Nowadays, the phenomenon of eating cold seats in rural areas is serious, why do many people leave

In fact, in recent years, the population loss in the rural areas of our country has been quite serious. After leaving the countryside, many people basically go to the city to settle down, and this part of the people usually only go back to the rural hometown during the New Year's holidays, and they will definitely not go back if there is nothing to do, after all, it will indeed consume a long time back and forth, and it is not convenient. For those banquets in the village, these people living in the city will feel that they are already tired of eating big fish and meat, and if they rush back to the countryside just for a meal, it is actually not very cost-effective.

Therefore, when there are these banquets in the village, people who have settled in other places are too lazy to go back to eat the banquets, and most of them entrust their friends to help pay their share of the money. <>

In fact, this is also a kind of social situation, many young people born in rural areas do not have a lot of contact with relatives in rural areas, and many people don't even know those relatives in their hometowns. The main reason for this is that the place of residence of these young people has changed, and since they were born, they have rarely seen these relatives in the countryside, because they do not live together, and there is very little communication, so the relationship has also become a lot lighter. Even some young people don't know what to call their relatives after returning to their rural hometowns, so when the relatives in the village hold a banquet, many young people will not rush back to eat at all, and some even don't bother to give money.

I have to say that there are indeed more and more banquets in rural areas now, and many people's enthusiasm for banquets is quite high, such as wedding banquets, moving banquets, children's full moon banquets, admission to good universities will also hold banquets, and even buying a car will hold banquets. To put it bluntly, I actually want to collect some money, so that I can make a lot of money for a short time. Due to the fact that there are more and more people holding banquets now, in fact, many people also feel a little unbearable, and they don't have so much time and energy at all.

To be honest, many people in the countryside are indeed collecting money in the name of holding banquets, and the bedroom does not support this kind of behavior, so it should be more rational to hold banquets.

Because the time for eating is very long, it is very delaying for other people's time, and it will be very embarrassing to meet people you are familiar with when you are eating. So a lot of people don't go to eat.

This is because many people feel that attending such a party is a waste of time, and at the same time, it is also very elaborate and very unlucky, so many people leave with their share of money.

Because the banquets in the countryside are becoming more and more unpalatable, many of them are very unhygienic dishes, and many people are not used to seeing them, so they don't eat anymore.

When a family has a little happy event, a bend will pull other neighbors together to be happy, in the past, everyone will be happy to go, maybe ten tables and twenty tables are not enough, but now even if the host has set so many tables in the end, there are not so many people to sit, the original very hot banquet is now deserted, so it is called a cold seat. The love money of the banquet is like a commodity, and now it is rising higher and higher, and some people set up a banquet in order to make money, but the quality is getting more and more fart. The peasants don't make much money, and the annual income may not be enough to eat the banquet, and even to the point that they are afraid when they hear about the banquet, so they simply don't go.

In the past, there were many people who worked in the countryside, and their lives were not very good, and they could only open meat once for a long time. And now people are not bad at eating, usually better than the previous New Year, big fish and meat are tired of eating, but they are interested in some wild vegetables and game, but a lot of fish and meat are farmed, there is no rural chicken grain pig that taste. As the rural saying goes, "red things are called, white things are coming", and many festive things are not very important, just invite relatives and friends to have a meal.

In general, people who work outside the home will not rush home in a hurry, and usually give some gift money. If it is a white matter, you can't send a gift, you need to be present in person.

Now the living conditions of every household in the rural areas have become much better than in the past, cars and small western-style buildings abound in the village, and everyone's living conditions are better, and the food is much better than in the past. When I was a child, I could only eat meat during the New Year's holidays, but now I can eat it whenever I want, and it is even more common to go to the restaurant. Not only is the food good, but everyone has also guessed that all kinds of dishes are delicious.

Therefore, everyone is not so interested in the meals at the banquet, and it is okay to eat them or not. Think about it when I was a child, most of the people who ate banquets would bring their children with them, in order to give the children something good. Nowadays, children live well, and their interest in meat is not very great, and if it is not a holiday, it is rare for adults to take their children to a banquet together.

Naturally, there are fewer people eating at the banquet.

Because many people are used to eating big fish and meat, they are not very interested in big feasts, and the taste is very strange, and they may vomit and diarrhea.

Many people are busy with their work, and the place of work is in the field, so it is very troublesome to rush back so far, and it is too late. There is also a change in the purpose of holding a banquet with a cave, just to collect money. The guests who come to the banquet also understand the purpose of the host's family, and in order to maintain a relationship with each other, they will generally take the money, but it is inevitable that they will feel awkward in their hearts, so there will be a situation where the courtesy is not reached.

The main reason is that young people are busy now, and they are all on the Lazhi liner, so they don't have time to participate in this kind of occasion, and some people don't want to participate in such a dry occasion at all.

In rural areas, everyone will be invited to a banquet when they get married and have children, but now the situation of eating cold banquets in rural areas is becoming more and more serious, and many people do not eat with their share of money, why is this? Because on the one hand, it may be inconvenient to skip meals with money, and on the other hand, this is also a very polite performance, and the general host will like it very much, so I will explain it to you in detail. <>

1. Random money is a must-have.

In the countryside, if you meet a family to get married, you will generally invite a lot of people to dinner, at this time everyone will follow some share of the money, this is a kind of mind, if there are their relatives working in the field, there is no way to come back, at this time relatives will generally follow the share of money, this is actually more of a mind. If you don't follow the money, and don't come back to eat, this is equivalent to breaking off the friendship between the two people, which will make the host's family unhappy, and even the two people will never interact with each other from then on, so many people will follow the money, but eat or not eat at will. <>

2. This is a very polite behavior.

For the host's family, they definitely want to be able to get more money, because inviting others to eat is also a huge expense, if the money is less, may not even be able to recover the cost, and the reason why many people will hold such a thing is to recover the money that went out before, and they follow the money every time when others get married, and now they are married, of course, they have to take back the money, so the guest follows the money but does not eat is also an act of repaying the money, in addition, for the host's family, This is a very polite way to make more money. <>

All in all, the reason why eating cold mats in rural areas is becoming more and more serious, on the one hand, there are more migrant workers, and there are many who survive directly in big cities, so there is no way to go back to the countryside, so they will follow the money, which is a kind of mind, if you don't follow the money, it means that two people may have to cut off contact in the countryside, and this is also a very polite behavior.

Because of a large table of people, eating together, afraid of dirty, and I don't know what to say, it is especially awkward. There's nothing good to eat anymore.

Therefore, I think it should be better to solve it in the buffet way in the future.

Because I am usually busy with work, I don't have time to go to the banquet, but I can't cut off the favor, so I either transfer money or ask someone to bring money and gifts. In addition, now that life is better, many people usually eat very well, and the dishes at the banquet are not as precious as before.

Because of hygiene problems, it is becoming more and more particular, no longer the same as before, and a lot of things are eaten every day, and there is no interest, plus the epidemic, it is not very safe to eat together at a large table.

Because these foods really seem to be appetizing, it's normal for these people to skip meals. And it's not very popular to eat now.

Some sociology experts said that the development of society and the progress of the times have made many things appear significantly different from the past, and everything has quietly changed before people's unconsciousness, today's "eating cold seats" is basically the following reasons, let's take a look.

The first is the lack of time to participateFor today's people, the pace of life is constantly accelerating, whether it is in the countryside or in the city, it is the same as the courtesy, and the things that can't be avoided must not be hidden, but the time is often not arranged, after all, it is not the kind of freedom that was at the beginning.

The second is that people are busy at work today, whether the banquet is noon or night, for many people, the rhythm of rushing to the scene really does not want to participate, most of the time they do not go to the meal, the money is still to be given, but people do not have to go to the sceneThere isn't much time to rest, but it's important.

Some say that the rise of social software is the reason for thisAt the same time, it shortens the distance between peopleIn fact, it makes up for the lack of time for socializing, and it is not indifferent between people, but the lack of time, after all, people are not machines, and what they need to relax when they occasionally rest, not all of them are socializing and eating.

The third is unhappinessNowadays, many people can get a certain return because of the banquet, so all kinds of banquets are also increasing, ruining the celebration used to be a wedding and funeral event, and now moving, going to school, graduation, birthday, etc. are full of banquets, and all kinds of names and tricks are appearing, which is annoying.

Many people said that the banquet enhances the feelings, for those who run a wine in various names, the motive and purpose are no longer simple, participating in such a banquet is really a headache and entanglement, simply follow everyone's wishes, the money is given, people are not there, at least they can end up relaxed.

With the development of society, the pace of life is accelerating, frequent interruptions and all kinds of unnecessary banquets are not necessaryEating a cold mat is not only an embarrassment, but also more wasteful.

1: Too busy at work and no time to eat.

Nowadays, the pace of life has become too fast, time is money, and there are many people who go to work in other places to make money in order to make money, and they can't find time to congratulate in person.

2: I am not used to eating food at the banquet.

The banquet in the countryside is always different from that in the city, although Lu Yuanlu also invited a cook to cook, he generally does not cook it himself, but hands it over to the surrounding neighbors to complete the division of labor. Some people in the city will not be accustomed to the village people's stir-frying, plating, washing dishes, etc., which makes them feel very unhygienic, but the countryside is not so particular and wants to be lively.

3: Dinner table culture problem.

Nowadays, when people make banquets, many adults like to take their children, and after coming up to eat, they will get their children's favorite food in front of the children, sometimes others can't pay off any taste at all, and some people have not finished eating, and they begin to pack in the split rental bank, which makes people very embarrassed, and even some people have no quality when eating, and use their chopsticks to dial around in the plate, which is very annoying, so many people don't want to sit in the banquet even if they follow it.