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Filial piety' after the two words are first filial piety, filial piety first, and then Shun, follow the old man's mind, the 80-year-old man's mind is more like a child, even if he does the wrong thing, said the wrong thing, don't quarrel with him, the generation gap This problem is difficult to solve the ordinary quarrel, only the euphemistic and gentle to communicate with the old man to explain, do not directly point out the mistake, to stand in his position to help him analyze what the consequences will be if he does what he says, you can agree with his point of view first, and then ask him rhetorically if he does this, what kind of consequences there are？ Try to solve this problem from the perspective of changing the old man's thinking, be patient with the elderly, suppress your anger many times, find a way to solve the problem, be calm, and think of more ways! I wish you success!

Sometimes, even if parents are wrong, we must listen to them, because filial piety is more important as a child. So it's okay to listen to your parents properly. There's no need to be too autonomous about everything.

For such an old man, you can promise him on the surface. How to do it? It's up to you!

Then you can listen to what he says, but if he is wrong, then you should do what you think, and listen to him if he is wrong. When the old man is older, he is like a child, you can follow him, but you can do things according to your own ideas.

People grow up slowly, and it is not wrong to listen to their parents; Parents do not harm their children, after marriage, some things, want to ask parents, there are also things that should not be asked, as you grow older, you will gradually mature; If you can take care of the house, you can take care of it yourself, and the man will always grow up!

Think about it from another perspective, it doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't have an opinion, how does he usually treat you, considerate? Is it that he is also very stressed, and he doesn't want to rely too much on his parents financially, so he is already very happy to have his own home.

Understand him, take your time, have no opinions, mainly have dependence on your father for a long time, and your father's strength also has something to do with it. If there is anything you can communicate directly with your father-in-law, the effect will actually be better.

My ex-husband also listened to his dad for everything, even his dad didn't give me his salary, and to be honest, he secretly took out some of the miles he told me to give his dad, and his dad was more important than his son, so he became an ex-husband.

It's really hard to say, I don't know what the specific situation of your family is, but it still depends on what it is, if you say something you can't bear, you can say it, or talk to your father-in-law.

I've just been searching for this kind of question, and I haven't come to the house yet, but I'm already fighting my wits and courage. Hehe thinks that his family is looking for a daughter-in-law instead of a daughter-in-law, and my boyfriend is talking to his parents all day long about what to discuss, which is what he thinks of communication. Haha, that's ridiculous......I think he's used to this kind of control, and I don't want to be tied down like this, but think it's asking for help.

I was desperate but didn't want to lose my affection because of his father. I don't know what to do.

Please believe that none of my parents did not plan for their children's lives, you can communicate well, and you will understand when you grow up.

Personally, I feel that your father has a bit of a problem, you can communicate more with your father, say your thoughts, and if you can't communicate effectively with your father, there are three ways:

You can let your mother intervene, talk to your mother, or other elders (of course, find someone who has a good relationship with your father, has a little experience, and is persuasive), and they can communicate with their peers a little better.

Take the legal route, even the biological parents can't beat and scold the child at will, seek legal help, maybe it can solve the problem, but this may fall out with the family, think twice.

Keep enduring. I hope that the problem can be solved, and I believe that there are no parents who do not love their children, and I hope that you can spend every day happily.

All in all, the choices made by parents are also for our good, provided that you also communicate more with your parents and talk about your thoughts, but pay attention to the tone.

My husband says the same about me, and he is also machismo.

Don't be accommodating all the time, communicate more.

It's good to talk to him, husband and wife are equal, what to discuss, can't he say what is what, if you say it, you have to listen, of course you can't listen to it, why doesn't he let you take care of things related to your family, this can't work, parents raise children, that is, for the children to be old to have children to take care of, if you don't care, what should your parents do, you can reason with him, according to him, is it his family.

What's the matter. It's not you.

Don't let him care, in short, take your time, machismo.

If you can't be hard with him, let's make the boy soft, and see if this can influence him.

The old people in the family are old and like to turn over the old accounts, over and over again, some things that may not have been solved in time are still being said now, if the matter is not particularly serious, and it is not particularly hurtful and angry, just turn a blind eye, after all, it is the old man in the family, and he cares about it in case he is angry to go to the hospital again and again, the gain outweighs the loss.

The old man has suffered a lot before, we try to measure him as much as possible, usually accompany him more, buy him if he wants to eat, take him if he wants to go out for a walk, try not to get angry, because there is very little time to accompany him, the reason why I have to endure it is because I am grateful to her for giving her life and raising her, whether it is as a son or grandson, I always have to thank him.

When the old man in the family is unreasonable and selfish, as long as it does not involve the issue of principle, we don't need to care about him, just obey her a little, there is no need to be more serious with him!

The old man in the family is unreasonable and selfish, you don't want to be like him, since you are an old man, you have to be humble. Reason with him more, after all, it's all the family who suffers and loses everything, and they all don't care about these things at home.

The elderly in the family are unreasonable and selfish, what should I do?

If you have such an old man, you can also understand your distress.

As children, if he is unreasonable, then we will not reason with him, and we will provoke her less and have less intersections with him, so that there will be no conflict.

Selfishness may be because of the poverty caused by their time, so they want to own everything and let it be, after all, they are old.

The old people in the family are unreasonable and selfish, there is really nothing they can do, this is caused by their family environment since childhood, so we are juniors, as long as we understand, there is nothing to do.

Old children, like children. Don't worry about them, do what you do in accordance with the principles.

To what extent can a person be selfish? Let me give you a real-life example.

There is an old man surnamed Du in the next village, who is seventy or eighty years old, and he was also a capable person when he was young, and he was the first batch to get rich after the reform and opening up. But he has a problem, that is, he patronizes himself to eat and drink, and when he knows that he has money in his hand, he leaves his family to go to the restaurant, and only goes home after he is full of wine and food, and he doesn't care whether his wife and children at home have anything to eat. Later, as his son grew up, not only did he have another "Lao Du", but he was also better than the blue, and the father and son tossed each other until they lost their home.

I didn't have money to eat or drink, so I started to have the idea of a girl. He asked his two daughters to pay 5,000 yuan a year on time. The eldest daughter's condition is better and she can send it on time every year, but the younger girl's family is more difficult, and sometimes she can't deliver the money on time, so he will go to her house to make a fuss and smash things, until the son-in-law has enough money to deliver to him.

Once on his birthday, his eldest daughter bought him a new set of clothes and a new pair of leather shoes, and happily went to celebrate his birthday. But when he saw that he didn't buy wine or meat, he was furious, cut his clothes with scissors and set them on fire, threw his leather shoes into the pond, and made the eldest girl cry so angrily that she cried for several days.

In the past six years, his only son was working outside the home, and one day he suddenly died, and after he went, he neither investigated the cause of his son's death, nor did he see the pain of losing his son in old age, but blindly asked the other party for more money to provide for his own food and drink, and outsiders saw that he was not worth it.

So what can be done about dealing with some selfish old people? I think there are two situations to be treated differently.

The first type is those who are extremely selfish, who patronize themselves and never care about others, like the one mentioned above. It is useless to reason with such a person, when his son got married, many people advised him not to just think that he should put his family first, but he didn't listen to it at all, and still went his own way. So much so that the daughter-in-law committed suicide by throwing herself into the river with extreme disappointment when the persuasion was hopeless.

The only way to deal with this kind of person is to ignore him and let him fend for himself, just like Lao Du, now not only his neighbors ignore him, but even his relatives rarely walk around with him.

The second is those who are selfish due to partiality. My father-in-law has three sons, and he is very partial to the younger son, and he has to leave anything good to the younger son. It is usually the things we go to his house to buy during the New Year's holidays, the children of the eldest son and the second son can't eat at all, and the children of the younger son can not only eat, but also take home and eat slowly.

In addition to the younger son, he didn't do the work of the eldest son and the second son, so both sons accused him of being selfish and partial, and the relationship between their father and son was very tense for a while.

When we encounter such a situation, every time we go, we must persuade him, reason with him, know the benefits and disadvantages, and let him be as fair as possible, so as not to intensify the contradiction and make it irreparable. The old man was also very persuasive, and now it is much better, every time we go, he will call all three of us to get together together, and the relationship between father and son is also harmonious.

If this is the case for the elderly there, I suggest that you should live separately from them, out of sight and out of mind.

There is no way, he can say whatever he likes, and he won't be angry with them.

No one can help an old man like this? Because he is an old man, he can only let the children go.

How you deal with the problem depends on your relationship with him

1. Strangers. Please call the police and let the police take care of it. After all, there are a lot of things now, and you must be careful with the elderly.

2. Loved ones. Then you should be more patient, the old man is like a child when he is old, he will be angry, and he loves to be unreasonable. As the saying goes, old children, old children.

That's it! Be more tolerant, after all, he has taken care of him since you were a child. Filial piety comes first!

This is a great thing to accumulate virtue and do good!

Anyway how to get it? You should be patient with him, because he is over 100 years old, and he should be guaranteed to use the old man, sometimes he is confused, and he has to die when he talks to the squad leader, understand him, eat him to death, don't let his family and children look at you, it is not good for her, uncomfortable.

What would you do if an old man in his 80s was vexatious to you? Then your description of this eight-year-old man. Whether it has nothing to do with you, or is it your loved one.

If it has nothing to do with you. So. You walked away so silently, away from him.

Such. is the best solution for yourself, if it is your own relatives, then you follow him to coax him, after all, an 80-year-old man. Just like my little kid.

So. Haven't you heard that sentence? Old kids, little kids.

You can only use the method of coaxing.

If an 80-year-old man is unreasonable to you, then you have to think about it, think about the old man's difficulty, and his family's difficulty, and take care of it more. When people get old, they will become old children, as unreasonable as a child, and it is difficult for people to understand things, so don't be like him.

If an 80-year-old man is vexatious to you, then I will definitely call the police and let the police come and coordinate, so he will not be reasonable.

One is to call the police, the second is to prosecute, and the third is to wait for the old man to die.

An old man like this, he relies on the old and sells the old, you discuss with him, and the problem can't be solved at all, you can call the police and let the police negotiate with him.

What would you do if an 80-year-old man was vexatious to you? I'll coax her like a child. Because when people reach the age of 80 years and are over, they need to be coaxed just like children. Because respecting the old and loving the young is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation.

Since you can't explain reasonably, see you in court and sue your neighbor for encroaching on your land;

In addition, observe what the neighbor's old man serves that kind of person, such as the other party's feudal superstition, you can also use feudal superstition to deal with him. Find people and things that can subdue the other person to deal with him.

To deal with unreasonable hooligans, of course, we must use extraordinary means to repay the other in the other way.

Treat every old man like a child.

What would you do if an 80-year-old man was vexatious to you? Then I think an 80-year-old man, he is unreasonable to you, you should also understand him, forgive him, after all, he is old, and the older person is an old child.

There's no need to conflict with him, if you think about it, he's 80, how many years can he still be in trouble? Besides, there is a saying that people are watching the sky, you don't look at him so much now, wait ten or eight years to see how his descendants are doing, and you will be relieved.