What should I do if I am depressed and want to lose my temper when I see my mother in law?

Updated on psychology 2024-06-19
32 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-12

    Communicate more with your mother-in-law, communicate, don't be depressed, lose your temper, this is not good for yourself and others.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    Reason:

    1. It may be the mother-in-law's own reasons, in real life, some mothers-in-law are really annoying, often bully their daughters-in-law, and have a lot of dissatisfaction with their daughters-in-law.

    2. It may also be due to their own reasons, for example, when they were in their mother's house, their mother doted on themselves, and now they live with their mother-in-law's family, and it is impossible for the mother-in-law to spoil herself like her biological mother, so if she feels dissatisfied, she will have resentment towards her mother-in-law, in fact, this is just a difference in personal living habits, and you should not have so much resistance.

    3. You must know that everything is prosperous at home.

    If you are very irritable when you see your mother-in-law and don't like your mother-in-law, then your husband will also see it in your eyes, which will affect the relationship between the husband and wife.

    Method: 1. Some people may be caused by psychological factors, it is recommended that you chat and communicate with your mother-in-law to see what kind of person your mother-in-law is.

    2. If it is because the mother-in-law is too much, such as being more partial, when the young couple quarrels, the mother-in-law always helps her son, then this situation will definitely be very unhappy as a daughter-in-law, so I don't want to live with my mother-in-law. It is recommended that you can buy another house, even if you pay a down payment, you can live separately from your mother-in-law.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    The easiest way is to separate from your mother-in-law. Of course, the consequence to be borne is to be misunderstood, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

    Disagreement. If it can't be done, there is another curve to save the country.

    of the road. You will suffer some grievances in the early stage, but of course, the cultivation of this path is very important for each of us, and it can improve your ability in all aspects of interpersonal communication.

    The first thing you have to admit and face calmly is:

    1. You have a lot of dissatisfaction with your mother-in-law. Selfish, hypocritical, strong, and unreasonable.

    2. Your heart has a lot of expectations for your mother-in-law at the beginning. can't meet your expectations, and you can feel from your expression that you are disappointed, even if it is difficult, you don't want her to help. But this presentation is also resentful.

    3. You yourself are actually very cowardly and incompetent. Even if you are stepped on by someone, you are the one who cannot break out. This is also the reason why mother-in-law and aunts don't take you seriously anymore.

    You should look at the above three points objectively and neutrally. Yes, it can be changed, and in advance you have to recognize that the problem is there. Speaking of you, you need to cultivate your own path.

    First of all, we must also adjust our mentality, and we must be more objective and neutral about my mother-in-law's behavior, and always be aware of whether I am bringing emotions up. If I were you, when my mother-in-law complained to me about the child's problems (to be objective and neutral), when she told the truth, no matter how ugly she said, you not only had to accept it, but also have to agree and ask for a way. You have to let your mother-in-law receive that you are empathetic to her, and she is also helpless about this problem.

    At the same time, they are on the same front, and they must be solved by all means. (Sometimes you also have to think about the various positions of your mother-in-law now, what is the reason and what kind of values she will do).

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    It's very depressing to get along with my mother-in-law, and the best thing to do is not to care about him and ignore him. It's good to be the best version of yourself, to be the happiest version of yourself, and to do what interests you the most.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    When we enter the society and start a family, we may encounter all kinds of troubles, we will have all kinds of trivial things in life, we will feel particularly irritable, and we may also be depressed, such as the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

    If you are depressed with your mother-in-law, you can do this:

    One is to communicate and communicate with your mother-in-law, which is a particularly effective way to ease the relationship between two people.

    The second is to do what you want to do, if you keep worrying about this kind of international relations, you may become more irritable, and if you can do what you want to do, you will be able to divert your attention.

    The third is to try to make yourself more tolerant and generous, because sometimes in the process of getting along, we need to be tolerant of each other, so that we can not be so depressed.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    It is said that mother-in-law is not mother-in-law. There are few who can treat their mother-in-law as a mother. So it's normal for you to be very depressed with your mother-in-law.

    I think it's better for you to talk to your partner and move out alone so that you have less time to contact your mother-in-law, and naturally you won't feel depressed.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    You can discuss it and live separately.

    If you have the conditions, you will move out, and if you don't have the conditions, you will hold back, this condition includes, buying a house alone, whether the family needs to rely on the elderly to help part of the economic conditions, your husband's recognition, if there are children involved, can you take care of the children yourself, etc., if you lack economic ability and material conditions, then you can only be better to yourself and do a good job of communicating with yourself.

    When the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law quarrel, if the conflict is caused by the mother-in-law first. Then as a son, you should coax your daughter-in-law well, so that your daughter-in-law should not get angry with her mother in line with the principle of filial piety, after all, the elders are the greatest. If the matter is caused by the daughter-in-law, the son should communicate with his wife well, calmly explain the ins and outs of the matter, and then apologize to the mother.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    It's very depressing to get along with my mother-in-law, what should I do? Adjust your mindset. Whether he is right or wrong, forgive him. Because she is an old man. Treat her like your own mother. This way you will be less stressed.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    I feel very depressed to get along with my mother-in-law, it is best to live separately, or to be together for a long time, it is easy to get sick after long-term depression, a person and a person must be popular, if you don't like this person, it is difficult to change your outlook, if you don't like your mother-in-law, no matter how good she is to you, no matter how hard you try, you will not get along comfortably.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    If you feel very depressed and unaccustomed to getting along with your mother-in-law, then you will live separately, and if you don't have the conditions to live separately, then change your mentality, don't worry too much, otherwise you will be depressed for a long time and it will not be good for your health.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    First of all, we must find fault with ourselves, what is causing the estrangement, and then find ways to improve it. Secondly, buy more things for your mother-in-law, and have more contact, which will enhance the relationship over time.

  12. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Although the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult to get along with, mother-in-law cannot treat her daughter-in-law as a daughter, and it is difficult for daughter-in-law to treat her mother-in-law as her own mother.

    Since ancient times, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been difficult to get along with, so expectations should not be too high. Because a mother-in-law is not a mother, and a daughter-in-law is not a daughter. Therefore, the daughter-in-law cannot expect her mother-in-law as her own mother, and the mother-in-law cannot expect her daughter-in-law as a daughter.

    When many girls first marry into their mother-in-law's family, they want to be a good daughter-in-law, and many mothers-in-law also want to be a good mother-in-law before their son gets married. But after the young couple got married, when the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law got along day and night, they found that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was really not easy to get along.

    As a mother-in-law, I hope that my daughter-in-law will treat you in the future, so you will do to your daughter-in-law today! Every mother-in-law comes from her daughter-in-law and understands the psychology of her daughter-in-law, but her daughter-in-law has never been a mother-in-law and cannot understand the psychology of her mother-in-law. Therefore, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along with each other, mother-in-law should be more tolerant, and daughter-in-law should be more considerate of mother-in-law, only when mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along in harmony, the man they love together can be happy and the family can be harmonious.

    But in any case, when mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along, they must draw a clear line and grasp the degree. What should the mother-in-law do, what should the mother-in-law manage, think about it and then do it, think about it and then take care of it, if it is not within the jurisdiction of the mother-in-law, don't mix it; Sometimes you think that what you are doing is a good thing, but as a daughter-in-law, you may not necessarily approve of it, and your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law must get along with each other in a good way.

    Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along, will not be like getting along with parents, getting along with parents can be unilateral pay, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can't, their relationship needs to pay for each other, you are good to me, I am good to you, this kind of "as your own" care needs to be heart-to-heart, mother-in-law to daughter-in-law pay more, daughter-in-law will naturally not be bad to mother-in-law, harmonious mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship, inseparable from mother-in-law and daughter-in-law both sides of each other, mutual tolerance.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    It's very depressing to get along with your mother-in-law, if you are depressed with him, you can divide it, and you can live alone, and when your mother-in-law is older, it's okay to get together again, or else, you have to go out to work, and the time you come back together is short.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Why do you find it so depressing to get along with your mother-in-law?

    Don't you want to get along with your mother-in-law? I like to lie down casually every day, but my mother-in-law is uncomfortable, right?

    Or is the mother-in-law so strong that she doesn't want to see her face? Or does the mother-in-law want to take care of everything?

    If you can, move out and live alone, and go home regularly to visit your mother-in-law.

    If you don't have the conditions, learn to get along with her, exchange hearts for hearts, fall in love over time, slowly run in, and live in harmony.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    It's very depressing to get along with my mother-in-law, either I just have patience and get along well, or I live separately, get closer, and take care of each other, so that everyone will live a little more comfortable. It's not so depressing.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    If you are very depressed with your mother-in-law, it is best not to live under the same roof, you and your husband are different, the house lives outside, but this house should not be too far away, because if your mother-in-law and father-in-law are old, if something goes wrong, you still have to take care of them.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    It's very depressing to get along with my mother-in-law, what should I do? If you are very depressed with your mother-in-law, you will discuss with your husband to move out and live alone. Young people nowadays should not live with old people, and habits are different in all aspects. If you don't get along well, you will feel embarrassed.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    It is recommended to live separately from your mother-in-law as much as possible, and sit with your mother-in-law to communicate, because your lifestyles are different and there will be a generation gap, so living together will be more depressing.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    All mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships are the result of the inaction of the husband. Since you have seen your husband's inaction, you must try to learn to live for yourself, and if your husband does not stand up for you, he will do it himself. At least don't be underestimated.

    I couldn't stand it, so I tried to move out, buy my own house, and have a real small home for my two husbands and wives.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Usually, you can find more things that two people are interested in doing together, which can increase the relationship between two people.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    If getting along with my mother-in-law is very depressing, my personal suggestion is to stay away from him, talk to my husband, and try not to make do with it, if there is no room, well, if you are forced to put it together, then it is um, rent him a room and let him go out to live.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    Since ancient times, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been difficult to get along, and if the relationship between the landlord and the mother-in-law is like fire, you can go out with your husband to rent a house alone, buy a house, out of sight and out of mind.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a hidden danger of family conflicts, if you feel depressed to get along, you might as well live separately from the elderly, so that you can spend less time with less contradictions, and your heart will also reduce pressure, so it will not be very depressing.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    It's good to live on your own, but taking care of your children can be a little harder.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    It's not difficult to get along, the main thing is that two people are not used to living differently, and suddenly living together will feel very depressed, you can get along for a few days, be separated for a period of time, get together, and slowly run in some of each other's living habits, it's really not good, then each has its own living space, and it is okay to get together occasionally. Try not to interfere with each other's lives.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    Look at the advantages of your mother-in-law and often empathize.

    Helping others is the foundation of happiness, and on the basis of not violating the law and morality, you can secretly do your best to help people in need, and you can get unexpected happiness.

    It is recommended to look at books that can improve people's positive energy, and reading one page a day can make people's mentality better.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    As long as you learn to be tolerant and treat your mother-in-law as your own mother. Your mood will not be depressed. In addition, you must stay away from your mother-in-law. Hands-free so as not to contradict each other.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    Don't get along with your mother-in-law, after all, it is two generations, there is a generation gap, and it will be depressed after a long time, or choose to live separately, it will be better to get along that way, and distance produces beauty.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    You can live separately and see each other less, so that the mood will be much better, and you should be more considerate of the old mood.

  30. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    Since ancient times, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have been at odds, and mother-in-law is always towards her children. Daughter-in-law, you will never be able to leave the heart of your mother-in-law. If you are depressed with your mother-in-law, you can go out to work or live separately.

  31. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    The mother-in-law gets angry at every turn.

    It may be that you have reached a certain age group.

    It is what we often call menopause.

    It may also be the mother-in-law's personality.

    Advice if it's really hard to serve.

    Try to keep contact with each other as little as possible.

    Or just don't dwell on it.

    You can avoid a lot of unnecessary disputes.

  32. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    The two of you have moved out of the single, out of sight and out of mind, far away from her. It's hard for her to see you both. If she loves to be angry, just let her be angry and ignore her.

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