How can I control my emotions and avoid hurting others?

Give yourself a hint that you can set a code for yourself, such as pinching your fingers and touching your hair, and tell yourself to calm down. Over time, a mental stereotype will be formed, and as long as you do that action, you will calm down. Taking a deep breath and meditating on your mind for dozens of numbers will calm you down a lot, and these times will give you a chance to buffer your emotions.

Leave the scene that caused mood swings and allow yourself to calm down quickly. Exercise your self-control, people with strong self-control are very able to control their mood swings, you first pay attention to what makes you mood swings, only by finding out the reason can you completely**.

I have had a big illness in the past two days, and my best friend who has played with me for three years has alienated me, and my boyfriend also directly showdown that he feels that he is almost tired to the limit, but he can still endure it now, and he can still have the patience to endure my negative energy, in recent years, I feel that I have psychological problems, so serious that my friends around me have persuaded me to go to the doctor, but I feel that it is a waste of money to see it, my problem is mainly that the appearance condition is not bad but always extreme inferiority, extreme thinking, extreme irritability, emotional, in fact, this mental illness needs to be slowly controlled, Don't put too much pressure on yourself, give you a few suggestions, when you are emotionally negative energy, you can't hold back and try to talk to different friends, don't always find the same object to say, because no one likes to listen to negative energy, so that you are comfortable and others are comfortable, don't move the dynamics of negative energy, bear with it for a while, wait until you are a little calm, you will be glad that you didn't send it out, and finally send you four words, stable to win.

It is recommended that before each emotion, don't be so anxious to say and do, but think about it, think for three minutes, so that your thoughts will stabilize a little, and you will control yourself very well, and there are some things that everyone's temper can't control, which requires you to reflect on yourself, what impact did the result bring to yourself this time, and then slowly it will be much better, I hope it can help.

Emotionally, many people are in a state of confusion, no matter what should be said and what should not be said, after saying it, they will regret stupidly how they can say such things In fact, everyone can control their emotions very well, my trick is to shift thinking, to exercise, to see funny **, after a while, all emotions are driven away, thinking or something is completely on a normal track.

Tell yourself to shut up when your emotions are fluctuating, don't speak, wait 10 seconds, and after 10 seconds you can regain your calm and sanity.

If you want to control your emotions, you must stay calm and calm yourself down by thinking about the consequences of losing your temper before losing your temper.

Be confident. The so-called self-righteous can be saved, but those with low self-esteem cannot be saved. If you lose your self-confidence, you will lose your motivation in life.

Be brave enough to say to yourself: I can do it, I can hold on to it until the end. As long as this is the case, we will succeed in life because of self-confidence.

So we have to learn to be confident, to have faith in everything we do.

You should be quiet for a while, and then judge whether this matter is really related to yourself, if it has nothing to do with you is just someone else's business, then don't dwell on this emotion anymore.

Every time you want to lose your temper, tell yourself deep down in your heart to give yourself a warning not to lose your temper.

I think in fact, everyone has a temper, but whether you can control it, I think as long as you want to lose your temper, you must think about what is the harm after losing your temper, only in this way can you restrain your emotions.

When you're about to lose your temper, restrain yourself for a few seconds and think about it.

Hello, I don't think there should be emotional freedom in the workplace, because this is in the workplace, not at home, if it is at home, we can vent as much as we want, do whatever we want. But in the workplace, it's different, if you are emotionally free, you may hurt the emotions of others, and some things should still be forgiven.

First of all, we must admit that everyone has their own emotions, sometimes they are particularly good and sometimes they are very bad. When you're in a good mood, of course, it doesn't matter, you can show it and share your happiness with the people around you. When you're in a bad mood, don't spread your bad emotions to others.

Let other people's mood be affected by your bad mood because of your answer. This is a selfish act of waxing.

Secondly, one's own bad mood can really bring bad psychological feelings to others. I know this very well. Because one of my colleagues is a very emotional person, even if he quarrels with his family at home and gets angry, he will bring this emotion to the workplace.

It seems that a colleague has made her angry, and he doesn't care when others talk to him, pulling his face, which makes people look very uncomfortable.

Third, if you have a clear mind and have something unhappy in it, it is best to pay attention to yourself. Don't get old thinking about those things, you can do something that interests you. You can also talk to a colleague you want to talk to.

This will ease your emotions and allow your mood to calm down slowly. It helps you to make more rational choices.

In short, I believe that a person is not an independent individual in the workplace, but lives in a group, and his words and deeds must take into account the feelings of others, and cannot affect others because of his emotions.

Good luck in your work.

OneListen when you're upset**

** is an art form, but also a kind of social ideology, human thoughts and emotions can be expressed through jumping notes, people's understanding of ** is also completed through a series of psychological activities, when troubled, listen more**, conducive to the expression of their emotions.

IIKeep smiling

People's emotions have an external manifestation, which is expression. Good emotions are conveyed through smiling expressions, when you are depressed, still tell yourself to keep smiling, so as to give yourself a positive psychological hint, smile often, good luck comes naturally.

IIIChange perceptions

Your own mood, only you know, and only you can bear it, the negative psychological and physiological effects brought by bad mood only have an impact on yourself, for some people or things, bring you negative emotions, and we can't change the reality of the situation, just change your perception of this person and this thing, actively regulate yourself, and achieve a happy situation.

FourthReach out to optimistic friends

It is said that bad mood is contagious, and it is true. When you are always exposed to some negative things, you will be imperceptibly influenced, so contact with some optimistic friends, learn and imitate their behavior, their mentality, and make yourself as optimistic as him and them.

1. Make up your mind and become optimistic. If you start looking at things from a positive perspective, you'll see a lot of different things (or if you only look at things from a pessimistic point of view, you'll only see something pessimistic). How we see the world is up to us.

When you choose to be positive and sunny, your mood and future life will become brighter. A positive attitude can make you face a lot of things that make you unhappy and also make you emotionally stronger.

Try to find the promising side of things. When you miss the bus and have to wait 20 minutes for the next one, don't take it as an annoyance, think about what you can do in those 20 minutes. Contact an old friend, read another chapter of the book, listen to a favorite **, meet a new friend, etc.

Infect others with positivity. Influence the world around you with a positive attitude, and you will also feel good from it. Helping others and feeling joy not only increases self-esteem, but also allows the body to release endorphins that make people feel good.

2. Have the courage to accept changes in your life. The thing that causes the most emotional stress in us is life changes. Even when you're excited about the change (e.g., moving from home to college dorm), you may experience some negative emotions (e.g., worry, sadness, insecurity, etc.).

If you accept the change by making the most of it, you can choose to control the negative emotions in it. Discover your emotions and accept them. Say to yourself, "I'm leaving home, I'm scared and sad, but I'm going to accept the change and think about the exciting things — new friends in college, new lives, and so on."

You should know that it is not easy to do at first, but slowly you will get better and better. Be flexible with the little things. If you're going to the movies with your friends and the tickets sell out, don't get angry or frustrated, think about other fun things you can do with your friends, like watching other movies, going to dinner together, playing ball together, etc.

3. Believe in yourself. Self-confidence is the key to becoming emotionally strong. Believing that you are a powerful, beautiful and intelligent slave will give you more control over your emotions.

When something unfortunate happens, you will not be at a loss and break your heart and tears, but believe that no matter what the setback, you can overcome it. When you are truly confident, you will unconsciously become stronger, and you will no longer need to deliberately control your emotions[2] for example, when you get lost in a new city, don't crouch on the side of the road and cry and give in to your fears. Instead, believe that you can do it, first find out where you are, ask someone for directions, find a map, or go back the way you came, or ask a nearby friend for help, and so on, and show confidence.

Wear some energetic clothes and a new haircut to look sunny. 

4. Take the time to enjoy life. It is really important to enjoy life, and a person who knows how to enjoy life will be happier and more peaceful.

It's hard to fully control your emotions, but you can take some steps to channel them, and don't keep bad emotions in your heart.

For example, when you encounter something that makes you angry, first calm yourself down, think about why you are so angry, if you are still uncomfortable in your heart, you want to scold in your heart, you want to scold whoever you want, find a place where no one is scolding loudly, or use pen and paper to express the saddest emotions happily, as long as no one knows. When the emotions are vented, you will find that things are not so bad. In addition, through sports such as playing ball, running, and skipping rope, you will feel much more relaxed after increasing your body and calorie consumption.

When you are depressed and depressed, don't always think about unhappy things, it's best to change the environment and divert your attention. For example, go for a walk in the mountain or the park, listen to your favorite **, or watch a comedy, or find good friends to get together, in short, find more fun in your life. After a while, those bad emotions will naturally settle down.

Respect your emotions, reasonable grooming, good attitude, I believe you will be healthier physically and mentally!

First of all, we must enhance our sense of reason, think more about things, think more about others, think more about the results of things, take them seriously, and deal with them carefully. If you notice signs of impulsivity, refrain from doing so. It's a good idea to put your tongue in your mouth a few times before you start speaking to help calm your mind through time buffering.

When you are about to lose your temper, you silently say things like "calm, calm, think twice, think twice". These methods all help to control emotions and enhance the brain's rational thinking.

When you find that your emotions are excited, in order to avoid an immediate outburst, you can consciously change the topic or do something else to distract yourself, and transfer your thoughts and feelings to other activities to relax the tension. For example, quickly leave the scene and go to do something else, talk to someone, go for a walk, or go out for a walk alone, so that the energy stimulated by anger can be released, and the mood will be calm.

You can also use a small book to record the reasons and processes of each tantrum, through recording and recalling, and analyzing and combing in thought, you will find that there are many tempers that are worthless, you will feel very ashamed, and the number of angry attacks will be reduced a lot in the future.

It is recommended that you usually have time to listen to the slow rhythm, soft melody, elegant tone, beautiful and relaxed **, which is also helpful to stabilize the mood and change the irritable temper.

You can't control your strength, you may be aggrieved, you may be sick, and you may be told that you can't be fake, if you are in an extreme emotional process, you have to find a proper way to vent it, you can't always control it, when it is harmless, vent your emotions, you don't talk to customers, leaders, family members at critical moments.