Is it a good thing or a bad thing for children and parents to talk back? Do you really understand?

A few days ago, because of her daughter's naughtiness, her cousin reprimanded her for a sentence or two, and the little girl shouted angrily at her mother"I still think of me every day when you gave birth, you hurt me many times, and I should be with me when you give birth. "The cousin was also stunned by the child, and she didn't speak for most of the day.

My good friend Xiaoya once told me:"I envy those children who can argue with their parents at will and dare to talk back, and those who are loved are unscrupulous. "It's actually Xiaoya's parents who are tough, and if Xiaoya makes a mistake when she is a child, her parents will always severely criticize her.

The more arguments are made, the more severe the punishment becomes. Sometimes it is also the parents who misunderstand Xiaoya, and he will not give in and apologize.

Xiaoya felt that everything she said was wrong, and in the long run, Xiaoya would no longer argue with her parents, and rarely actively communicated with them. The depth of the feelings and responsibilities are so deep that people often misunderstand the children subjectively because the children have made mistakes in the past, or because they think that they have mastered the children's growth habits. As sometimes, in the eyes of parents"Mouthful", it's just that the child is complaining to himself.

There is a very big misconception here, parents must pay attention to it, do not make mistakes, let the child and you go further and further. Actually, the child expresses himself"Mouthful"It's not scary, it's not okay to be a child"Say no"It's horror. Parents should correctly guide their children to speak in an effective form"Nope", has a strong contagion, and there is no lack of the warmest mentality, not just talking back.

Listen attentively and grasp the child's true requirements.

When your child offends you, you should ask yourself:"What the hell is going on? What does this little darling want?

If you understand your child's intentions, you will understand why this is the case all of a sudden. Parents listen carefully, so that we can read the inner thoughts of our children and give the most ideal response. Thinking about the problem from the child's point of view is also good for parents to ease their own mood.

Calm down in case of trouble, and the punishment is relaxed.

As a parent, no matter how much mistake your child makes, don't be impatient, you need to understand the cause and effect of the matter first, and then make a decision on the way to deal with it, without punishment or mention the past. Before punishing, it is necessary to explain the big truth and let the child fully believe it.

Give your child the right to complain.

Even if you know that you are arguing, you need to listen carefully to what they have to say, and then help them realize that they are not right. If they can, they can also make up for their mistakes by making them innocent of their ignorance, which is usually more acceptable to them. Parents listen patiently to their children's arguments, and they often get something unexpected.

First of all, we must know that these children who will not be trusted by their parents are the most cute. After all, in my child's cognition, if my parents don't believe in me, then no one else will trust me.

Therefore, whenever the child is given a good opportunity to argue, give priority to firmly believing in the child's words, rather than habitually doubting, and the parent-child interaction can become a support and harbor between each other.

When the child talks back, the parents should reflect on whether they are too doting on the child, then the parents should correct their usual way of educating their children in a timely manner, and know how to discover the true thoughts of the child. When educating children, parents should know how to control their emotions and follow the concept of not pampering and scolding, so that it is easy to cultivate promising children.

Children seem to be talking back to their parents, but they are actually communicating with their parents, and when parents discipline their children, the way they express themselves is usually in a commanding tone. If parents are not able to maintain a calm state of mind, it will have a certain impact on the way children express themselves. Many children actually just want to express their true thoughts, but when they say it, it will become a backlash.

But in fact, children just want to communicate with their parents.

I don't think it's a particularly good thing for children to talk back to their parents, and we should set rules for our children and let them be good children who respect their parents, I understand.

Although talking back is a sign of intelligence, parents should also teach their children to respect. Parents may wish to have a debate competition with their children directly, and both parties will express their own opinions.

There must have been.

1. Take the initiative to communicate with parents, communication is the foundation of a good relationship. Usually communicate with your parents more about your own experience, tell your parents about the problems you encounter in study and life, and need your parents' help. You can also share your achievements and share happy things with your parents.

Establish a good communication relationship with your parents.

2. Listen carefully at all times and respect your parents' opinions. Although the two generations get along in different eras, the experience of their parents is also the experience that has been honed by life. Listen to the advice given by your father and mother, and respect the opinions given by your parents.

Even if you oppose your parents' suggestions, it's best not to get angry, control your emotions, talk to your parents calmly, and listen to your parents' reasons.

3. Be more empathetic, be considerate of your parents, and take the initiative to apologize to your parents when you make mistakes. If you really do something wrong and your parents reprimand you, don't talk back to your parents at every turn, think more from your parents' point of view, and be considerate of your parents' feelings and difficulties. Even if there are some things that may not be your fault, the bridge is good or you have been greatly wronged, but don't rush to argue just yet.

You have to learn to be considerate of your parents, maybe your parents are too tired or have troubles, so they will get angry. You can change the time and place and communicate with your parents again, and it will have unexpected effects.

If a child always talks back to his parents, it is because the child has reached the rebellious stage. I don't think it's a bad thing for children to talk back to their parents, because this way can inspire and exercise children's logical thinking, and let children's language skills get a good expression. When children talk back to their parents, their logical thinking is very strong, and some children are often opposed by their parents, so they talk back.

When parents talk to their children, children will also habitually object, and some parents will reprimand their children because they feel that their authority has been challenged.

But it cannot be denied that there is equality between children and parents. There are many reasons why a child may talk back. Sometimes it's a rebellious period, sometimes it's because parents don't understand.

Sometimes it is a misunderstanding of parents, so the child will talk back. At that time, the children were particularly aggrieved and wanted to break free from their parents' education. Parents never think about what they ask their children to do, and they must do it themselves.

For example, children are asked not to look at their phones to play games, but they do not improve the phenomenon. And let the children go to bed early, but they went outside to play mahjong and didn't come home until dawn. This phenomenon is not conducive to the growth of children, so it will lead children to talk back.

And some parents always hit their children, and it is precisely because of their blows that their children will have a rebellious mentality.

In front of their children, parents always feel that what they are doing is absolutely right, and they feel that what they decide should not be refuted. Therefore, as long as the child shows his dissatisfaction slightly, the parents will think that the child is talking back. Always want to talk to the child in a commanding tone, giving the child a sense of superiority, which will make the child feel uncomfortable.

Therefore, learn to communicate with the child, and let the child feel that the two people are equal in the process of communication, so that the child will improve.

This may be because the child has a bad mentality and does not have basic respect for his parents, so he will often talk back to his parents.

It may be because parents often complain and abuse their children, or it may be because parents often spoil their children, or it may be because parents do not set a particularly good example for their children.

Because the child's personality is not very good, the child wants to express some of his opinions in front of his parents, so he will often talk back.

Children are independent individuals who already have a sense of individuality, and they will talk back when they feel that what their parents say is wrong.

In the process of educating their children, many parents have encountered the phenomenon of children talking back, most of them are because the parents' views are still not recognized, or they still have their own ideas, so they will talk back to their parents, or parents are unhappy when they are educating their children, so they will talk back to their parents. Parents will definitely be very unhappy when they see their children talking back, and some parents will be grumpy and will beat people, in fact.

This method is very wrong, when the child talks back to the parents, the parents must remain calm and learn to understand the children's thoughts.

In the process of educating children, if the child does something wrong, parents must pay attention to the method of criticizing the child, and do not blame the child all the time, otherwise the child will definitely talk back to the parents. If parents see their children talking back, they should first control their emotions, don't hit the children, and don't scold the children all the time, otherwise the child's personality will become more irritable, not only can not play a role in educating the child, but also play a counterproductive role, which will cause great damage to the child's soul. At this time, parents must deal with it calmly, focus on educating their children, communicate with their children calmly, and ask their children why.

When educating children, if the child talks back, parents should first stay calm, and then try to communicate with the child to understand why the child is like this. When parents understand why their children behave this way, they should learn to think from the perspective of their children, and do not blindly impose their own ideas on their children, so as to ease the atmosphere between them and their children, so as to better educate their children.

Parents should learn to be a role model for their children in the process of educating their children, if the parents' personality is very impulsive and very easy to quarrel with others, children will also develop a bad habit of talking back. Therefore, parents must be gentle and stable in their usual behavior, not impatient, and must be courteous to the elders in the family, so that they will also have an impact on the child in the subtle way, and will make the child more and more sensible.

Parents must communicate with their children, understand their children's inner thoughts, and must use reasonable reasons to talk to their children.

We must communicate more with our children, we must learn to convince others with reason, we must let our children accept their parents' ideas, and parents must also have a correct mentality.

I think parents should listen more to their children's thoughts, and children talk back, which shows that they are dissatisfied.