Why do you want your child to do something and think it s forcing her

First of all, whether your child is now in the rebellious period, if so, because the child's thoughts and behaviors at this time often depend on the parents but want to be independent from the parents, so they will be in opposition to the parents, and because the thinking is becoming more mature, they will think that the parents do not understand themselves and are unwilling to do what the parents ask, if the parents want him to do something, he is unwilling but unable to resist, he will think that the parents are forcing her.

If it is not a rebellious period, it may be because you do not fully understand your child's psychology and his own wishes before deciding to let him do something, and if your child is very reluctant and you insist on your decision, your child will think that you are persecuting him.

It is advisable to communicate more with your child to understand what your child is thinking, what her own wishes are, and then make a decision.

Because in the child's world, they feel that they should be carefree and play well at their age, and they don't think that their parents are actually doing it for their own good.

It depends on what age the child is. Generally, children from junior high school to high school are in a rebellious period, and they think that they have grown up and can make their own decisions, so they want to do everything according to their own ideas. At the same time, they will also have the idea that "their parents are from the older generation, and their thoughts can't keep up with the trend", and they will reject the concept of their parents in their hearts, especially the concept that their parents conflict with themselves.

At the same time, with the development of ideology and culture, especially the spread of Western liberal ideas in China, children are more inclined to freedom, and when they are blocked by their parents, they will have the idea of "I am being forced", and they will have a great rebellious mentality, and even quarrel with their parents.

Solution: For rebellious children, you can't use a hard and hard method, which will be counterproductive. It is better to give advice to your child in a soft tone and analyze the advantages and disadvantages.

After that, tell the child, you have also grown up, I believe that you are already sensible, have your own judgment ability, I have already said what should be said, I can't force you anything when you are so old, you think it out for yourself.

The sensible child basically calmed down and figured it out when he said this.

Parents and children are two generations living in different eras, and people in each era are endowed with different spirits and attitudes towards things. Generally, parents will use the eyes of the past to guide their children, hoping that he will take fewer detours on the road of life and want the best for their children. But it is easy to ignore children's opinions, they will not think so realistically at the age of children, and they only judge the things they like to do and what they don't like to do.

As a parent, you should consider your child's views more, exchange identities, and communicate more with your child is the most important thing. Spend more time with them.

Hope it can be of some help to you.