Is it good for a parent to always complain to their child about negative emotions? Why?

Introduction: Parents always complain about negative emotions to their children.

It is very bad for children, because if you always complain to your child, it is very easy for your child to learn to complain about this emotion. You must know that the environment has a very big impact on children, and parents like to complain for a long time will make their children learn from each other, and it is very easy to complain when they encounter things. In the long run, it should make children doubt themselves, and at the very beginning, they will have low self-esteem, which will also have a great impact on the future growth of children.

And it will also make the child very sensitive to the emotions of the parents, will try to speculate on the mood of others, and become a pleasing personality, and the emotions will also be infectious, and long-term complaints will make the child become a negative energy person, and it is difficult for the child to have a sound personality.

Parents should know that complaining will not solve any problems, it will only bring negative energy to the people around them, and it will also make their mood very bad, and the pressure on people is very great, so they need to learn to reconcile with themselves, and use a correct way to vent and consult some bad emotions, if they can't always change the outcome of things, then they need to change the process of things, so that they may be able to get a good result, in fact, it is a bad result, and they must adjust their mentality in time. Because it can't all be so wishy-washy.

Everyone will have their own bad emotions, when there are some complaints, parents can reflect on themselves, is this really that bad? Is there any other way to change, many times the generation of emotions has a source, after the incident, parents will put a label on this matter, if it is a bad label, then it is easy to have negative emotions, so you can consider whether you can put a good label on this matter, so as to help you have a good mood, but also to maintain an optimistic attitude to face many things in life.

Finally, the child is an independent individual, they have their own thoughts and behaviors, parents must pay more attention, usually in the process of communicating with the child do not always complain to the child, otherwise it will have a great impact on the child's growth.

It is not conducive to the growth of children, it will have a serious impact on the growth of children, and there will be many problems, and the harm is relatively high, and secondly, the child will also develop a bad habit, and it will also make the child have certain problems and certain harm.

It is not particularly good for the child's growth, there will be certain harm, there will be certain problems, there will be a lot of things, and the child's emotions will also develop in a negative direction, and it will be very humble or very cowardly.

It is very bad for children, because this will only exert invisible pressure on children, so that children's hearts are becoming more and more negative, and the children's minds at this time are more fragile, because letting children listen to these grievances and emotions is very affecting physical health.

Every pair of parents is different about their children's education, and the personality between parents and parents is also different, some parents always like to complain in front of their children, in fact, these parents do not know that these complaints often have the following effects on the child's personality.

The child's temper is big, the personality is more impatient, and now the social pressure is getting bigger and bigger, and the cost of raising a child is getting higher and higher, so as a parent, the natural economic pressure is also very great, and the parents will naturally think about the future of their children, so they work hard every day, but in this long-term pressure life, there will be some negative emotions, and these negative emotions, some parents will choose to vent to their children.

For example, some parents are not working well, and after returning home, if the child has made a behavior that the parents are very unaccustomed to, at this time the parents will complain to the child about how hard their work is, how difficult it is to raise the child, if the child does not work hard, may be sorry for the parents, although this kind of saying is not wrong, but after a long time to keep complaining to the child about this negative emotion,Children tend to become very impatient, and some children even have a big temper.

Children's personality is more rebellious in fact, it is not easy for parents, children are seen in the eyes, and in mind, not all children are good at expressing their feelings for their parents, but basically all children are silently doing something to express their love for their parents, but after all, everyone's personality is different, children are the same, some children often comfort their parents when their parents complain, but some children are under the long-term complaints of their parentsThere may be some rebellious psychology。And the original intention of the parents to complain is nothing more than to let their children study well and be obedient. But for such children, it may be the opposite of what parents expect.

And once the rebellious mentality is generated, no matter how much the parents complain, it will only make the child more and more anxious.

The child's personality is timid and inferior, and there is also a situation that is under the constant complaints of the parentsThe child may have some low self-esteem and timidity。And this kind of parents usually complain to their children that the economic conditions in the family are not good, and it is not easy for parents to earn money, but they do not earn much money for their children to continue to study, and the children must work hard, and over time, this kind of children will become very inferior, thinking that their family conditions are not good because of their birth. And this kind of inferiority complex may affect the child's life, and when the child grows up, he is still in a state of inferiority, and his personality will become very introverted, unwilling to communicate with others, and even feel that he will never be as good as others.

It will make children generate a lot of negative energy, feel that their lives will be like their parents', and when facing many unknown things, the first time is not to think about how to solve them, but to complain.

It is said that parents are the first teachers of children, and parents' words and deeds will have a profound impact on children, and many times we will find that some of the children's personality qualities can be found from their parents. If the parents have a gentle temper, the child's temper will not be too short-tempered.

It will also be easy for children to have this kind of character, and after a long time, they will also form a complaining character, and they don't want to change when they encounter problems, and they always keep complaining, which is meaningless.

It will be easy to make children feel particularly inferior, especially if the child does not have any confidence in doing anything, which is very bad for the child's growth, and the child's personality will become very bad after a long time.

Low self-esteem and sensitivity, love to figure out people's hearts, short-tempered, strange and depressed, don't want to take medicine, don't want life, want to die and fear death, want to come out but can't get out.

Whether it is a child or an adult, it is inevitable to encounter setbacks in life and inevitably have negative emotions. If the child copes with these negative emotions properly, then these negative emotions cannot affect the child's life; If your child's emotional control is too poor, it can have serious consequences and even hurt other people or things. So parents should pay attention:

1 Parents need to accept their children's negative emotions.

What a person needs most when he has negative emotions is someone who can understand, someone who can listen, and someone who can give emotional acceptance and support, rather than providing advice too quickly and too early, nor saying some empty words of comfort with no actual content.

The negative emotions that children show in their lives are actually just a way for children to express themselves, don't imagine how serious they are. But we often say, "Don't be like this, why are you so ignorant."

In fact, saying this is tantamount to denying the child's bad feelings. Instead of making the child's negative emotions disappear, this will encourage the child's depression and denial, which will cause harm to the child.

Parents should remain calm when facing their children's negative emotions. Many times, although you love your child in your heart, because you are too angry, you show complete denial and blame, which will make your child ignore the content of your speech and pay attention to your emotions. For example, your child is already annoyed that he did not do well in the exam and is thinking of ways to improve, but you are angry and scold him.

At this time, the child's attention will shift from "not doing well in the test" to "mom is angry". Hope that helps.

When a child has this kind of behavior, the main thing is to attract the attention of parents, at this time we should pay more attention to the child's emotions, and more importantly, see how the parents guide them correctly.

To quote a passage that Xinhe's teacher once said in class: When children look the most unlovable, it is when they need love the most. When a child loses his temper, the parents' handling of it hides what the child's future will look like.

Finally, don't forget to hug the tantrum child and tell them: it's okay, Mom and Dad will always love you.

I hope you find this brief sharing helpful.

Parents' emotions are often affected by their children's bad moods as well, for example, parents may become angry or anxious when they see their children throwing tantrums incessantly. In this way, it will not help the child and may cause more harm.

If parents can easily face their children's negative emotions, it is not only beneficial to the parents themselves, but also conducive to resolving their children's negative emotions. So, how can you face it more easily?

First of all, treat negativity and see its positive significance.

We need to recognize that negative emotions are normal, indispensable, and positive in life. Negativity is a reminder when we are threatened and hurt so that we can know when to protect ourselves. Especially for younger children, it is in line with human nature and normal to show emotions and emotions without concealment.

It's actually a good thing for everyone to be able to express negative emotions so that they don't have a backlog of emotions that lead to physical and mental health problems.

When you see your child have negative emotions, allow them to express them, and be aware of their emotional state in time, if they feel bad, calm their emotions first, the following methods can help you relax and calm down quickly.

Breathing exercises. The easiest and quickest way is to breathe in the abdomen, like a baby's breath, inhale deeply through your nose to make your abdomen bulge, and when you exhale, exhale slowly through your mouth so that your abdomen slowly falls. If you want to feel the changes in your abdomen, you can place one hand on it.

Muscle relaxation. When you are nervous, you will notice that certain parts of your body will tighten. At this point, you can deliberately tighten these areas a little more, and then relax.

Choose a responsive area, such as the shoulders or neck, and do the exercise. The more relaxed you are, the easier it is to cope with anxiety.

Self-talk. The root of emotions comes from our cognition, so correcting distorted cognitions can effectively alleviate negative emotions. Tell yourself:

Bad emotional experiences are caused by catastrophic thoughts in the mind, and I take them seriously, but those are not facts. There are many ways I can try to avoid bad things from happening.

In addition, parents can also guide their children's emotional expressions appropriately to help them find a more reasonable way to express themselves that suits them. I remember a picture book called "Jerry's Cool Space", which was about a little boy named Jerry who broke a clay bowl made for his father's birthday because he fell and lost his temper when he got home. Under the guidance of his mother, he built his own "calm space" and learned how to control his temper.

It can be used as a reference to find your own "calm space" for your children.

Children express negative emotions, more often than not, they want to get the attention of their parents, but most parents will feel that this is not good, can't there be a better way to express it? But have you ever thought that the child still can't express it, and parents need to teach the child how to express it.

So what to do, share what I learned in the Heart and Wisdom Parents class, the worst thing you can do as a parent is to ignore your child's bad mood. Because when a child's mood is really bad, they must be in pain. At this time, children need our love the most, but in this way.

At this time, we may wish to respect the child's emotions first, ask the cause and solve it when the child calms down, and tell the child that your mother respects but cannot accept your behavior just now, because there is a better way to express it so that we can solve the problem together. Then work with your child to make rules, give them choice, and follow the rules together.