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If you are 38 years old now, I personally recommend not having a second child, because it is too old, and elderly mothers will encounter many dangers, and at such an old age, it is too tiring to raise another child. By the time the child is ten years old, both parents will be about 50 years old.

There's no need for it. The risk of giving birth to elderly mothers is extremely high, the body is slow to recover, and it is very difficult to take care of the baby, so it is better to cultivate a child wholeheartedly.

Personally, I don't think it's necessary, because raising a child, in addition to the economy, is still the energy of the parents, and if they are too old, they will feel powerless when taking care of the child.

Introduction: As women get older, they not only need to work hard in the workplace, but also face getting married and starting their own small family. With the release of the third child this year, many young parents are reluctant to choose to continue to have a third child, and there are many older married women who are struggling with whether they need a second child, seeing that the subject is now 38 years old, is it necessary to have a second child, and the parents are 50 when the second child is 10 years old.

1. Is it necessary to have a second child when you are older?

The subject can have a second child at the age of 38, according to the subject's meaning, now the parents are only more than 40 years old, the second child is 10 years old, that is, to the fourth grade of primary school, the parents are just 50 years old, and they can continue to help take care of the child. In medicine, if the age is more than 35 years old, it belongs to the advanced maternal age, and the probability of pregnancy complications will be much higher, and the physical fitness of the elderly woman is not the best period for pregnancy, and the probability of pregnancy complications will be much higher, such as gestational hypertension, gestational diabetes, and heart disease. The chance of having a difficult birth increases during childbirth, and it is easy to get infected after childbirth.

Therefore, doctors generally do not recommend elderly women to have children. These are just some of the recommendations given from a medical point of view, and if the mother pays attention to health and proper maintenance, she can have a baby even if she is over 35 years old.

Second, you need to plan well before giving birth to a second child.

The main question is to consider whether your physical fitness can withstand the inconvenience of 10 months of pregnancy. And in the process of pregnancy, whether the family can take care of it thoughtfully, and negotiate with their lovers and parents about the problems that need to be faced after giving birth, such as who takes care of Dabao and the daily life of pregnant women during pregnancy, and the mother needs to return to the workplace after giving birth to Erbao, what should Erbao do? Is it sent to a nursery class or a family member to help take care of it, or is it a babysitter, etc.?

In short, before giving birth to a second child, it is necessary to plan in advance a series of problems caused by a second child, so as to reduce the anxiety caused by pregnancy and various family problems after giving birth. It is necessary to prepare for pregnancy half a year in advance, quit some bad habits, such as smoking, drinking, staying up late, eating a light diet, balanced nutrition, and maintaining a good state to welcome the arrival of the baby.

This problem is very representative, and it is also very similar to the entanglement of families who are preparing to have a second child in today's society.

Before letting go of the second child, many people envied the parents who had two children at home, and some people would rather pay a high fee to have a second child, which also caused some problems.

According to the National Bureau of Statistics, from 2017 to the end of 2019, the birth of newborns has actually been decreasing year by year, and some researchers have said that the data in 2020 may decline further. This means that more and more young people are afraid to get married and have children, and more and more families are afraid to have a second child.

There are two reasons for this phenomenonThe former is that young friends can't afford to buy a house, so they don't dare to get married, and they won't have children；WhileThose who dare not have a second child know how difficult it is to raise a child, and they will weigh it according to their own situation, and many people will be entangled

A person is 38 years old, and he already has a child at home, and he is really entangled in the question of whether to have a second child, thatWhy do you have such a tangle and don't even dare to give birth? There are deep-seated reasons for the problem that parents are already 50 years old, not just when the child turns 10

Couples around the age of 38, physiologically speaking, there should be no problem with having a child, modern medical technology is so developed, there is no need to worry about the problem of advanced maternal age, and it has nothing to do with the age of the parents. (This refers to the man).

Then the only thing that needs to be considered is the issue of child support, and to put it bluntly, it is a financial issue. Parents who have raised their first child know how much it takes to raise a child, in addition to economic factors, as well as the hard work of parents.

Couples around 38 years old, ifBoth parties have relatively stable jobs and economic incomeIf the parents are still alive and can help take care of the child, then even if you reach the age of 50 and come to life, there is nothing wrong with itBecause you don't have any worries, and your family income is relatively stable, and you can fully pay for the expenses of your child's growth, then you should not hesitate to give birth as soon as possible.

However, as long as one of the spouses does not have a stable job and income or the job is unstable, and both parents need to take care of it, then it is necessary to carefully consider the expenses required for the growth of a child, and for a long time it may be necessary to support the salary income of one of the parents, which we have all experienced ourselves.

If this is the case, I don't approve of having a second child at the age of 38, because it will cause other members of your family to lower their living standards, which is very bad for them, especially your first child, which is already very economical, and if you want to save more, it will cause a very bad psychological shadow for the first child, and it is not conducive to his growth.

In any case, if there is no financial problem, then hurry up and have a second child, which has little to do with age; If you are financially constrained, it is better not to give birth.

Yes, if you have enough money, you can have a second child, and you can also have two children as a companion.

It is still necessary. People in their 30s are not very old, and the harm to the body of having a second child in time is not very great, and it is okay.

I don't think it's necessary because it's more dangerous to have a baby at this age.

Having a second child at the age of 50 is more sinful.

After the opening of the two-child policy, some people still maintain the attitude of having a child, and some people are desperately arguing to have a second child. This is the case with Ms. Zhang, who is 50 years old this year, and is already considered an advanced maternal age.

In the official definition, 50 years old is already a middle-aged label, and Ms. Zhang has the idea of middle-aged childbirth, from pregnancy to giving birth to her second child, it can be said that the whole process is quite hard. I am afraid that if there is a problem with my body, it will affect the health of the fetus in my belly.

When the child really arrives, she needs money in all aspects, from the cost of diapers when she was a child, to the cost of preparing to go to kindergarten after the age of 3, and then to the child's primary school, middle school, and university. I'm already middle-aged, and it's too hard to raise children.

Ms. Zhang and her husband have not quarreled since giving birth to their second child. The reason for their quarrel is mostly related to the child's teaching style, and Ms. Zhang believes that the child should be independent and self-reliant, and he should be cultivated to be independent from an early age.

Having a second child at the age of 50 is mostly hard. Because I am old, taking care of my children is much more difficult than when I was young, and the financial pressure is also very high, now raising a child is hard enough, plus a small one, the pressure is even greater.

From the beginning of pregnancy, through the birth of the baby, to the raising of the baby, and to the later school of the two children, the process needs to be backed by a large economic foundation. In addition, there are two babies of clothing, food, housing, transportation, illness and other aspects of economic expenditure, so raising two babies has greatly increased the family's economic growth. In addition, when taking care of the second child, the feelings of the boss are often ignored, causing the boss to enter a rebellious period.

Therefore, to have a second child, you have to consider your actual situation, age is the biggest problem, you must listen to the doctor's advice, but also take into account your own financial pressure, if the conditions are not suitable, do not follow the trend to have a second child, in fact, a child is quite good, boys and girls are the same, will be filial to themselves.

Of course, you can object, but if your parents insist, you don't have to stop it.

With the national two-child policy.

There are too many families who want to continue to have a second child. Although some couples have passed the best age for childbearing.

But they still want to have another child.

This kind of thinking can't be said to be wrong, but for Dabao.

It's a pretty stressful thing to do.

Of course you can object, and as a member of this family, you have the right to object. Parents are almost 50 years old, long past the best childbearing age, and having children is extremely risky. Especially for your mother, having a child now can really cost half a life.

On the other hand, the parents have reached this age, even if the second child is born healthy, the parents will not be able to take care of the second child for too long. As a big treasure, you are very likely to spend more energy on taking care of your children in the future.

Especially when the parents are old and the second child is still in school, you have to take care of them all by yourself, which is really a very stressful thing.

If your parents insist on having a baby, I don't think you need to stop it. The difference in thinking between the two generations makes it difficult for your parents to convince you, and it is probably difficult for you to convince your parents. If they really insist on having a second child, then let them have a second child.

It is your parents' right to decide whether or not to have a second child, but as a member of the family, you have the right to object, but there is no need to stop it. Maybe you will give more in the rest of your life, but not stopping it means not leaving your parents with regrets.

is almost 50 years old, at this age, I still insist on having a second child, and gradually how firm the parents' hearts are. Even if you use power to stop it, even if you tear your face, you may not be able to stop your parents' thoughts in the end.

Instead of having a fight with your parents, it is better to take good care of your mother's body, and then work hard to study and work, pin your hopes on yourself, and strive to change the living environment of the whole family.

You have the right to object, but trying to help your parents may be a better option.

Of course, you can object, as their family, you are qualified to express your position, their age is indeed not suitable for regeneration, it is very dangerous, and raising is also a problem.

I don't think you should object, parents may have their own ideas, and I believe that they can understand them when they grow up.

You can object, because the parents are old, and it takes a lot of energy to have a second child in the future, if the parents are not capable, then you need to pick up the burden.