If you re someone who studies psychology, please come in, thank you.

Assertiveness is exercised.

The premise is not to blindly follow.

If you use sports to exercise, it can only exercise your courage and courage.

To be assertive, you must first be able to see the essence of the matter clearly, and only when you see the crux of the problem can you make a quick and accurate judgment on the matter.

Assertiveness is a term for the way people agree on your ability to deal with things.

How to see things accurately and meticulously is to observe, analyze, and comprehensively consider all aspects of factors. Assertiveness is not simply arbitrary, but also the ability to absorb the merits of others, plus your own opinions, in order to make judgments on things. It is a long-term attitude and way of behaving.

The last thing I want to say is: We should be calm, calm, rational, objective and fair in dealing with things.

The above are some of my opinions, if there are any ominous mistakes: discuss them together, me.

If you want to be an assertive person, you must first know where your weaknesses are, those personalities cause you to be indecisive, you have to work hard to fight against these bad habits of thinking, assertive people will have their own opinions on things, but they also listen to the opinions of others, but do not blindly obey the opinions of others. It is recommended to do a marathon run, which will exercise your endurance and improve your mental endurance when fighting difficulties!

If you decide, you will immediately put it into action, go with your own decisions, and solve the problems that you think can be solved by yourself No need to ask other people's opinions When you are hesitant, you should nod to yourself, and say forcefully that I am right, you can run, climb, and dance aerobics to enhance self-confidence, I don't know if it is useful to you, and it is useful to me that I feel it is useful, for reference only.

1.Psychology, psychology ** is divided into many different fields. to psychoanalysis, individual psychology, gestalt, meaning, intentional dialogue, hypnosis, NLP, etc.

2.Psychoanalysis is one of the types of sexual psychology, that is, psychological counseling. Psychoanalysis is more common in China, but it is relatively rare in the field of psychology in the West.

Are you a psychoanalytic researcher in psychology? Then you can find a psychiatrist to evaluate it.

Let's first study and understand that the spirit in Chinese medicine is related to those organs! Don't go the wrong way of Western medicine!

You're actually right, there are indeed quite a few people who have this habit.

First of all, it may be a kind of curiosity, he likes to pay attention to and observe the movements of the people around him, and there may be no bad intentions, just "wondering" what others are doing. This type of person usually has less concentration, but is more defensive.

Second, common ground. Maybe he accidentally saw the game you played or watched the movie, and it happened to be the same one he played and watched, so he subconsciously looked at your screen.

The third is boredom. For example, the game he is playing needs to wait, or is in the boring period, so he can't help but look for another point of interest to relieve his boredom and pass the time of waiting.

Now a lot of people go to Internet cafes and don't know what to do, the most used to be to talk about Q, now more and more people are playing games, so there is less talk about Q, he may also play less games or feel bored and don't know what to do, so he will look left and right at what everyone is playing, and want to play with it.

He belongs to the absent-minded form. You don't have to worry about it.

It's a psychological effect of everybody, and it's not surprising that you take the liberty of asking if you're a woman or a man, and it's a woman or a man to see if you're a woman.

The reason can be found for you, but the solution to the problem can only be completely solved by your own subjective will and action.

The first is that you begin to doubt the world, whether what you have learned before is correct, whether your previous knowledge is in line with what you are learning now, that is, whether the knowledge you are learning now can solve the problems in your consciousness, the problems of people and things. This is not a bad phenomenon, but it shows that your level of understanding has been improved to a higher level, and you are no longer satisfied with simply accepting knowledge, but you have begun to use what you have learned to have a new understanding and understanding of the real world, hoping to use a more reasonable and better explanation to convince yourself to face the world. This is a good sign on a large level.

It's just that the learning of knowledge is a step-by-step process, and in the deeper learning, with the deepening of understanding, you will find a better explanation for people, for life. So don't rush too much.

Secondly, because the time period you are in is relatively special, facing the pressure of the college entrance examination, the pressure of going to school, there is a certain degree of discomfort in study and life, and the nerves will be more fragile, a small setback in life will make you feel at a loss, not to mention such a deep thinking, and will lead you into a narrow alley, during which no one communicates well with you, and you do not take the initiative to communicate with the people around you, then the solution of the problem will naturally be more difficult. Therefore, tell the troubles in your heart to the teachers, friends and parents in a timely manner, especially the teachers, they will give you some effective suggestions and more accurate positioning, I think it will help you solve the problem.

In addition, when you see philosophical problems, you think of your own code of conduct, which can be inferred that you are a very principled, principled person, and pursue perfection, and do not want to have any omissions in your life. Hehe, I don't know if such an analysis corresponds to your actual situation, but it can only be analyzed here from the side and your narrative. This is a good habit, but the code of conduct is slowly formed under the constraints of moral and social norms and the level of self-awareness, and it is not formed at a moment or because a problem is solved, so don't let this question affect your current life.

Speaking of which, in fact, what I want to say most is that no matter what, facing life and learning with a positive attitude is the medicine for us to live more easily and comfortably.

I hope you can think through your question as soon as possible and find your exact position as soon as possible. Many times, I can convince myself more when I think about my own questions, and it is meaningless for others to say more.

First of all, you have the awareness and courage to ask for help, which means that you have a strong sense of self-reflection. This is a powerful prerequisite for progress and freedom from confusion. This is a very valuable point.

Second, philosophy is a very complex matter. In essence, it is all "human learning", that is, human learning. Some are called speculative wisdom.

China calls it "Dao". The thinking method of "critical inheritance" is only one of them. Generally speaking, the health and soundness of human beings is what any philosophy must follow, and in fact, it is also the direction that any philosophy strives to explore.

It's just that the environment is different, the style is different. No need for superstition.

Thirdly, I suggest that you communicate more with your classmates, have a good mood and state, and open up some closed mental states. In this regard, you can read more books such as [Positive Psychology]. Take health and happiness as the principle.

Cultivate the worldview and the ability to regulate psychology, emotion, and soul in this area.

However, it should be noted that this kind of mental and spiritual books, knowledge and wisdom and some activities often have something mysterious. Therefore, it is a general principle to be able to look at society and life in a healthy and positive way, to study and live happily, and not to be separated from the crowd and the collective.

Hope it helps.

In fact, there are no right or wrong things, people are not only good people and bad people can be divided, I used to be as confused as you, if you don't know what to say, then be around others, listen more, one day you will find that even if you don't say anything, everyone still likes you, in fact, most people like to listen, rather than blindly listening to others, so as a listener, it is very popular, and as you grow older, some things will naturally be distinguished, Lu Yao knows the horsepower, After a long time, you will naturally know that that person is reliable, that person is worthy of your trust, everything is two-sided, we have to look at things dialectically, do you understand?

Then I will use philosophy to answer your question, the limitation of a thing can be explained from the perspective of essentialism and relativism, you are obviously caught in the whirlpool of relativism, doubting everything, of course, you doubt everything, you still doubt everything. You are a talent, of course, you should pay attention to your mental health.

In fact, everyone's criteria for being a person are not certain, why should we be confined to the norms and factories, philosophy should be critical thinking, that is just a relativized explanation of the problem, right and wrong are the same, there is no absolute but relative, you look for the so-called dividing line that is actually in your usual behavioral reaction, you will do it with your own behavioral cognition, and the perception of things is different and the judgment of right and wrong is also different. I don't want to think of any shortcuts, no, it's better to go my own way and do it according to my own ideas.

Do you feel that everything around you is unreal?

Don't doubt yourself, just be the best version of yourself.

Actually, this is a phenomenon that the complex mind begins to develop, which is very normal. However, it would be better if I could recommend a few points.

Communicate with friends and practice smiling in the mirror. Stay optimistic and listen to bedtime tips for de-stressing. Occasionally give yourself a chance to be coquettish and cry a few times. Stand on the roof of a building where no one is there and shout and vent your emotions. Take deep breaths.

Things are contradictory, there are contradictions will have development, will go to maturity, to be a person to have a bottom line, but also to have a marking, the so-called marking is their own principles, starting from their own principles, you will no longer hesitate to do things will be resolute, believe you young man.

You take a deep breath and then think about why you are suspicious, and finally, you go to the beach to relax and go to school, and every day I believe that you will get out of this situation, I am not a professional.

Most philosophical questions often go unanswered. Put them aside, relax yourself, and get back to your study life.

Do you have any cleanliness habits? Probably your own cleanliness.

How long has it been?

Why do you care so much about other people's things?

I don't know how long you've been in this situation? You are afraid that you will grow up and get sick, you will be infected and die, and this is a kind of fear.

Suggestions: 1. Downplay and ignore, what to do, what to see, what to see. 2 In this situation, take a deep breath to relax and tell yourself that you are relaxed and calm 3 Self-imagination training to adapt to this fear.

Imagine this color, something like that ... Level up to the thing you hate the most.

People say that pimples grow on other people's faces and don't worry about them, and that thing you said doesn't grow on your hands, and if you say that, your friend's niece should be disgusted to death, right?

Hello, generally speaking, this is a psychological problem, and the cause may be related to the environment in daily life and one's own personality and behavioral factors. It is necessary to pay attention to maintaining a good attitude and self-regulation and inhibition. If the symptoms are severe and cannot be relieved by self-regulation, it is advisable to consult a psychologist in person.

Parents cannot be with each other in old age; Friends fly solo and turn to light; When couples are separated; Children and grandchildren will grow old and sunny. Be kind to your own people, and be more concerned about exchanging affection for affection. Face up to loneliness and grow up, why care about who is pitiful?

It's good to be a good thinker, but don't let the past drag you down. Things that can't be passed are finally over. Because you can't get along with life, life won't let you pass, only by living by yourself can you make the future days passable.

Find your girlfriend in real life! If there is something to say to her, make more friends, it's not good to be angry

And the person closest to you: hollow out all the unhappiness in your heart, how you can say it when you are anxious, you can cry and laugh and scold, you can say it all, and listen to his analysis with peace of mind when you say it...

Wu Zhihong's "The Body Knows the Answer", listen to the body's feelings in everything, and don't be fooled by the thoughts in your head.

Your opinion on books has won my heart, and I have found that many people who read too much and end up reading stupidly. There are too many contradictory ideas, I can't grasp the key points, I can only be more serious in small details, I can't make a decision immediately, it seems to be very rational, but in fact, I have been avoiding problems. In the end, you find that successful and happy people, even in academia, are often not people who read too many books, think too much, and are overly rational.

So I think that when you really can't figure out what to do, respect your body's feelings, let your body relax a little more, and don't listen to the thoughts that pop up in your brain for a while. When the body is relaxed, the mind is empty, and the thoughts that arise are the best.

Your logic and thinking are very clear, and you may not be so decisive in doing things, so you have to think about it every time. You don't have to read too many books, sometimes people just read books and see them like that. Like you said, books are written by people, and everyone has a different point of view, and if you buy this book, you agree with the author's point of view.

You can do some sports, play ball, etc., and improve your flexibility and mobility. Focus yourself on a certain point and let your mind focus on a certain point.