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Lack of security awareness.
Children's safety is the top priority, is the head of the family, but most of the elderly in life are relatively weak in safety awareness, often let children do some things have a certain degree of danger, but they are not aware of it. For example, letting children climb the window to get the key, going out to play with unfamiliar people, etc., these are great safety risks, and some children even lose their lives because of this. For the personal safety of the children, the children must improve their safety awareness, so as to reject potential safety hazards from the source.
Lack of hygiene.
The older generation used to live a more miserable life, eating, drinking, and dressing simply, and paying little attention to details, especially hygiene. For example, chewing and feeding the child, not bathing the child for several days, and the child's immune function is imperfect, these unhygienic behaviors may damage his health. Therefore, children should instill some new parenting concepts into the elderly every day, and change their outdated ideas, so that the baby can get sick less and develop better.
Too much pampering of children.
Many old people in the family really spoil their grandchildren as "little emperors" and "little princesses", and they don't allow anyone to say a word or beat them. It seems to be distressing for the child, but in fact, excessive pampering becomes doting, which makes it easy for the child to become unpopular and selfish, and will run into walls everywhere in society in the future. Whether it is parents or the older generation, pampering a child must be grasped well, which is responsible for him.
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This is to spread bad thoughts and habits to children, which have a great impact on children.
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The older generation will spoil the children very much, and the children will give the children what they want, and they can't set rules for the children.
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In the new era, the disadvantage of the older generation with children is that they do not pay attention to their diet, and often give their children some food that they think they can eat, so if you let the elderly take care of their children, they must arrange the children's diet.
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If the older generation has a baby, it is likely that the child will lose his mother's love, become very alienated from his mother, and have no sense of safety.
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Helping children take care of babies has become a habit of life for many elderly people. Of course, a family should help each other in such a harmonious way, which is conducive to the emotional exchange between family members. Moreover, the elderly help with the baby, which not only frees up time for young people to work, but also saves a lot of money for hiring a nanny.
Many old people give people the feeling that they are unkempt, especially when they get older, as if their living habits will be reduced. Therefore, I don't like to brush my teeth and rinse my mouth, take a shower, and even chew food to feed my children.
Since the elderly are in close contact with their children in the middle of taking care of their children, if they do not pay attention to hygiene, they are likely to have germs left in their bodies. Therefore, this kind of behavior can easily lead to the child's illness, because the child's resistance is really too weak, and the bacteria and viruses cannot be controlled at all.
In fact, what parents are most worried about is that the elderly spoil their children, and intergenerational parenting is the norm in many families, as if the elderly want to fill in all their guilt for their children on their grandchildren. Although the child's physical and mental health has not been harmed, spoiling will affect the child's psychology, especially becoming more and more selfish and unreasonable.
It is important to remember that physical health is just as important, and that with a healthy mind, children can develop a good temperament, and then understand that they are humble and courteous in their dealings with others, and that there will be no arrogance and pretentious behavior. It is very likely that the elderly feel that spoiling is a sign of loving their children, but they ignore these damages behind spoiling. I firmly believe that young parents dare not easily hand over their children to this kind of old man, because children who are spoiled and raised are likely to become unrecognized, and it is very easy to lose more than they lose in society in the future.
There is a kind of old man that people don't like, that is the kind that tells right and wrong, although there are no bad habits in life, but they always "hurt people with hidden arrows" behind them. In front of the child's mother, it is very likely that the old man is the same appearance, but in front of the child and the child's father, the old man habitually plays with right and wrong.
For such an old man, I firmly believe that many mothers are extremely disgusted, because we are talking about right and wrong, and we will have a relationship with our own family. Compared with other elderly people with bad habits, the elderly who tell right and wrong are the most headaches, because we never recognize our mistakes, and even feel that we are doing the right thing.
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The old man with a cowardly personality, the old man with a particularly short temper, the old man who is particularly careless, the old man who dotes on his children very much, and the old man who is sexist.
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Particularly selfish, very careless, doting on children, patriarchal, disrespectful, these types of elderly people are not suitable for children.
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Very short-tempered. It's extreme. Very introverted. There are many vices. very lazy. 3. The view is very crooked. He is very calculating. Very poor character.
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Having a child is not an easy task, especially now that there are many parents who have to take care of their children at the same time, and the pressure is even greater. Therefore, some families will choose to hire a nanny and let the nanny solve the problem of bringing the baby, while some families will find the elders in the family to help, and let the mother-in-law or mother take care of the child, which is what we call "next-generation relatives". The age and ideological generation gap has led to certain differences between the two generations in terms of raising children.
In the matter of bringing a baby, some parents think that taking a baby is to come by themselves or hire a reliable nanny, while some families think that they should bring it to their mother-in-law, because they are more at ease with their own family.
Don't worry, one is really tired with a child, really hard, and upset, the nanny is afraid that she doesn't have the patience, and she will definitely not take it well, don't say that some nannies are very good, even the mother herself has a time of collapse, the importance of childhood to the child's psychology, I don't say I'm afraid of being barred, please read Li Meijin's criminal psychology by yourself. Of course, that's the worst-case scenario, but I'm afraid of what if. Second, the nanny is really low in cultural quality, you must know that education is to moisturize things silently, that is, the usual speech and behavior of the supporter will be affected, many nannies take advantage of the main family is not picking up garbage, or go to chat with another nanny, useless to belittle the nanny, but it is true, just like when we were children, rural mothers never tutored children, nor taught children, but ran to the neighbor's house to gossip, and the children must have learned this.
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For some people who have become parents, the current work pressure is very high, and they also have to shoulder the responsibility of raising a baby. This pressure is too much for them to bear, and most people will leave their children to their parents, wanting their parents to help take care of the children. The old man finally brought up his own children, and then he had to bring his grandchildren, and some old people would happily agree.
So what are the benefits of the older generation with a baby? <>
The older generation of people have a lot of experience in raising babies, because they have accumulated a lot of experience in bringing up their children. They know what their children usually need most, and they know some common sense, compared to those novice parents, the older generation with a baby may be more reliable than a novice parent with a baby. And the older generation with a baby can also give a lot of novice parents a lot of common sense that they don't know, so sometimes the older generation with a baby will be a little better than the novice parents.
Because there are children at home, most people who go out to work are very worried, he can't help it, and he has to take care of his work and take care of the baby. If there is someone of the older generation who can help him with a baby, then he can go to work with confidence, because his family is the most reliable. If they can help themselves with the baby, they can earn money at work, earn more money, and support their families.
And the older generation is not like a nanny, the nanny may do some bad things to the child, but the older generation will not do this, they treat their children as if they were when they were children, and they love them very much. <>
Some older generations with babies, because they love their little grandchildren or granddaughters very much, will cause spoiling to children at this time. Over time, the child's character will be spoiled. Therefore, when the old man is taking the baby, he must tell him to take the baby correctly and not spoil the child.
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In life, there are many parents who choose to take care of their own babies, they think that this can better take care of their children, but there are also many families who choose to let the older generation take care of their babies, in fact, there are many benefits.
It can reduce the burden on parents. In fact, now young people are under a lot of pressure, either at work or on the way to work, there is not too much time to take care of their children, and now parents must both go to work, so as to maintain the daily expenses of the family, if only the father goes to work and let the mother take care of the child at home, then the pressure on the father will be very great, and can not provide a better life for the child, the elderly with the baby can make the child's parents have more time to busy their own affairs, since the child's parents go to work, But at the same time, it also allows the older generation to take care of their children.
On the one hand, this is likely to make children develop pampered habits, but on the other hand, this will also create a better living environment for children, and there are more experience and virtues in the older generation, and these traditional rules will also make children grow better, so children can also learn more traditional knowledge from the older generation, and let children learn more from the older generation. I think it's very advantageous not to let these kids keep chasing Western culture.
The elderly are more experienced with babies. After all, the older generation has experience with a baby, they know how to educate and guide the child, and many parents are actually the first time to take the child, so they don't know what to do, lack of good parenting knowledge, and the elderly are also very good to the child, so the child's parents do not have to worry about the child being wronged, when the weather becomes cooler, the older generation will also add clothes to the child in time, and always accompany the child, have more time to play with the child, so that the child gets more care.
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The older generation with a baby can deepen the child's bond with the big family, and at the same time, the older generation with a baby can let the child get in touch with the life of the previous era, so that the child knows the suffering of life in that era and cherishes the current life.
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First, consider the child's mood, second, get along very well with the child, third, you can establish a good parent-child relationship, fourth, do not force the child to study, and fifth, it is free-range for the child.
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