Why do you feel lonely the more you go to meetings?

The first reason is because you are not familiar with all of you. An example of this type of dinner is the dinner in our student union department. This semester, I also went to the villa with the seniors in the office.

Generally speaking, this kind of dinner is relatively lively, but I think that although we have been working together for a year, every time we come into contact, we only work in suits and shoes, and we have not actually communicated emotions and life. So, during the dinner, we were at the dinner table, I just listened to them talk about the fun things between them, especially the seniors and sisters were very close to each other, but I didn't talk much, because I felt that I couldn't interject, at that time I felt very lonely, I felt that no one was playing with me, so I especially wanted to end it quickly and go back to the dormitory <>

The second is because you and the people here are not from the same world. I felt this feeling when I attended the junior high school reunion, I was still in high school at the time, and when I went to the party, my classmates who had worked were all dressed up and looked good, and I was the only one who looked like a student. At the dinner table, I heard them say that the work is not easy, the society is sad, I don't know how to speak, after all, my world is still mathematics, physics and chemistry, so I feel very embarrassed to sit there, and my good friends didn't come, so I felt even more lonely.

Thirdly, because you are not doing well. There is also a meaning of class reunions, I think it is comparison, graduates get together, if everyone else is very good, only you are still at the bottom of the society, it is inevitable that you will feel that they are not people of the same world, and naturally feel lonely

Because the current party has changed its flavor and has become a party of comparison and showing off wealth.

Now after graduation, I am generally floating all over the world, in fact, I don't usually have much contact, in fact, except for those girlfriends or buddies and so on who still maintain close contact, the rest of you are doing well, and even people may not know which city you are in. It can be said that you haven't said a word in a few years, and you may not be able to recognize you when you walk on the street. At this time, what kind of friendship is there to talk about, what kind of feelings are you still talking about?

So when a group of people who are not familiar get together, of course you feel lonely. When this group of people is showing off how many houses they have bought, how much money they have driven, or tens of thousands of watches, you will feel so bored, so fake, and not in a circle at all. Such a party has long since gone bad, and the deep friendship of classmates in the past has long been gone, and the loneliness at this time will arise spontaneously.

In fact, you don't need too many confidants in life, it is enough to have two or three friends, and the rest are basically ordinary friends, or familiar friends. So don't worry too much about not having a common topic with everyone at the party, or not being able to fit in the big circle. Because after the party, everyone lives their own lives, and the people who are particularly happy at the party will not have any intersection later.

In fact, if you are more introverted or not familiar with the people at the party, it is okay to keep a proper distance, keep a smile and be polite when partying, just give each other a comfortable space, and there is no need to cater too much to fit into that circle and that society.

The degree of development of a person's body, the age of a person, and the maturity of a person do not depend on how much experience the person has made others feel mature. It's about how much the person can afford to be alone. The more I found myself at the meetings, the more lonely I felt.

I remember when I was very young, elementary school and junior high school, at that time, I always felt that I knew a lot of people and no one dared to bully you. Yes, I also got my wish, especially after I was bullied by others when I was alone in junior high school outside, during that time: I didn't dare to talk about eating when I was cut in line by others, even if I knew who ate the snacks I put up, I didn't dare to say anything, and even, I was forced to help others wash clothes ......After that, I set a goal for myself, to get to know a lot of people, and then I got to know a lot of people and then I came back and bullied them.

At that time, I always felt that I had many friends around me, and others didn't dare to bully you, and I also returned my suffering to those people as I wished. Later, when I went to high school, before the third year of high school, I still had the same idea as when I was in junior high school, and it was ridiculous to think of the days in high school, whether day or night, during the week or on weekends, because I like to make friends, I gather with so-called friends everywhere, eat, sing, clubbing, ......This kind of thing you only know how ridiculous it is to get together with them before when you know how they dropped the chain at a critical moment.

Later, when I went to college, I joined the student union for my own objective reasons, and if I wanted to go up, I had to respond to the sentence: Some relationships start with eating and drinking. The more I attended the party, the more I could see the ugly faces of these people. <>

Sometimes it's true, obviously I hate certain people, and I have to pretend that I like to be close to them; When I go out to eat, I don't dare to drink too much at the wine table, because I am afraid that I will say something that should not be said as soon as I go up; Usually I am also trembling, even when everyone is saying bad things about a person, I don't dare to say it. In college, there are more parties, and on the surface you have more friends, but there is always such a group of people, and the more you go to the party, the more lonely you feel. But life must go on, and you have to bow to life, loneliness will not disappear because you don't like it, but you can choose to keep your pride and continue to be lonely.

In fact, I personally think it may be because you are more introverted, and then you can't communicate with many people, and then you find that everyone is quite hypocritical. So sometimes I feel very lonely, and I feel like I'm not the same kind of person as them.

At the beginning, the party was a carnival of a group of people, everyone talked and laughed together, and talked about their hearts, but then there were fewer and fewer people, and the things they talked about began to change, everyone embarked on different tracks, had their own families, and came into contact with different things, and slowly became estranged.

There is a saying that loneliness is the loneliness of a group of people, in fact, everyone will have this feeling, on the surface it looks very happy, but in fact, the heart is very lonely.

In such a situation, I will fight with someone I trust, because it will allow us to strengthen our relationship and reduce my loneliness.

Be sure to force yourself to interact with people more and communicate with them more and say things that don't matter, and those things are harmless.

You can make more friends online first, open your heart, and slowly become talkative before adapting to real social interactions.

Because the work and experience are different. I would refuse, mainly out of good health and responsibility to my family. When the child starts to leave home and go to school, I feel that the child has grown up. Therefore, while the child is still around, spend more time with the family.

As a man, he was able to support his family and get home from work with a hot meal. The wife is gentle and virtuous, the children are sensible, do something they like in their spare time, play games and see**. If you have money, of course, you can also travel, which is a man's happiness.

As a woman, it is a woman's happiness to have a stable job of her own, to have the confidence not to reach out for money, her husband is considerate to her family, her children are filial, her family is harmonious and blind, she is young and beautiful; Every type of person has their own sense of happiness, and I think this sense of happiness is not the same, just like Mr. Lu Xun said: The joys and sorrows of human beings are not connected, I only think they are noisy. Nowadays, people like to stand on the moral high ground to evaluate others.

However, it is impossible for human individuals to empathize with these four words emotionally, because this sentence itself is understood in the current society, and it will be explained as follows: 1. Most of the time we don't care about the feelings of strangers at all, because this society makes everyone feel tired, and even if they want to care, they may be misunderstood as caring with other colors; 2. When we care about others, we don't actually understand the development of things, but we just try to understand from our own perspective, so we are undoubtedly creating a fake intimate relationship and trying to pull in the relationship with each other in this way; 3. If you connect everything with yourself, the weight of this inner feeling is indescribable.