Counselling I feel like I m mentally distorted

There's nothing too big about it, it's just not mature enough. And the self-esteem is strong, and it is also very strong.

There is also a point of selfishness that is understandable. Yes, be selfish, but you will not do anything that harms your friends, and you will not allow others to harm you.

I guess that's what is called true temperament

Problems aside, you should be a person who lives actively and loves life. Because only such a person will care so much about the people and things around him.

And congratulations, on your life path, you have not experienced too much suffering and setbacks, you will be so true temperament, you don't need to speculate about other people's concerns, you don't need to be low for anyone, so you can live so straightforwardly without beating around the bush.

The only problem is that they are not mature enough, they don't think about problems from a comprehensive perspective, and they magnify some small things too much in the world they envision.

When a person truly feels that he is not the center of the world one day, and that his existence is actually minimal, it is a sign that he is beginning to mature.

And, when you really mature, you will find that there are fewer and fewer people you can blame......Because everyone has their own world, needs, and sufferings. At that time, you can use your own experience and understanding to tolerate and simplify the complex. Instead of complicating simple problems as it is now, we tend to think of others as complicated.

Don't do it for now, you have to lower your sense of self-preservation. Don't always think that someone else is going to hurt you. In fact, it's only you who has thorns.

The people around you must care about you, but they won't exactly follow your heart's content. But you should be able to find that in many details, many casual moments, are beautiful care and memories.

Trust is fundamental. Don't let the momentary trickery destroy the trust between you. Once trust collapses, feelings will have nowhere to go.

Try not to be too impulsive and willful, otherwise you will do bad things with good intentions and turn a momentary mistake into a permanent miss.

You must know that a man's greatest personality charm lies in his demeanor, gentleness, introvertedness, tolerance and forbearance. I believe that you are a smart person and can definitely do it slowly.

I think your personality should have a lot to do with the family environment in which you grew up. Your mind is weak. Poor psychological quality.

Although you are aware of your own problems. But you still can't help but be affected. Because you are subconsciously insecure, you are worried that they will ignore you because of the presence of others and affect your relationship.

Maybe it's also the reason why you don't have confidence. You need a center of gravity in your life, so that your spirit is full and you have sustenance. Your problems will go away.

And it can be a good way to divert, distract, and direct your attention to some negative emotions in your heart. If you are interested, you can learn some meditation, and the effect is very good. Find more things that you can easily accept and cultivate some interests, which can strengthen your mind, make your interests peaceful, and not easily affected by some distractions.

In addition, you need to learn to self-regulate and not let bad emotions work on you for a long time. Try to find something cathartic to release, especially doing some exercise, the effect is very good. Do it for 5 minutes a day, 10 minutes is fine.

Slowly, as you get used to it, your problems will naturally become less and less. And don't have psychological pressure, people need to grow, people are constantly improving and perfecting to break through themselves, beyond themselves. Take care of it.

Know how to share! It seems that you haven't learned how to live yet, so you don't distort it, I'm afraid that you will get depression like this. Maybe it's too high-sounding to be optimistic, but it's an attitude, trying to accept people, and you're a bit of an obsessive-compulsive tendency.

I know it's definitely not me, but I'm still going to say that in fact, at the beginning I was about the same as you, but it's just a matter of mentality adjustment, I don't think it's pathological, everyone needs to care, but the demand is different, and no one lives for whom. No matter how good a friend is, even if he doesn't betray, there are times when he separates, think about the time when you unintentionally hurt a friend, think about the time when you inadvertently snubbed a friend, how can you be sure that they went out and didn't call you to deliberately snub you! Personality is a hard thing to say, so let's put it down to fate!

Stop-and-go, come and go, life is like that, there are some things we can't control. I think that friendship or love, there is a honeymoon period, after the honeymoon period, one party is a little bored, a little estranged, and the other party is too sensitive, and it will not be able to stand it. In fact, this is all normal, only after the honeymoon period, you can really see a person clearly, see clearly that the one who will continue to contact is a friend, and the one who has a lot of contact is a good friend.

The one who is no longer in contact is a passerby. If you get used to coming and going, you will get used to this feeling, and you will not be very lost. However, how long this honeymoon period is, it depends on the person, this may be days, months, or even years!

Why bother, it's yours, it's yours, the more you ask, the more you get. The more you give, the more you get! Look at how you look at the problem, I gave ten and got three, some will say, only 30% is too little, some will say so much.

The greater the hope, the greater the disappointment! Actually! It is a very simple truth, three words "ordinary heart".

Being too possessive, being afraid of losing, having a very poor sense of security, and having low emotional intelligence are all reasons why you do those things. It's your own, and you can't escape; If it's not your own, you can't force it. Don't care too much about some things, don't doubt them too much, you have to believe in yourself, many things will not be lost so easily, unless they are not destined to belong to you!

Believing in yourself, believing in others, believing in what you use, this is the first thing to do. In addition, to improve emotional intelligence, that is, to improve self-emotional control, you can read relevant books, to see what you want to do to have an effect! Don't rush too much, it will take a long time, take your time, be patient, persevere, you can do it, because I can do it so there is nothing difficult, come on!

You lack love. You try to hold on to your friends, girlfriends, etc., and you want them to be completely yours, that you are their best and only, and that you are their best and only. And once you find out that reality is not like this, you will have a feeling of betrayal, you will feel "how can they be like this?!"

How can you be so close to someone else?! What about me? What a lot!

At the end of the day, you want to get all of their love, one, one.

And you also want to be equally rewarded for your efforts, what kind of status they have in your heart, what kind of status you have in their hearts.

You still don't understand that even your parents can't be with you for a lifetime, let alone other friends and the like. You have intersections, and no matter how close you are, there will always be a time when you will be separated.

When you walk the path of your own life, you are not willing to be lonely, you want to pull others in, advance and retreat together, you have no sense of security, lack love and care. So much for.

You ignore this part of you to others, maybe you're afraid of being lonely, afraid that no one can talk to you when you're alone, your psychology is not distorted, but you're more afraid, I have also felt this way, even if I'm just a first-year junior high school student, as for my girlfriend, maybe you're too possessive of your girlfriend, this has to be changed, haha!!

Too possessive, emotionally nervous, afraid of losing, insecure It's useless to tell you the truth, you also understand but you can't do it It is recommended that the next time you see your friends playing with others and feel uncomfortable, think It's okay, there is nothing bad about being alone If you have the conditions, go on a trip and relax your body and mind, so that you will have a more peaceful and normal heart when you treat such things

Learn to be tolerant and understanding.

Calmly put yourself in the shoes of others and think more.

Too possessive of his girlfriend.

That's why I'm always careful.

This has to be changed. If this may affect your development.

This problem should not be solved by simply telling you, the key is to solve some deep-seated problems. It is recommended that you go to a formal psychological counseling institution to consult with a psychological counselor, so that the counselor can understand your specific situation and give you an in-depth analysis. If it is not convenient to find a psychological counselor for an interview, you can go to [Counseling China] on the Internet, there are many formal psychological counselors in this, and many counselors also provide free counseling.

You should usually be a very good person to get along with, you don't have psychological distortions, you just have anger in your emotions, everyone is living with emotions, because the living environment is different from our family education concept, so everyone uses different emotions. You may be a little depressed and powerless in your heart, build self-confidence in yourself, have values for yourself, don't feel inferior, and affirm yourself instead of denying. Learn to control your emotions instead of being controlled by them.

Why do you still have to keep animals if you don't like animals like this?

Hello, it is better to do psychological counseling in your situation, it is not a serious problem, to have confidence, I wish you good health.

It is also a kind of consciousness to feel that I have distorted the banquet of Yansun. With enlightenment, you can change your distorted psychology. Distortion is also acquired, and since it is acquired, it can also be changed through fumigation.

Cultivation is a process. If you look at more things that are correct and right-seeing, you will become a natural success, and if you see too much, you will change your psychological distortion since you ascended to auspiciousness.