Don t want to go on a blind date, have no self confidence and low self esteem?

I'm only 20 years old and so distressed, then I'm 23 years old, and I'm still alone, but what should I do!

There is a good saying, self-confidence is actually a kind of beauty, not all people regard the appearance as a kind of beauty, and many of them are because they like you inside! Most of the failures in your relationship are because you are not confident enough, you always feel that you can't hold your head up in front of the other party, you are very inferior, and you don't dare to show too much in front of the other party! Always afraid, in fact you can, you have to think:

People are equal between people, why can others stand here like this, talking highly, I can't, although I am not as handsome and beautiful as others, but I still have my wisdom; You can't have it both ways, like you said, God is fair to everyone, he didn't give me a handsome face, but he has a smart mind, and he should be able to accumulate enough!

You're a man, you're only 20, what are you worried about?

I'm a woman, I'm 24 years old, and I'm still single. And I didn't have a chance to go on a blind date, no one was willing to introduce me, and I was even more inferior.

What are you really inferior to, didn't you say that you were a young boss? What are you afraid of, let's fight for the cause first.

With a career, more beautiful girls will automatically post upside down.

In fact, God is fair to everyone If you lose this, you will get another Don't be too inferior Don't look good doesn't mean that other things are bad There will always be people who appreciate you Don't have low self-esteem You should be confident that you are a man Right, I believe you will find that she Because everyone has their own happiness It's just a matter of time before it comes Don't worry, come on.

It's only 20 What are you in a hurry I'm as old as you, and I'm still reading a little broken book Let's focus on work first Strive to make a difference, improve your level, talent, ability, and self-confidence will naturally come When the time comes, and the temperament of talented people is also extraordinary

Don't care about whether God is unfair, first of all, you have to be fair to yourself, don't think of yourself as inferior to others, and put yourself on an equal footing with others!

Take your time, there will always be pain, but it will always pass.

Many times people have an inferiority complex, and when a person is faced with a problem that he cannot deal with properly, and he says that he will never be able to solve the problem, then the inferiority complex appears.

In fact, low self-esteem and lack of self-confidence are often linked, if a person often has low self-esteem, then she may not be interested in anything. If you do what you think is simple and wrong, this inferiority complex may become more and more incompatible. If you feel that you have low self-esteem or lack self-confidence, you must first find the root cause of your inferiority or lack of self-confidence, that is, what causes you to have low self-esteem, and then prescribe the right medicine; There are also simple things to do to improve self-satisfaction and slowly enhance self-confidence.

In fact, many things are not born, as long as you put your mind and take your time, you will always succeed...

And you said that you are alone and have very few friends. In response to this problem, if you see a classmate in need of help, you can try to help them (of course, not to deliberately please someone, but to treat a classmate or friend out of sincerity), of course, when choosing friends, you should also try to choose those who have similar interests and similar personalities, because it will be easier to get along. I usually go out to play with my classmates, such as eating together and going to class together.

Over time, it will work. Don't think that you are not qualified to be friends with others, everyone is human and equal, and everyone has the right and qualification to make friends. So don't think so, okay?

Hello friend, give you some advice, I hope it can help you!

1. Adopt positive self-talk, which is to review and discover your strengths or strengths every day, and record them. I hope you can stick to it.

2. Fill in the daily activity record, which is what you do every day, and add two columns next to each thing, one column is the mastery or difficulty score (0-5 points, 0 easy, 5 means the most difficult) and the other column is the pleasantness score (0-5 points, 0 is not pleasant, 5 is very pleasant) Through these, you can truly discover yourself and know yourself.

3. You can try to raise your hand in the question, and you have to look at the students speaking enthusiastically, if you sit there if this question will, you don't have to raise your hand, and raising your hand does not mean that you are not good, right? The advantage of listening to other students is that you can better sort out your thoughts. If you don't know how to do this, then the benefits of listening to other students are even more obvious.

In fact, if you are a student now, if you go to the society, you will find that in meetings or public places, people will not jump to speak, but will rarely speak, very quiet, because only in this way can it be safer and not easy to make mistakes!

4. If you want to have friends, then you don't wait for others to come to you as friends, first you have to take the initiative to communicate with friends. It's like you want to drink hot water, you can only drink hot water if you boil it hot. And if you look at the water and wait for it to heat up on its own and get into your mouth, it's impossible.

Is that right? Since you want to make friends, this is to use a sincere heart, and the lowest expectations, not always think about what others give, but give it.

5. If you feel that you are not qualified to be friends with others, please take out a pen and write it in a notebook, and list the reasons why you are not qualified to be friends with others. Analyze one by one, talk to yourself, and you will find that many of them are not what you think. You can even ask your classmates how they think of you, and a few of the reasons you list are what they think.

In fact, you will find that you have a wrong understanding of yourself, you have not done any harm to your classmates, and they will not hate you. The reason you have this view of yourself is because you can't see yourself clearly.

6. Think about it, you still have a lot of meaningful things to do. You can talk to your parents, you can talk to your teachers, and if they can't help you, then you can keep a journal. Replace negative thinking with positive thinking.

You will find that life is getting happier and happier!

7. There is still a long way to go in life in the future, and when you enter the society, you will find that what you value now is no longer important to this at that time. So try to make yourself more generous, more idealistic, more actionable, and don't live in your own world.

Finally, I wish you happiness and regain your self-confidence.

Take the initiative to extend your hands of friendship to others, and if you don't dare, there is another way. For example, using a joke to get to know (me) and join someone else's game, etc. Do not speak actively because the knowledge is not substantial. Believing in yourself is the best!!

It's all men who are afraid of hair! You're so shy, you look like you're a baby at home. If you want to change this situation, I suggest that you have more contact with people who are older than you, such as your uncle or something, and think of yourself as a person on the same level as them, and become more mentally mature.

Don't be afraid, the old man can't die on the ground! Try to accept others, just click on it. Now that social relationships are very important, are you afraid of others doing it?

The soft ones are afraid of the hard, the hard ones are afraid of the ruthless, and the ruthless ones are afraid of the deadly. Do you have the strength to live like this? The big old man stands up!

Try to change your personality... Learn to get along with others, over time, you will gain a lot of friendships... You will slowly regain confidence in yourself and believe in you.

Why not? All men are created equal!

Cheer up, engage with other people, and you'll find that the world isn't what you think.

I feel that your blind date has gone into a misunderstanding.

First of all, your side is more introverted and slow to heat, which means that you are not very active type, which is your own characteristic, and it is not a problem. The problem is with the person you're going on. Your parents are feeling a little sick and rushing to the doctor.

I've also been on a blind date a few times, and my current girlfriend also met on a blind date, so I'll talk about my feelings and actual situation. The blind date arranged by the parents, a total of 7 times before and after, and the follow-up contact after eating was 0, and even one was introduced again after a year (the first time was introduced by my father's relatives, and the second time was introduced by my mother's relatives, they didn't know each other, and I was also drunk). Then classmates and friends introduced each other twice, and the follow-up contact was 2, one of which is the current girlfriend.

Therefore, it is the most unreliable for parents to introduce blind dates, and in their concepts, men just live! And they themselves are also asking each other, who is whose friend's fellow scholar is also single, everyone sees. Therefore, they themselves don't know what the situation of the people they introduce is, and many times the introducers on both sides don't know each other.

The people introduced in this way, not to mention the quality of the person, it is equivalent to having no screening at all. The success rate of this can be imagined. And parents are in a hurry, often their children are forced to see a lot like this, and the children themselves are a little disgusted.

Anyway, when I was eating with a few people, it was obvious that the other party was also very perfunctory.

Therefore, I think if you also want to find a partner, the best way is to classmates and friends, they introduce their classmates and friends, so that he is the middleman, and has contact with both people, and has a preliminary screening for both sides, so that the introduction is much more reliable. He won't get someone who doesn't want to get married, and he won't get a too unreliable trick for you. And there is a mutual friend here, he can act as a lubricating person at the beginning, you are introverted, and you need such a person to bring the atmosphere and help you find topics together.

And the parents introduced, the introducer doesn't know each other, that is, two people sit together and you play freely.

So I suggest you can tell your dad that you drag your friends to help you find them, and they have a better way. And don't be like him, it's just luck, it's not as good as a blind date**. **On the drag and** although there are many, but with the heart can still distinguish most of them, parents introduced like this, I really don't know what to meet.

Your friend is misleading you, don't believe it, living together for a lifetime, of course, is not just a matter of money, if you are serious, you still want to be responsible. Don't be unconfident, if you look at the person you talk to, you will have one more chance, how can you know that he is not suitable if you don't look at it? This is something that can neither be casual nor demanding.

Therefore, in the past, if the family situation and education situation of both parties are similar, it is easier to develop a common language and succeed. Some people fall in love at first sight, but this is a minority, and most of them have to be contacted and talked about before knowing whether it will be suitable.

In blind dates, there is often such a phenomenon, as long as it is introduced, they all go on a blind date without pulling, and in the end, the number of blind dates is too much, but they basically end in failure;

The disadvantage of this is that it affects the mentality of oneself on a blind date, and the more they meet, the worse the mentality;

For such friends, my suggestion is: set up some of your own requirements, and only go on a blind date to meet your own requirements, so that you can go on a blind date;

Many girls have high requirements: have a car and a house, be 180 cm tall, have a high income, have a good job, are handsome, etc.; I think this can be considered a little bit and remove some flashy requirements, after all, there are few people who can meet all of them;

What should I do if I don't have a girlfriend at 30? How can I find a girlfriend?

You just didn't meet the right person. The main thing is that the family is too forced on you.

There's always the right person waiting for you!

When introducing blind dates, some elders often stand in the perspective of their generation and pay too much attention to the dimensions they care about as a screening criterion.

Individual elders want you to start a family as soon as possible, and rarely come to understand your feelings and needs.