities, and you have to learn to control your emotions and be the master of your emotions.

At a certain age, you know that there are some things that you can't help yourself, and some words that you can't say sincerely. Sometimes when I am sad and sad, I have to pretend to be strong in front of others, force my face to laugh, and cry loudly afterwards when no one is around. Think about it, too, people must not be arrogant, but they must not be arrogant.

When we were children, we were child-faced, moody, and we would be happy for a day because we got a candy. You will also be sad because your favorite toy is damaged. I was playing a game happily a second ago, and if I was criticized, I would definitely cry out loud. <>

I have a little nephew, he always clamored for us to run with him, to see who could run fast, we all let him at first, he thought he was very good, always the first. Later, we were busy with our own business, and we didn't care about him. And immediately he began to cry, and said with a crying voice:

I just want to play with my aunt and run ...... together"I think he's cute.

When we grow up, we learn to hide some emotions in our hearts and not show them, and I think this is not disguise, not hypocrisy, but taking responsibility for our own actions. I won't be angry casually, we all know that impulse is the devil. Sad and crying, I also secretly did it in the corner.

I think of my parents again, they seem to be able to do anything in my heart, they will do everything as long as I need it, they will definitely find a way to do it, they are my role models, they are my umbrella. They are always strong in my eyes, they never cry in front of me, even if life is so difficult, they never say bitterness, but be the masters of life. Be the master of your emotions.

I remember my boss said to me, no one pays for your emotions or temper, you have to lose your temper and lose your temper against the wall alone, no one is your emotional trash can! I have always kept this sentence in my mind, because I know that my temper and emotions are generally not controlled at that time, and any thoughts or emotions are expressed on my face at any time, and it is easy to offend people, because I don't owe you money, why are you making a face to me, so try to control your emotions!

My current colleague is a man, about the same age as me, but I have to admit that he still has the ability to work, and general things can be solved quickly, which is also what I admire him, but what I hate about him is that he has a very bad temper, and his temper is a little inexplicable, if he is in a bad mood one day, you can tell from his face, and it is best to stay away from him as far away as possible that day, under normal circumstances, when I see his face is not very good, I usually hide as far as I can, and I won't say a word to him that day, in case the fire gets on me, it's not good! So when you grow up, you need to control your emotions, because no one is in the workplace or in life, no one will pay for your emotions, and when your mood is bad, others will avoid you at most, and it's always okay not to get close to you!

So when a person grows up, you need to control your emotions, remember my leader and my mother also said me, your temper and emotions are all out of me, can you control your face a little, maybe in a conversation with my mother, it can be said that there is no scruples, it is for people other than my mother and father, I think I have always been a standard smiley, sometimes even if I hate or my mood is bad, I will hide it better, occasionally I will hear others say to me, your temper has become better!

Personality, emotions, habits, I think the relationship between these three words is closely related. A good personality sometimes determines the control and suppression of emotions at the right time, so such a long-term accumulation determines the formation of our habits. After such a series of interconnections, you can see the external cultivation and style of each of us, so that it directly affects your personality charm.

Then it goes without saying that we can understand the importance of personality charm to us. Here I would like to focus on the impact of emotions on us, most of the time we are immature and young in a period of great mood swings. It's easy to make a big deal out of something small, and in the end, it's a mess to deal with.

This is a half-effort for us. Therefore, we often reply that some people are precocious, sensible and reasonable, so that some people are more likely to be successfully selected earlier.

It can be solemnly said that sometimes emotional fluctuations and control directly determine your own success or failure. One of my classmates was in the dire area of the university student union during college. In this kind of place, either you rely on your mouth and your little cleverness, or you are diligent and hardworking.

This classmate of mine is not good at communicating words in the first place, so he is at the level of being bullied in the workplace. But I've never seen her complain, at most, sometimes I can't bear to think about us a few times, and afterwards in front of the seniors, she still takes her job seriously, and never loses her temper or gives up on some work that seems indifferent to us. Later, in the replacement, she was promoted to minister, which can be regarded as a small achievement.

In this way, emotions not only mean that you can grow, but they also play a key role in your future life. Or the so-called details determine success or failure!

One of the signs of a person's maturity is knowing how to control their emotions. No one is responsible for paying for your emotions, so be in control so you can earn the respect of others.

Every day I am always affected by emotions, and emotions always appear in my mind inadvertently.

When it comes to mind, it's easy to say bad things, say bad things, and think about it afterwards and think that it's not good.

People always make mistakes in constant entanglement, and reflect on their own problems in mistakes.

Sometimes I am really entangled in my heart, and I can't control my emotions all the time.

Emotional management is really a rigid need of people, and on the way to growth, managing one's emotions well can solve a lot of troubles.

I am still a little growing, and although I am a little excited about my children's learning, I have consciously cultivated my patience.

When you are in a bad mood, you are always prone to anxiety when you encounter something, and you can't bear it, and your acute child is mixed with all kinds of anxiety.

Calm down and think about it, in fact, because I am too anxious and have no patience to wait.

You have to press the pause button on yourself, and when you are impatient and irritable, you should give yourself a calming effect.

When we can't control our emotions, we can try to regulate our emotions in the following three ways:

1. Emotional transfer, we can consciously change the topic, or do something else, such as listening, watching TV, playing ball, playing chess, and distracting ourselves. Divert thoughts and feelings to other activities to relax tension, or go out for a walk alone. In this way, the energy of the anger will be released, and the mood will be calm.

2. Confide in your heart, tell your relatives or close friends about your troubles, or even cry, or use pillows and sandbags to vent the accumulated troubles in your heart, which is also conducive to physical and mental health. However, it is necessary to pay attention to the object, place and occasion of catharsis, and the method should be appropriate to avoid hurting others.

3. Forget about unhappiness, you can focus on your career or work, try to do more chores, or find a few friends to play video games in a group. The purpose is to eliminate or pass the hands and feet, the mind is not idle, and forget the troubles.

Fourth, it is recommended that you can listen to the slow rhythm, the melody is relatively soft, the tone is excellent, and the beautiful and relaxed ** is also helpful for calming the mood and changing the irritable temper.

The weather in Nanjing is always unpredictable, and gradually the sky is gray again, and the wind is blowing slowly.

Some people and things I have met recently have disturbed my mind. Slowly combing through it, I realized that I was so superficial and immature.

The epidemic has not really passed, there are not many cars in the store, and with the launch of OTR, everyone is immersed in learning the new system. I sat quietly alone in the office. Thinking, what am I angry about, angry, and most urgent to change?

What exactly do I want to achieve?

At noon, I came across a story about a snake that entered a carpentry shop, and when it climbed into the corner, it went through the saw and was sawed a little. Instinctively, he turned around and bit the saw, injuring his mouth.

He didn't understand what was happening, and the snake instinctively thought that the saw was attacking him because of his injury, and he decided to entangle the saw and suffocate it with his whole body. So he used all his strength to .....Unfortunately, the snake ended up being sawed to death!

Maybe the snake didn't figure it out in the end, it wasn't the saw that killed him, but his own out-of-control emotions.

I used to think that I was a sensible, strong woman, upright, serious, thoughtful, and self-motivated. But only recently did I discover that people who are truly strong in their hearts are emotionally stable. The core of a person's anger may have nothing to do with what others say, but with some obsessions and desires in his heart.

If you never have hope, maybe you won't be provoked, and if it's not for the fear in your heart, maybe you won't have all kinds of suspicion and sadness.

After experiencing a series of losses, I secretly shed tears, but I calmed down and finished watching "Heart of Bodhi" in one breath overnight. Although it is only an autobiography of Mr. Cao, I am deeply touched by Mr. Cao's recollections, whose personality, heart, compassion, courage and recognition doomed him to become an outstanding entrepreneur in the end. In Mr. Cao's place, there is a very important spirit that defeats friends is "altruism", and he always thinks about the interests of other friends and Huai people, which many of us cannot do.

In the past, I always thought that women's independence was reflected in the economy and in thought. But they neglect to be emotionally independent and recognize themselves. True independence comes from inner calmness, knowing how to continue to pay and struggle, and knowing how to improve oneself.

Not pinning your hopes on others is true maturity, and I still don't understand that.

When the sun shines on the earth, the light it gives to everyone is the same, but how much I can accept depends not on the sun, but on myself. Looking back, when I lost some emotions and realized that I was immature, I realized that it was always my partner and my teammate who could always tolerate me, cherish me, and never abandon me.

I hope that each of us can become a better version of ourselves, and my self-growth starts with learning to control my emotions!