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For the anger from the parents, it is difficult for the child to distinguish what I am doing wrong, and it is difficult to realize that the parent's educational behavior is incorrect. When my parents lose their temper with me, I must have done something wrong, otherwise why would they scold me, or rather, in the process of growing up, for some reason, such as a single-parent family.
Live carefully in the family, for fear that one will make her angry if she is not careful. Hating my mother may just be a reason to hurt myself. So we have to learn to reconcile with ourselves and forgive ourselves. This is the most critical step in the psyche.
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In family education, the education of mothers can be said to be irreplaceable by anyone. Someone once conducted a survey on some successful people, and the survey found that the mother who had the greatest impact on the development of his life was basically his mother.
And the investigation of some criminals found that the mother who had the greatest impact on the crime in his life was basically the mother. It stands to reason that the most closely related to children should be the mother, why are there so many children who have been close to their mothers since they were young, but hate their mothers when they grow up?
Especially the following kinds of mothers:
1. Too much nagging.
Many mothers love to chatter and nagged their children, but mothers are not aware of their children's feelings, thinking that they care about their children and educate their children, while children think that their mothers "come and go all the time, and their ears hear calluses".
In fact, the mother is too nagging, will add a lot of psychological pressure to the child, and these negative emotions and pressure will slowly accumulate in the child's heart, when one day because of a breakthrough release, it will cause the child to lose reason and emotion, the consequences are unimaginable. At the same time, the mother nagging too much will give birth to a strong rebellious psychology in the child.
Second, there are too many disciplines.
As a mother, she hopes that her children can become talented and promising, so she disciplines her children in life. It is good to discipline children, and it is good to let children have rules, but some mothers interfere and restrain everything in their children. In everything big and small, the mother asks the child to act according to his own wishes, and the child has almost no rights and freedoms.
And the child is an independent individual, with his own thoughts and wills, and when the child grows up, the differences with his mother will become bigger and bigger. If such mothers do not change their own education methods, they can only watch their children become more and more estranged from themselves.
It is recommended that such mothers: 1. Communicate more with their children and listen patiently; 2. Give children enough space, no one wants to be completely controlled and manipulated by their parents.
3. Too much scolding.
When a child makes a mistake or does not study well, sometimes the mother can't help but scold when educating the child, but it's okay to scold once or twice, and if you scold too much, the child will change from the original guilt to impatience, and finally even to the point of disgust, disgust, and confrontation.
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It may be that you have reached the rebellious period, you can't listen to what your parents say, and you always feel that they are verbose, so you will also be disgusted, and you will get better after this age, everyone is like this.
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To understand your mother, your mother is very hard, and she will go through menopause, so you must care for your mother more.
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Congratulations, it's because you've grown up and become assertive.
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There is too little communication, so it is recommended to talk more heart-to-heart.
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Summary. After all, the two generations are different, with different philosophies and different ideas. But after all, our mother is the one who gave birth to us and raised us, and we must learn to endure.
You can have a good talk with your mother and give you your point of view tactfully. After all, different personalities are innate, and the estrangement between mother and daughter is difficult to solve, and it is easy to solve it. You can write a letter to your mother in the form of a letter to confide in your heart.
If your mother's attitude hasn't changed, that's her problem. Everyone will have a different experience, some people are lucky, and some people are not living as well as they want1First of all, you have to make sure that no one in this world owes you, and no one will give you benefits unconditionally, this is reality 2
Second, you have to be clear about your situation, since you are still too young and incapable, you can only endure it Remember not to do excessive things, it will not do you any good3Third, if nothing else, you have to wait until you have the ability to be independent in order to have a better life4So when you do things and think about things, you have to start learning to empathize, if you are your mother, why does it do this, because you don't have much value for her, this is human nature.
After all, the two generations are different, with different philosophies and different ideas. But after all, our mother is the one who gave birth to us and raised us, and we have to learn to tolerate stupid pants. You can have a good talk with your mother and give you your point of view tactfully.
After all, different personalities are innate, and the estrangement between mother and daughter is difficult to solve, and it is easy to solve it. You can write a letter to your mother in the form of a letter to confide in your heart. If your mother's attitude hasn't changed, that's her problem.
Everyone will have a different experience, some people are lucky, and some people are not living as well as they want1First of all, you have to make sure that no one in this world owes you, and no one will give you benefits unconditionally, this is reality 2Second, you have to be clear about your situation, since you are still too young and incapable, you can only endure it Remember not to do excessive things, it will not do you any good3
Third, if nothing else, you have to wait until you have the ability to be independent in order to have a better life4So when you do things and think about things, you have to start to learn to empathize, if you are your mother, why should it do this, because you are not of much use to her, this is human nature.
4.So when you do things and think about things, you have to start to learn to empathize, if you are your mother, why is it doing this, because you don't have much value for her to be enlightened, this is human nature5Patience, tolerance, and when you reach the age of Min Manuscript Resistance, you can make money, and these may be able to become your fertilizer, making you more mature and more able to see human nature.
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Always have a negative attitudeNo matter what the child does, or what it is, it will always be a fault-finding and negative attitude in the mother's place. Such mothers, even if their intentions are good, will never be loved by their children. It is likely that in the future, he will become the person that the child hates.
In the future, the parent-child relationship will be even worse. Because the mother didn't know that her attitude had brought a lot of damage to the child, and seriously hit his enthusiasm and self-motivation. Causing the child to become more and more disgusted with her!
I don't know if you're a daughter or not, but if you are, it's similar to my previous situation, and it's really troublesome to encounter such a problem at your age, and I sympathize with it. But there is really no way, talking to the heart is useless and can only be counterproductive, and don't expect your mother's bad temper to change, because if it is menopause, she can't control it herself, and even she herself is very, very painful. >>>More
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