How to enlighten people who are stubborn and short tempered?

Hello! My suggestion is as follows:

First of all, you must pay attention to the attitude of the conversation with him.

Don't look like you're educating or reprimanding him, but show like you're talking.

As for the content: you have to leave leeway, if he is stubborn, you don't want to go all the way to the dark, you have to have space for both you and him. Don't talk to death.

Specifically: Help him realize why this is happening, where the pressure comes from, and only when the pressure is released can he be physically and mentally healthy.

Grumpy people are generally more impulsive people, in the face of many things often only rely on their own perceptual understanding to deal with problems, this is very bad, if when dealing with problems do not be so impulsive and rational look at the problem then the temper will be much better.

Hope it helps! Thank you!

The quality of a person's temper is related to a person's character, and a person's character is related to a person's virtue, and virtue cannot be pretended, and virtue must be cultivated bit by bit.

Grumpy people are generally more impulsive people, in the face of many things often only rely on their own perceptual understanding to deal with problems, this is very bad, if when dealing with problems do not be so impulsive and rational look at the problem then the temper will be much better.

Grumpy people will often talk and act aggressively, which not only gives a bad impression to others, but also encourages your short temper while others tolerate you.

Grumpy people usually lack self-control, and self-control is actually very easy to exercise, when you are doing something that you find very interesting, if you stop doing it and there is nothing to lose except for making you feel unpleasant, force yourself to stop immediately and not do it.

Suggestion: Insisting on long-distance running every day is also a good way to exercise self-control, 2000 meters a day, so that you insist every day, your self-control ability will inevitably improve, and it is impossible to improve it after three days of fishing and two days of drying nets.

Send you 12 words: slow down, regenerate anger, think about it, and then act.

The best way to do this is to do it with him, and if you haven't done it together, he thinks you haven't done it, so what's the right to say about me, and if you do it with him, he'll be more receptive to what you say.

Wow! Expert, I'm going to learn from you too.

Short tempers can be born or caused by environment. Many people get out of control when their temper comes, and they often regret it afterwards because of their impulsiveness. What to do?

In order to change the impatient temper, in addition to recognizing its harm and making up your mind to change it, it is also necessary to find out the cause of the impatience. Short-tempered people do not understand that there is an objective law in the development of things, and that there needs to be a process to achieve the goal, and they think that if they rush to achieve results based on their subjective wishes alone, they will succeed, which is an important reason for impatience. Another important reason is to demand that other people's thoughts, emotions and actions be exactly in line with their own desires, and once they find out that what others say and do not go their way, they will be furious, in fact, they want others to obey themselves.

Obviously, this kind of thinking is irrational and unjust. Just as you are not happy to be dominated by others, others like to do what they want. If you admit from your heart that others are different from you and that others have the right to act the way you like, you will learn an attitude of tolerance.

Therefore, people who are ready to change their impatient temper should always instill in themselves the beliefs of "being prepared", "thinking twice", and "not imposing on others", adhere to the spirit of tolerance and tolerance, interact with others with an attitude of understanding, sympathy, and cherishing friendship, and repeatedly train, self-observe, and sum up experience.

I think that when people are born, they are blank slates, whether they have a bad temper or a violent personality, they are all acquired. Once this bad temper is formed, it is difficult to improve it. Unless something big happens in life, the temper of such a person can change.

For example, I found a gentle and virtuous girlfriend. Love has always been the easiest thing for people to change, and if a man catches up with the girl he likes, the whole heart will change greatly. They will become unusually gentle, and even look at the grass and trees around them, and feel that they are particularly beautiful.

It's the same with irascible men, as soon as they find the woman they love, they will change their previous sticky personality and become a docile little sheep. Whatever a woman asks them to do, they will obediently obey. Over time, their bad temper will change subtly.

Even a vicious wolf. For example, the gray wolf, after finding his true love, the red wolf, obeyed her and never dared to rebel. After a long time, his wolf nature slowly faded, and even when facing the lamb, he would look forward and backward.

It can be seen that love can change bad temper.

Another example is when you are upgraded to Dad. When you look at a baby curled up in a crib or cradle, looking like your own, your heart melts instantly. No matter how bad your temper is, you will be very happy when you see your baby.

Even if you ask you to wash his diapers and dispose of his excrement, you won't be able to lose a temper at all. A word from the baby's dad can make you happy, and any bad temper will disappear in that moment. With the birth of the baby, you will find that your tolerance and forbearance are getting stronger and stronger, and your bad temper will slowly get better.

The former sharpness will be weakened little by little, replaced by a warm smiling face.

And as you get older, this bad temper will also subside somewhat. One of my neighbors used to have a very bad temper, and he couldn't stand it if he didn't fight with others for a day. Neighbors, relatives, and wives don't have anything that he looks like.

has a stinky face all day long, and everyone hates him very much. But as he grew older, he quarreled with others less and less frequently. Now that he's in his 60s, people joke about him from time to time:

Old king, why don't you quarrel. He always responds with a smile: people are old, and they can't be noisy.

Through his experience, we can see that time will carry many things, not only youth, but also your appearance and your bad temper.

Therefore, I think that the change of bad temper is not something that happens overnight, and it takes a lot of things to achieve it. Blindly seeking quick change can be counterproductive.

2. Enhance the sense of reason and learn to restrain our anger, which can make us think more about the outcome of things, take them seriously, deal with them carefully, and once we find that we have signs of impulsiveness, we can restrain ourselves in time and strengthen self-control.

3. Learn some good ways to help yourself restrain your temper. At home or on the desk, post warnings such as "stop anger" and "control anger" to remind yourself to be calm.

4. Think about the problem from a different angle, be considerate of the feelings of others, a person who always thinks about others and is considerate of others everywhere, even if he is unhappy in his heart, will not be angry with others, let alone impose his unhappiness on others.

5. Listening to ** can regulate emotions, listen to more slow rhythm, soft melody, elegant tone, beautiful and relaxed**, to stabilize emotions and help change irritable personality.

Too busy asking questions and not having time [smiles].

Drink a glass of milk before bed to make sure you sleep well.

**Listen to pure**, I also feel that I am seriously deprived of sleep and my temper will be bad, but I can only sleep for so many hours every day.

If you don't rest well, you will definitely be irritable and irritable.

So do I. Question: I want to catch up on sleep but can't sleep.

Do you do the same?

Ask a question, yes, yes.

You can sleep for 6 hours at night.

In daily life, it is easy to be impulsive when encountering things, especially for some things that do not go well or are not used to it, it is often easy to get angry or angry, and sometimes quarrel with others, say something embarrassing, or affect the unity among comrades, and must be patient when they are unhappy, and people's tempers are good and bad. People with good tempers will be welcomed no matter how they go.

Boil it in water for five minutes with mint and licorice, then add rock sugar and drink it directly, so that you can relieve your temper.

Spend an hour every day to practice writing, write well, not only can practice a good hand, but also can change your frizzy personality, I used to do this, now I am much calmer. I hope my answer is helpful to you! Thank you!

For example, patiently draw a picture, from five minutes to 15 minutes to 25 minutes, and insist on exercising every day to calm your mind and improve your concentration.

Improve your stamina, make yourself confident, patient, and less frizzy and impatient.