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Parents will always feel a headache for their children to be naughty, talk back, disobedient and other bad behaviors, and the following will explain to you what to do if your child is disobedient and likes to talk back? How can parents educate their children to talk back and be disobedient?
What should I do if my child is disobedient and likes to talk back? First of all, parents should correctly view their children's disobedience and like to talk back, not necessarily adults are all right, and children are not right. Besides, the child knows the theory with the adult, which also shows that he begins to have his own thoughts and does not blindly follow the adult, which is also a good thing, who wants their children to always be submissive, well-behaved and obedient, without their own ideas?
The problem of children who are disobedient and like to talk back is: Is it reasonable for children to talk back and be disobedient? Does his reason hold water?
Of course, adults should not completely stand in their own perspective, but should stand in the child's perspective and consider his feelings. If he is right, the adults should let him do it his own way. If he is messing around, then firmly tell him that this method is not good, and it will make the people around him dislike it and want to improve.
What should I do if my child is disobedient and likes to talk back?
First of all, parents should not rely on their own authority to scold and suppress their children, and they cannot forcibly stop their children by "keeping their mouths shut" at every turn. At this time, what parents need to do is to calm down first, and they can use the "five ones" project to carry out step by step.
First, ask.
If a person is not a sage, he can do no wrong", especially children, who are more likely to make mistakes. As a parent, when a child makes a mistake, don't rush to criticize, but ask the reason first, maybe the child has other difficulties.
This? In personality the child is equal to the parents, the child's self-esteem.
It is also extremely sensitive, and criticizing a child indiscriminately is likely to hurt the child's self-esteem. Therefore, when criticizing a child, you must distinguish between right and wrong and ask the truth first.
Second, let it go.
The mistakes made by children sometimes make parents very angry and want to scold him. However, it is difficult for people to grasp the scale of criticism, and this criticism may cause harm to the child's body and mind. At this time, it is best for parents to put the problem aside, calm themselves down, and then criticize and educate their children.
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When a child talks back to a parent, the parents' first reaction is anger, and it is difficult to calm down and face the child's loss of control.
If this is the case for parents, then the child will also get out of control with the anger emotion. Parents should keep a calm mind, face it calmly, tell their children that this is wrong, and wait for their children to calm down before talking. When both parties are calm, the brain is also the most rational moment, and it will be smoother to communicate with the problem at this time.
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If a three-year-old child is in this situation, he will have a hands-on consciousness.
If the children are adults, they still dare to hit the adults, either the adults have a problem, or the education is a problem.
Children learn a lot of swearing words from adults as they grow up.
If you listen too much, you don't know who to learn from.
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As a parent, if the child has this kind of problem, you must calm down and talk to the child, and the formation of the child's behavior is not a day or two, adults should also be psychologically prepared, fight with the child for a long time, and slowly guide the child.
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Although it is not recommended to beat the child now, I think sometimes the most effective way is to beat him, he knows that it hurts a lot, but he can't do it often, or teach by example.
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If the child is so naughty, then you must teach him some lessons, such as not giving him pocket money, such as not allowing him to eat, so that he can realize his serious mistake from the root.
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This fully shows that the child's rebellious psychology is very strong, the parent's education is very unsuccessful, and the parent's education has a rebellious psychology to the child, so that he can be convinced, in this case, the parent should take other educational methods to persuade or appreciate and encourage other methods, and should not blindly use violence. , otherwise it will be counterproductive and even cause a distortion of the child's personality.
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In this case, the rebellious period that the child said should be used to this since childhood, so now, you can only communicate with him well, and don't do anything.
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Sometimes it may not be a good way for parents to educate their children, but try to do as little as possible to avoid children becoming more extreme.
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At this time, you have to think about whether there is a problem with your own education, there is a problem with the education method, you can find some psychologists to ask the child why.
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This period must bring him over. Don't collide, combine soft and hard, don't be very sensible, be reasonable first.
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He should be taken to the police station. Let the police give him how to respect his parents and honor them. Let him know how to be grateful and sensible.
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It would be nice to hit him a few more times.
cut off his economy, let him go to the construction site to work to earn money, dare to beat his parents, I'm afraid it's crazy, I'm afraid that such a good child is used to it.
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Such a child is spoiled and beats him hard, otherwise you won't be able to control it if you want to when he grows up.
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This has been done since childhood. It's hard to do when it's big.
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Obedient also staring at a hard education, information has a little more recent thoughts, don't be simple and rude.
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When this happens, as a parent, you should still criticize and discipline your child harshly, telling your child that this is not right, and it will slowly make your child better.
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In the face of this situation, parents should provide and communicate more with their children, and also support their children's inappropriate behavior, and conduct more information with their children in this regard, strengthen their children's awareness of their own behavior, and make children aware of their mistakes.
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Educating children, mentality is very important, some parents lack patience and yell at every turn, but they don't know that this makes children resist at the beginning, and it is difficult to achieve the desired effect.
To solve the problem, we must find a way from the root, and blindly suppress the calm on the surface, but in fact, it cannot prevent the recurrence of the problem.
More encouragement, less blame Although children are small, they also have their own self-esteem, and scolding children not only hurts children's hearts, but also goes further and further away from children.
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Parent education is not a machine that gives orders, and children are not puppets who follow instructions. Communication between parents and children is a question-and-answer style that is an effective way to solve these problems. The best way to know what is changing in a child's heart is for parents to learn to listen.
When the child thinks differently from us, do not rush to correct his thoughts or force the child's thoughts to be in line with ours. Listen and ask questions and let your child speak his mind. What should I do if my child is disobedient and always talks back?
First of allto stabilize the child's mood. When children and parents quarrel, their emotions are at their highest. At this time, reasoning with the child or strictly disciplining the child will only make the child disgusted and more emotional.
Therefore,Parents should first calm down their children and divert their attention. Taking kids to the park to relax is a great way. It can ease the bad feelings of both parties, and then discipline so that the child will not be too rebellious.
Teach your child to express his emotions reasonably. When arguing, parents and children may say hurtful thingsSeriously affect the relationship between parents and children。But when the child is rebellious, he is in a bad mood, and the parents do not allow the child to lose his temper, which will only make the child feel bad.
Therefore,Parents should let their children vent their emotions reasonably and look at problems from the perspective of their children, so as not to hold their emotions in their hearts and cause a series of psychological problems.
Secondly,Calm down before communicating. Quarrels are prone to bad emotions, and it is common for rebellious children to talk back against their parents. When you are in a bad mood, any communication will only increase the conflict, but if you don't educate your child, you're afraid that your child won't learn well.
Therefore, waiting for the child to calm down with himself, and then communicating to solve the problem, the effect will be better, and the child can understand more easily. In this process, parents can guide their children appropriately, teaching them how to properly argue with others and what kind of attitude they should adopt to solve problems.
Finally,Help your child lighten the load. Parents have the idea of "hoping that their children will become dragons and daughters will become phoenixes", and some parents even impose their unfulfilled wishes on their children, and their children will go to participate in training courses that they do not want to participate in after returning to China from school. Good for mental relaxation.
This puts a lot of mental stress on the children, leading them to an early period of aversion to life and rebellion. Parents can take their children out to relax and play in their free time.
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Talk to your child as low as possible, don't provoke him, and let him calm down before communicating.
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Have a proven communication with your child. Both parties should build on the basis of an equal relationship, so that the child can feel your respect, so that he can open his heart.
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When criticizing your child, you must lower your voice, and then tell your child not to talk back, to correct your mentality, communicate with your child on an equal footing, and let your child realize the seriousness of his mistakes.
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What to do if a 15 year old is very rebellious? A 15-year-old is at the height of his rebellious period. Due to the strong secretion of estrogen and androgens, the child's mood can also fluctuate, and it is normal to have severe rebellion.
Therefore, parents should first be calm and not make a fuss, let alone corporal punishment or corporal punishment. Scolding children. On the contrary, you should solve problems from the child's point of view, communicate more, do what the child likes, and get along with the child like a friend, and slowly the child will be willing to communicate with you.
What to do if a 15 year old is very rebellious?
1.Don't be angry. During this time, the child will encounter rebellion. The first thing parents should do is to soothe their emotions. Not getting angry is the first step.
2. In-depth communication. Children in this period are more complex and confused. As a parent, you should have in-depth communication with your child while observing.
3.Family-friendly travel. Traveling may seem like an opportunity to relax, but it's actually a time to get to know each other. At this time, we can better understand the child's heart, and there will be no smooth communication and conflict.
4. Psychological counseling. Parents are the psychological mentors of their children. When we communicate and discover the reasons for the child's rebellion, we should guide them in time and gradually help the child become more mature and stable.
5.Be encouraged. Parents who don't know how to respect their children are not good parents, and parents who always focus only on their children's weaknesses are not good parents.
Don't compare your child's shortcomings to those of other children. It's easy to hurt a child. Esteem.
Evaluate the child comprehensively, try to dig out the child's bright spots, encourage more, and reduce the child's resistance to the parents. Only when parents seriously put forward hope and let their children see their own potential and future wheels, will children progress faster.
6. Empathy. When educating children, parents need to learn to empathize. They also come from the rebellious period of youth.
In the face of your child's inexplicable behavior, don't rush to blame your child, understand what happened during the period and re-educate them. Child. Sometimes, a child's rebellion is another way to write about a child's growth.
7. Appropriately reduce the burden and reduce the pressure. It is also a good option to reduce the burden on your child. Parents have the idea of "wanting their children to become dragons and daughters to become phoenixes", and some parents even impose unfulfilled wishes on their children, which will bring huge pressure to their children.
Over time, the child's personality and psychology will be seriously affected.
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Children and adults talk back, and they don't listen clearly when they reason, and they can't beat again. Children should be timely counseled to eliminate disobedience and rebellion, which can be improved from the aspects of observation and communication, keeping calm, setting an example, and giving encouragement, and looking for ways to solve the rebellious period.
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Children and adults talk back, first see if what the child says makes sense, if it is really nonsense, then you must beat it once to make the child remember it for a long time.
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Don't beat or scold your child, you can take your child to participate in some parent-child activities or outdoor activities, broaden your child's mind, and then have a good chat.
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1. Don't easily blame the socks for leaking the child. It is a common problem for parents to criticize their children often without saying how and on occasion. Some criticisms are very sharp, but not entirely correct, which hurts the child's self-esteem and gradually causes the child's inner resentment, complaint, and even grudge.
Therefore, before criticizing the child, we must find out the reason, do not criticize randomly, when we need to criticize, we should pay attention to the tone, occasion and method, and when criticizing, we must be kind and persuasive, so that he is willing to accept it. And for children's difficulties and setbacks, we must sincerely help solve them.
2. Respect their self-esteem. For children with problems, they can be inspired and guided in a way that does not put their parents on the shelf. Only people who have self-respect and self-love will work hard and become a person who can make a difference.
Moreover, children who love to talk back are very knowledgeable, connotative and resourceful, as long as they are correctly guided, they will become talented as soon as possible.
3. The child can defend himself when he is reasonable. Don't verbally abuse or punish children who talk back. Democracy should be promoted in the family and children should be encouraged to defend themselves.
This can make the child feel that no matter what he does, he can only stand firm if he is reasonable, which is extremely beneficial to the development of the child's personality. Your child may sometimes quibble, so you can guide him correctly, fully present the facts with him, and reason with him.
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In the past, it was either spoiled or no one cared about it, in this case, you might as well try to be hard, if you scold him, he will definitely quarrel with you, if you beat him, he will definitely run away from home, 15-year-old children are like making him sensible, it is very difficult, but you must not get used to it, now if you don't correct it, you must grow up, you must spend some effort to understand him, know why he is like this, prescribe the right medicine, for example, he wants a mobile phone, a computer, don't buy him a mobile phone, because you go to school, he can't play in class, and the mobile phone level can't be supervised by the computer, before buying, you say yes, if you want a computer, you can't ask for a mobile phone, and first about the three chapters of the law How long can you only play every day, the grades are low, the network cable is off (the requirements for the grades can't be excessive, you can do it if you want him to work hard), etc., you are his parents, there is a way to clean him up, but remember not to be too strict, if the child is too rigid, it will wear off his temper, and it will make him suffer in the society in the future The most important thing is to create a good learning environment and family environment for the child (should be mainly affected by two environments) The school is best to be a second-class school, the key school is under great pressure, and the school is easy to learn badly There should be a happy and warm atmosphere at home Don't let the child grow up in complaints and quarrels These will have an impact on his outlook on life and future behavior Summary: Children should be in charge of and should be soft enough to be moved. >>>More
It may be that the parent's behavior is different from the child's philosophy, and the child will be disgusted, or the parent is too fond of controlling the child, and the child wants to express his dissatisfaction through disobedience.
If the child is disobedient, parents should first give him reasonable and kind persuasion. If you really don't listen, you can only use "force" to solve it, although it is rude but very effective.
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