What should I do if I feel powerless in my life?

Not counting the time when you are young and slow to act when you are older, the time to really experience the flavors of life is only a few decades, and many people will have a sense of powerlessness more than once in this process, but we are still alive, either we want to live, or we have relatives who are still reluctant to leave. If life is gone, there is nothing, and after seeing the death of relatives, we know more about the preciousness of life, and only then do we know that every day we have walked should be cherished.

There are many lonely lives in the world, but everyone is strong and continues to move forward. With a sense of powerlessness is temporary, look at the world more, look at relatives and friends more, we must not only live, but also live well.

When you have a sense of powerlessness in life, relax and relax, regulate your emotions, try to divert your attention, and chat with friends to relieve stress.

In today's fierce competition, sometimes there is a feeling of powerlessness, at this time it is best to regulate emotions, change the environment to live, to know the truth that people move the living tree and move the dead.

1: Accepting the status quo and facing real life calmly is not a choice. 2: Find your own interests and hobbies and distract yourself.

Adjust your mentality, communicate more with people with positive energy, and participate in more meaningful activities.

If you have a sense of powerlessness in life, it means that you have lost your goal, in this case, you have to set a good goal in order to make yourself successful.

How to change the powerlessness of life.

Put your mindset right and adjust yourself. Wake up in the mirror every morning and give yourself a smile.

If you have a sense of powerlessness in life, then you should find a way to improve yourself. If you stay in one place all the time, then your sense of powerlessness will become stronger and stronger. So when you improve yourself, you can be better.

You can give yourself a few days off to rest, don't think so much, and let yourself go out for a walk.

I think the root of the powerlessness of life and the sense of loss of control is fundamentalThe power of the individual is not strong enoughTherefore, if you want to get rid of the powerlessness and loss of control in life, you must work hard to improve your strength and make yourself strong. Here are some ways I can make yourself stronger.

First,Enrich yourself positively。As the saying goes, "live to learn", a long life is a process of continuous learning, we can only see a better world through continuous learning, in order to find a better self. When we are in the process of enriching ourselves, we will find the infinite charm hidden under the knowledge, rich knowledge and ideas can not only improve personal spiritual and cultural literacy, but also enrich our inner world, so that we become more positive and transparent.

Whether it is in the ignorant youth or in the twilight of old age, learning can bring us enough confidence to face the storms in this world.

Second,Develop a confident mindset。Every successful person is full of self-confidence, in their life, there will be no sense of powerlessness and loss of control over something, and everything is considered to be able to be firmly grasped in order to do.

The specific ways to become confident are:1,Independence: Each of us is an individual, but it is very difficult to be truly mentally independent.

The so-called spiritual independence, not only refers to external conditions such as economic independence, but also refers to our sense of responsibility for our own life, when we can one day not rely on anyone, not afraid of anyone and can survive, we are independent, once independent, our psychology will gradually mature, at this time we will believe in self-evaluation more. 2，Lower expectationsEach of us has set a lot of expectations for ourselves on the road of our own growth, and many of us feel that we can exceed our expectations and accomplish a bigger career, but we never think about whether the expectations we set are appropriate.

Therefore, when we are expecting, it is better to set expectations for tomorrow and the near future than to set expectations for life. We don't need to think about completing it all the time, as long as we move forward step by step, we will reach our ultimate goal one day. 3，Accepted

There are many inherent things that we may not be able to change no matter how hard we try, so we must learn to accept them calmly, such as our appearance, height, etc. There are also some things that we can't change in a short period of time, so we can accept it temporarily, such as no money, not enough experience, not enough experience, and so on. And acceptance does not mean compromise, we can choose to accept things that cannot be changed, but for things that cannot be changed temporarily, acceptance only provides us with a kind of psychological comfort, so that we can have more time to struggle.

Change: When we know the shortcomings of our lack of self-confidence, we must have the courage to change ourselves and find a way to change this shortcoming. Prescribe the right medicine for your specific reasons for lack of confidence, and change them one by one.

Parents undoubtedly love their children, but when we accompany our children to do their homework, we always break down easily.

I feel as if everything I have learned has been used and as if I have not been used, and sometimes I feel a deep sense of powerlessness.

What do you do when you feel powerless?

So what is there to fuel yourself?

Here are a few points::

1.You can make a deep breath adjustment!

2.You can go flower arranging or watch a movie of your choice.

3.You can go to exercise, and the dopamine secreted by exercise will take away your troubles.

4.It's okay to keep a diary!

5.You can talk to people with high energy! Your pattern will be bigger! Look further!

If you want to get rid of the feeling of powerlessness, you can start to change it in the following two aspects.

1. Change your mentality.

As the saying goes, there is no such thing as a desperate environment, only a desperate mentality.

To avoid learned helplessness, you must first have a dialectical and optimistic mindset.

The successive failures may limit some of the possibilities of life at the moment, but they are by no means all.

Maybe you can do 1000 things in the past, and some bad experiences happen, minus 100 things, and you can still do 900 things.

2. Start with small actions.

According to Seligman, a person's sense of helplessness is actually caused by a lack of ability and a perception of a sense of control.

If a person is able to control certain situations and succeed, then he can believe that if he puts in the effort, he can achieve something.

Therefore, if you want to get rid of the feeling of powerlessness, you can try to set yourself a small goal, small enough that there is no resistance, and small enough to fail the goal.

For example, do only one push-up every day, write only 50 words a day, wake up only 5 minutes early every day, read only one page of a book every day, and so on.

Obviously, there is almost no burden to do these things, and it can be done with even the least amount of willpower.

Over time, these behaviors will gradually evolve into micro-habits.

These micro-habits may seem insignificant, but they can open up a strong desire in the brain to change. Once a person has the desire to change, then driven by intrinsic motivation, he will naturally raise the threshold of micro-habits and let himself continue to upgrade.

What kind of problems did you encounter that made you feel this way?

A lot of things give me a sense of powerlessness and powerlessness. In this way, I became a very Buddhist person, and I was too lazy to control anyone, to impose my thoughts on others, even if it was for their good, and I could only lower my expectations of anyone, including my children. The road to success is too long, the sweat to pay is doubled, and most people die on the road.

I once read "Silent Confession" in one breath about a housewife who dreams of becoming a doctor, runs away from home and chooses to study, only to find out a few weeks later that she was unexpectedly pregnant with three children and had to give up, and after returning to the family, she imposed her dream of becoming a doctor on the beautiful daughter of the second Lydia, and his father also imposed on his daughter what he did not do well——— hoping that she would make more friends and become a social expert. Lydia is the jewel of the family, the focus of her parents, and her brother and sister are jealous of her, she wants her brother to be her spiritual pillar, but her brother is jealous and alienated from her because she can't feel the love of her parents, and she went to Harvard University to get rid of the family, and her sister can only be a little transparent in this family, ignoring her own existence. All the manipulation arrangements of her parents made Lydia feel extremely depressed and heavy, she pretended to be what her parents wanted her to be, obeyed all the unreasonable arrangements that her mother made for her studies, and pretended to have many friends at school to satisfy her father, but she was extremely disgusted and disgusted with all this in her heart.

At the age of 15, she committed suicide by jumping into a lake, and she died without leaving any last words in her notebook.

The cover of the book reads: We spend our whole lives trying to get rid of the expectations of others and find our true selves.

You and I are mortal. If the luck is not particularly good, then everyone may have that feeling of powerlessness when facing feelings. This kind of powerlessness is often due to the fact that one's own ability is not enough to change the left and right, and the other party's mind cannot redeem the other person's heart.

Two people have different dreams in the same bed together. Or it has to be separated after going to the most leaky reed. However, he couldn't let go of the other party's sense of pain.

It will make you feel that the sky is dark.

When some people are talking about marriage, the other party suddenly makes unreasonable demands, beyond their ability to buy a house, buy a car, and talk about some material and monetary things. And if your financial ability cannot meet the other party's requirements, you will feel that your married life is particularly tiring. When two people get along or live together, there are contradictions, different views on life and behavior patterns, and these contradictions cannot be settled through simple communication.

You will feel very powerless. The quarrel is uncomfortable. Because man is on the verge of weary collapse.

When I mustered up the courage to choose to compromise and communicate with the other party, the other party rejected me.

We should all know that it takes time for people's minds to mature, and as they grow older, they no longer have the same impulses as when they were young, because impulsiveness is not able to solve any problems, and mutual communication can solve the contradictions encountered and make the lives of two people happier. However, when all this is understood, maybe the two people have been separated, just like the lyrics sing, some people will not be at this time once they miss it, and they will feel particularly powerless to return to the relationship.

When you feel that your life is in a downturn, don't lose confidence in life, you should be calm and composed, regain your confidence and vision in life, you can try the following methods to get out of the downturn.

1. Find your own hobbies, find things that make you feel happy and satisfied, and make your life full of fun.

2. Maintain good communication and exchanges with relatives and friends, share your happiness and troubles with them, and let your mood be cathartic and soothed.

3. Actively participate in various activities, expose yourself to new things and different groups of people, and enhance your communication skills and adaptability.

4. Maintain good work and rest habits, arrange work and rest time reasonably, and avoid overwork and fatigue.

5. Insist on exercising, enhance physical fitness, and maintain a good psychological state.

6. If you feel depressed and unable to solve it on your own, you can regret and seek help from a professional psychological counselor to obtain psychological support and help through psychological counseling.