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It can be seen that you are a smart and sensible child, and it is not so much that you are dissatisfied with your parents' quarrels, but that you are dissatisfied with your father's words and deeds towards your mother.
Since you have so many opinions, and you seem to be reasonable, have you tried to communicate with your father?
Find a suitable time to talk to your father and let him know how you feel.
First of all, you can choose a day when your father is in a good mood and talk to him, sideways, a little at a time. Try to talk to him from his point of view. Otherwise, with your father's temper, blaming him will only provoke him.
Secondly, you can also ask other family members such as grandparents and uncles for help, and ask them to help you persuade your father to give it a try.
Third, I wonder how your mother reacted to this? If she doesn't feel too uncomfortable and doesn't think it's hurting her, then I don't think we can worry too much, you say?
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Secretly take your parents' mobile phones separately, and use their mobile phones to send them apologies and text messages to express their hearts, which is very useful, I tried to let them see Even if it is found out in the end, your parents will know your mind as a daughter, and you will know that you don't want them to quarrel, so it will be effective, I hope your family is happy, filial child!
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Find a way to get them to move their energy to something else, not to have the energy to fight, the same one that they used before: pretending to be sick, looking like they were in pain, and let them work together to help you relieve your pain.
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Sister, you are so happy, I was a primary school student and my parents divorced.
Your parents will definitely listen to you, so as long as you talk to your parents, at least both parties will see that you are relieved.
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People are a kind of emotional animals, and getting along for so many years is not something that can be faded in a few words, because they are each other's family, they are relatives with you, and you are the key to playing a key role
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It's a tough question! I want the teacher to reflect it!
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In the family, it is inevitable that parents and children will quarrel occasionally, and sometimes when you are angry, you and your child may be in a very angry or sad state, as a mature adult. You should notice that as the argument escalates, so does the tone of your voice, and your child is in a state of anger or impulsive control, and it is your responsibility to take appropriate action to stop the argument and effectively control the escalation of the argument
1) Stop further escalating conflict and dialogue, let the two sides truce first, and ease the mood.
You can say, "I need some time to think about it before we move on to that." Or, "I don't think it's the best time to talk about it, I need some time to figure it out, and then we'll have time to talk about it." At this time, your child may try to continue arguing with you, and you need to restrain your emotions.
Leave the scene of the conflict as much as possible.
2) Learn to do it in moderation.
When people are in a conversation about escalating conflict, it is easy to say something or do something that they regret, so it is important to learn to contain it before the conflict with your adolescent child is triggered, and learn to consciously restrain your emotions and avoid conflict. If your child says in a conversation with you that they don't want to talk about this topic, or if they don't talk about it now, don't be stubborn, respect their opinions and needs, give them time, and start over when they feel that things can be faced and want to come back and talk about these topics with you, and don't push them too hard. We need to try to be a parent who is equal to our children like friends, not like an authoritative parent who gives instructions to their subordinates.
3) Once a truce is reached, please be patient.
By the time you ask to calm down for a while, it is likely that the children will have a hard time calming down, and there is a good chance that you will enter into an escalating argument again. Keep in mind that your child needs time and patience to appreciate your intentions, which is that both sides need restraint and calm in conversation to resolve the issue. You need to be clear that this is done to avoid further escalation.
Usually the intensity of anger will diminish over time, and although there will be disagreements between you and your child, no one will continue to stay in high-intensity anger, and sometimes sports such as walking, running, and equipment can reduce the intensity of anger. If parents let out their anger at will, it will make things worse, we can't solve the problem by yelling, crying loudly, cursing the other person or being violent, for many years it was widely believed that negative emotions can be vented by yelling or smashing objects, however, current research suggests that these catharsis methods are unhelpful and can hurt your relationship with others in the long run.
4) When everyone has calmed down, restart the conversation.
A temporary truce in a conflict should not be understood as an avoidance of arguments, but rather as an attempt to allow everyone to think calmly and thus help everyone to make better decisions.
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I think after a fight with my daughter, the way to deal with it is that you sit down and communicate.
Don't always be awkward, because if you are always awkward, it will affect the relationship between your mother and daughter.
You can communicate about anything, even if you communicate, it will also allow you to enhance your relationship and understand each other.
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After arguing with your daughter, you can't get angry all the time, you have to check your own faults, and after you calm down with each other, you have to do self-criticism, and then communicate.
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Personally, I think that after quarreling with my daughter, you must deal with this matter calmly, after all, the child is older and has his own independent thoughts, you don't need to talk to him in the tone of an elder, you have to talk to him in the tone of a friend, and explain the ins and outs of the matter to her clearly, I believe that your woman will understand your good intentions.
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Parents have quarreled with their daughters, there is no psychological barrier, they should talk or talk, generally take the initiative to communicate with their daughters, explain the reasons for the quarrel with him, so that they can avoid quarrels in the future, and getting along well is a happy family.
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Parents and daughters should deal with a quarrel calmly, first of all, find out what is the specific reason for your quarrel? Then analyze the problem and then solve the problem, the best way is to communicate with her daughter face-to-face, deal with him face-to-face and tell him the reason for your quarrel, and the mood after the quarrel, that is, the quarrel is not right, everything should be sat down and talked about, after all, there is no deep hatred in the family
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How to deal with quarreling with a woman after quarreling with a woman should also tell you later, mom will always love you, don't do it in the future, it's too willful.
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If you quarrel with your daughter, you must come over and coax your daughter, because you want your daughter to regress. Let your daughter come and coax you, then he will admit his mistake first after arguing with others in the future.
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If you quarrel with your daughter, I think it's better to find your daughter and communicate well and solve the conflict.
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If you have a quarrel with your daughter, you can write a letter to her, analyze the reasons for your quarrel in the letter, and then comfort her, tell her the truth, and tell her that she can tell you anything.
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It's also common for parents and daughters to quarrel in their own homes, so it's not a big deal.
The key is to figure out the reason for the quarrel. The crux of the problem has been solved. There will be no quarrels about it in the future.
So when everyone is not so emotional, sit down and communicate.
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11. First of all, soothe the frightened child. 2. Encourage your child to talk about how he felt at the time, and figure out what the child is afraid of, whether it is the tone and expression of the parents when they quarrel, or whether they are afraid that the parents will not be able to do it after the quarrel. As a mother, you can use body language, such as hugs or kisses, to convey your love for your child, and at the same time reassure him that Mom and Dad will not want him, so that the child can be reassured.
32. It is best for both parents to reconcile in front of their children. 4. You can explain to the child that the quarrel has passed, and the parents will no longer quarrel in the future. Then explain to your child that you were arguing on impulse and without controlling your emotions.
Although the child may not fully understand these explanations, he will naturally feel much calmer when he sees his parents talking together as calmly as usual. Over time, as long as you don't quarrel, the child will gradually forget. 53. Let the child understand that your quarrel has nothing to do with him.
6. Parents should tell their children after a quarrel that the adult's quarrel has nothing to do with him, and don't let the child think that it is because he is not good that the parents quarrel, so as to avoid psychological pressure on the child. And let your child know that you will love him very much, whether you are arguing or not.
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After arguing with your daughter, you should calm down and think about the causes and consequences of the quarrel between the two people, and at the same time take the initiative to reconcile with your daughter and tell her that it is wrong to quarrel.
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I think this is the first thing to know what is the reason for the quarrel, that is, what is the point of the quarrel? If there is a misunderstanding in any way, if it is a misunderstanding, it is good to communicate and unravel it, apologize to the child, or take her to eat what she likes to eat. Take her out for a walk.
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And the quarrel is good, of course, it is your own child, you have to be generous, Rudong's reconciliation, and then communicate well, find the reason, don't yell at the child, just be reasonable, because everyone likes to listen to it, and then what you say makes sense, he will be obedient and obedient back and forth.
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What to do after a quarrel with your daughter? I think after a fight with your daughter, you can try to mediate with your daughter and listen to what he has to say. What grievances does he have in his heart?
I want to tell my mother. You can listen to him like a friend. And then find a solution for him.
In this way, it will be easier to deal with problems in the future.
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After arguing with your daughter, the best way to deal with it is to tell her why you quarreled with him. Just explain the actual situation to him, and you have to evaluate her or quarrel with her. Tell him how you feel. I hope I can resolve this matter calmly.
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After quarreling with your daughter, you should do more psychological counseling, and you can't always quarrel, cold war or something like that. If you can quarrel, you must not fight, and if you can, try not to quarrel. There are a lot of things that can be sat down and talked about slowly.
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After the two parties calm down, find an opportunity to talk to your daughter. As an elder, consider your child's feelings. Maybe you are educating your children in the wrong way, simple and rude. You have to take the initiative to admit your mistakes and talk to your daughter about it.
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After arguing with your daughter, you must calm down, review your problems with each other first, believe that there are no knots that mother and daughter can't solve, apologize to each other, and be considerate of each other.
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There is no overnight feud between parents and children. Because of this kind of blood kinship, don't mind the quarrel. But if you say something hurtful, apologize to your child and explain it clearly.
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It is best to wait for two people to calmly communicate with each other, exchange, some things must be reasonable, if you are not reasonable, there are more and more contradictions.
If you feel that your daughter is doing something wrong, you have to tell him. Because relying on quarrels will definitely not solve the problem, it will only deepen the conflict.
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After quarreling with my daughter, I should still deal with it coldly, after all, after calming down, we will communicate together to solve this problem and analyze it well. Face it calmly.
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After arguing with your daughter, you should calm down and think about why this happened, who is responsible, you should have the courage to self-criticize, and then communicate with him calmly.
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When you quarrel with a girl, you should coax her well, because girls are very good at coaxing, and after coaxing well, she won't get angry, so she won't quarrel.
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What do we do after a quarrel with our mother?
1. Chat. We often talk to our friends about the past and the present, but if you ask yourself, have you ever sat down and chatted with your mother seriously and openly, it should be very rare. Generally, people who often have conflicts with their mothers rarely or basically do not communicate with them. She gave birth to you, but she doesn't necessarily know you completely without saying anything.
2. Take the initiative to admit mistakes.
If you think clearly in the first part, and think that if it is your own fault, then you should take the initiative to apologize to your mother, in fact, if we do this, it will not only temporarily resolve the temporary conflict with your mother, but also enhance your understanding with your mother.
3. Learn to reason.
If you think that the reason for this quarrel is that you are not in the mother's place, then you should never say that you are in conflict. One of the right solutions is to reason with your own mother, in fact, as long as you are calm and calm with your parents. Mother will sometimes accept your point of view.
4. Do what you can for your family.
Improve your ability in learning, socializing, and life, such as time arrangement, self-care in life, etc., and also take the initiative to participate in housework, so that your mother can really feel that you are growing up, if you can do these things in communication, you are really growing up, and it is possible to have trust and love for your mother like a close friend, and enter a new father-son, mother-daughter relationship.
5. Use social software to communicate with parents.
Take advantage of various communication software on your phone, such as QQ, WeChat. In this era of advanced technology, technology has provided us with a lot of convenience. Those who are not too embarrassed to communicate directly can take advantage of these things.
Sometimes, it is inevitable that you will be a little awkward or nervous face-to-face, and you will not be able to express a lot of what you want to say clearly, which will greatly reduce the communication between you and your mother.
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