I doubted that I had that tendency, and what I began to doubt myself, not that I could doubt myself

Don't worry, it's normal In your life for so many years, your brother is the opposite sex you have been in contact with for the longest time, and there is often an imaginary carrier of the ideal object type in the budding adolescence of love, so you have an illusion about your brother Brother is the closest to you and the best boy for you, if your brother himself is better, it is easier for you to have a sense of dependence on him You are not interested in other boys because you have not met a better boy than your brother, You care about your brother because you have a relationship that is thicker than water You love your brother, but it's not love, it's a very simple family affection, saying more can be regarded as admiration Don't think nonsense, you treat your brother as a very good relative from beginning to end, so it's normal for you to care about him and love him, maybe when you're older, you will be able to distinguish your mood better

Don't think too much about it, you're just at the stage where you're going to like boys, and you happen to have an older brother at home, so you're aiming for him. Consider reaching out to your classmates more often and focusing on other areas.

Your brother is probably one of the men you've come in contact with a lot, right? It's okay! You'll be fine in a while!

First of all, you have to make sure that you have no results with him (at least the world's eyes will not let you go).

Secondly, you can determine the criteria for choosing a mate according to your brother's merits, and then find a boy who meets the criteria, so that you can fall in love with him and get rid of your attachment to your brother (don't let him become a stand-in for your brother, which will hurt him a lot).

If you continue like this, it won't end well. You can never be with him! Even if he is willing, your parents can't accept it, you want to stop doing things yourself, and if you have a heart disease, you need a heart doctor, and you can boldly try other boys and pursue your own happiness!!

"Self-denial" can be understood as "overthrowing one's past self." It's a good thing, like a person who has never seen or eaten a grapefruit. You don't know what to eat, so you start trying.

You have to work hard to peel off the thick skin, then you have to peel back the film, and then you have to see the flesh.

Some people give up when it comes to peeling, thinking that it is difficult and laborious, thinking that grapefruit is so soft and odorless like a sponge.

Some people give up when the film is uncovered, thinking that it is laborious and not delicious, and it is very bitter.

Very few people, persevering to the end. You can taste a sweet aroma with a slight astringency.

In the process of perseverance, we have been overturning the past perceptions.

This is a simple and beautiful example. However, life is not so simple, it is very likely, a layer of bitterness, a layer of sweetness, a layer of astringency, a layer of widowhood, and no one knows what will happen before it reaches the end.

Speaking of which, I mean, self-denial is not a bad thing. It can be understood that you are operating on yourself. Every negation is an update to yourself, and there may be bugs after the update, but it doesn't matter, you have the next update to fix it.

Even if one of them feels like you're back to square one, remember that you can't step into the same river twice. Even if you are repeating the past, your experience and what you have gained have made all the difference.

Some people are not lucky enough, and the few layers they may encounter are not as good as they wish, so they begin to wonder, is my grapefruit bad? Is my life so dull and bitter, so I began to give up, believing that I was probably like this. At this point, it's probably self-doubt.

I can say that self-doubt is not a bad thing. It can even be understood as self-doubt as "self-diagnosing yourself" In this process, you may understand yourself better, or you may misdiagnose yourself.

However, for these uncertainties, there is only, waiting. I don't have a good way. I don't want to give you the prescription of time.

Because in my heart, time is not a panacea, experience is. Or rather, complement each other. Time is just a piece of paper, and the paint on this paper adds up to a painting.

This painting is the ultimate you.

Having said all this, all I can express is to try to help you accept your self-denial and doubt from the side. Accept each new self, you don't have to come out, just enjoy and observe. When you accept yourself and start to get along with yourself better, everything will go smoothly.

However, you have to go through the river yourself, and no one can cross it for you.

First of all, don't doubt yourself at any time.

When you feel that anything is wrong, it is wrong, and if you feel that there is a problem with the way you behave in the world, then there is a problem, and if there is a problem, you should try to think about the cause of the problem.

If you find yourself saying something that may offend people, you should think about the situation at the time, why you said such things, and the consequences of these words, no one can be completely right when they do something for the first time, not to mention that it is impossible to completely learn in a lifetime, when you realize that your language habits are wrong, think about the consequences, and then keep these consequences in mind. Maybe every time you think about it, you will have some realization, and when you understand more and more, your personality will be more and more in line with yourself.

Maybe you can't be the best of all, but you can definitely be the right version of yourself.

ps.Honesty is actually someone else's evaluation, and you can't take other people's words to self-examine.

There is a saying in psychology that is to accept yourself.

A lot of things, you know yourself better, don't you know? Don't be too anxious to deny or reject something, feel that something is not good. Isn't it interesting if you just know "what to do" and end up making yourself a perfect wooden figure?

So this is an opportunity to get close to yourself.

It's normal for social reality to make you slowly change yourself unconsciously.

You weren't born to be happy, think about it, what did your parents think you did when you were that old? They are struggling, struggling, in order to have money to bring a better life to their families, what about you?

Since you don't think it's useful to read these 3 years, why do you even think about it? It is better to take a good look at the current situation (family economic situation, personal qualities and strengths), and try to find a job to get in touch with society. If you are purposeful and want to find a job in No. 1 Middle School but are cautious and have no hope for the time being, then it is better to find a job in Kuanyufeng first, accumulate experience, and struggle for two or three years.

Remember: you're young. You have enough time to take responsibility and dedication, and you have enough time to think about something.

Failing the college entrance examination is really nothing, those students who are admitted are just a few years later than you to enter the society. Perhaps, in a few years, they will not be as good as you. After all, there is a limit to those high-level, high-paying jobs.

There will always be a few superstructures, and if you can only be a low-level character, then do it well. There's no need to be the best!

Finally, to sum up, think about your situation and pursuits, and then fight for it, it's as simple as that. Life is as simple as it should be. Don't let the college entrance examination set your life!

Get a job, find a feeling: what it's like to go from school to society.