Can you get along with the elderly? How to live in harmony with the elderly?

I don't think it's harmonious, because there is a generation gap between older people and children, and sometimes children can't understand what adults do, so I think it's better to live separately. And although your future husband has never left home, does it mean that one day his parents will leave and take his children with him? Sooner or later, you will have to start a family on your own.

1. Make your own decisions about your own life.

There will be differences in living habits between your parents and us, including ideas, attitudes and ways, so you can't live according to your parents' ideas and wishes, and even if you can accept it, your wife can't accept it.

Life is for the two of you, as long as you can accept anything, and in the face of parental interference, you should also show your attitude.

2. Filial piety is not foolishness.

For example, your parents can't see you doing housework, and they can't get used to your wife spending money indiscriminately, although they love you, love you and do good for you, but that's just their wishes, you always have to take into account your actual life, after all, that's your life, and your parents only see the tip of the iceberg.

No matter how lazy your wife is, you can stand it, don't listen to the wind and rain, be the master of your own life, and at the same time persuade your parents to let them live their lives, they should also have their lives.

3. Passing at both ends and concealing at both ends.

Regarding the good of both parties, it must be conveyed in a timely manner, even if it is a little exaggerated, it doesn't matter, for example, when the weather is cold, you buy a pair of gloves for your parents, it can be said that it is the wife's heart.

For example, if your parents praise your wife for a certain advantage in front of you, and there are some words that understand your wife, you can pass it on to your wife when you come back, so that two people know that each other is good, and then infinitely magnify their good side.

As for the two-headed concealment, any bad thing to you is the end, so don't tell the other party about it, even if it's the truth.

And you know, sometimes some words turn bad when they are passed on, such as parents when you say that your wife gets up late, maybe your parents think that young people don't eat breakfast is not good for their health, but once it reaches the ears of their wives, they will inevitably feel that their in-laws are blaming themselves, and then the contradictions will accumulate.

Don't have venting after a quarrel, angrily talking about all the shortcomings of your wife, and adding some to the edge, you must know that the husband and wife are quarreling at the head of the bed and at the end of the bed, and some things are turned over here with you, but not with the parents of both sides.

4. Give certain affirmation to your wife.

If even you don't respect your wife, don't expect your parents to really respect your wife, many times, your attitude towards your wife is the attitude of your parents towards your wife.

The most ignorant kind of man always likes to show himself too much in front of his parents, deliberately stepping on his wife, in order to show his strength, so he gives his parents an illusion that his daughter-in-law is catching up with his son, so it is easy to make the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law unbalanced, and your parents are more lofty because of your attitude.

As the old saying goes: husband and wife don't cheat with their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Only when the husband and wife are in harmony can they be respected by their parents, and the more they are in front of their parents, the more they must give their wives a certain amount of affirmation.

1.Family needs: If the family needs to leave a reprieve to take care of the elderly alone, and they are unable to live independently, then living with their parents may be a good choice.

4.Cost of living: If you can save a lot of money on living costs such as rent, utilities, gas, etc., then you can consider living with your parents.

It is important to note that whether or not to live with your parents after marriage is a very personal choice that depends on the needs and preferences of the family. Before making a decision, you should fully understand the possible benefits and risks of each option and make the best decision based on your situation.

Up and down for 5,000 years are such a preparation for the land, of course, the family is very popular together, the family and everything is prosperous, the people are prosperous, and they can take care of each other. Think about your parents, grandparents, grandparents, and grandparents, all of whom came over like this.

To be honest, after listening to that, my heart stopped for a while. Nowadays, many sensible old people do not want to live with their wives and children, and they say that it is reasonable to want happiness. Just like her family, that's really a minority.

However, all families have difficult experiences, and the elderly want to live with their children, so they have to think for themselves for fear of being alone. The increase in the number of people who do not want to live with the elderly after marriage is actually just these reasons, and it has nothing to do with honoring their parents. If there is a contradiction between two ideas and concepts, try to communicate as much as possible.

Because the elderly do not want to be too strong, they can reduce the burden on their parents through an independent portal**. In fact, many young people want to live alone after marriage and do not want to cause trouble to their parents. As a result, if you continue to live with them, your parents will have to cook for them, clean their clothes, buy food, etc., and do chores all day long.

When you're late from work, it's necessary for your parents to worry about that. In short, as long as the parents are under their eyes, they still treat themselves as children.

But after separation, the elderly simply take care of themselves. You don't have to work hard to do household chores. In addition, there is no need to buy groceries and cook on time every day.

Occasionally, I want to go shopping, square dance, and when I get home, I don't have to worry about no one at home. Avoid mother-daughter conflicts and keep the peace with your family (root cause). Especially after the birth of a child, various conflicts may arise between the mother-in-law and the mother-in-law.

This is directly related to the unstable family and can even threaten the marriage relationship of the two.

But after living apart, distance can sometimes produce beauty, not living together day by day, but becoming closer. Moreover, there is no need to change each other's habits in order to adapt to this new life. Parents don't have to change decades of cooking and lifestyle habits.

In addition, young people are satisfied with limb fighting themselves and do not have to grieve to become tolerant.

Because they are different, a lot of conflicts and frictions can be avoided, which will further promote harmony and peace in the family. In this way, young people who live alone will become more comfortable.