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In this world, there may be hope to be sympathetic to others, but they will also improve their dignity while demanding the sympathy of others, just like beggars who beg for food, although they beg for us on the side of the road every day, so that they are much more noble than the previous beggars.
At least they will not be like the beggars of previous years, when they see a pedestrian on the side of the road, they keep pulling them to ask for money and food, or go directly to the door to beg, not because of the change of the times, but because they have their own dignity, no matter what job they need to keep their dignity! <>
Even if it is a weak person, he doesn't want the strong to look down on them and trample on their dignity while helping them, so I also feel that compassion is the cruelest thing in the world, because when we want to help others, we are afraid of hurting others' self-esteem, but we have been struggling in our hearts, whether to help them or not!
It's like seeing a guy asking for food on the side of the road, and when I give him money, I'm thinking about what way to give him this money, so as not to make him feel that I'm humiliating him, so while sympathizing with others, I must choose a method, otherwise it will only make others feel that I am very low!
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Compassion can be there, but I don't think it's okay to have overflowing compassion. Some people say that compassion is the most cruel thing in the world, in fact, this sentence has a certain degree of truth to a certain extent, sometimes we express our sympathy excessively, that is, overflowing compassion, and this situation will also cause unnecessary harm to the other party.
For example, some people always sympathize with the people around them who are not as good as themselves, and always look at others with a caring and mentally retarded eye, which is not correct, after all, this will make the other party feel that you are very tall, so that the other party will feel that they are very humble in front of you, in fact, they are not, everyone is equal, so compassion can be had, but it is not a flood of sympathy. <>
And sometimes, compassion can also cause inconvenience to oneself and to others. I think everyone has heard the story of the farmer saving the snake, that is, the farmer saved a snake, that is, the farmer's overflowing compassion saved the snake, and the snake was not a good thing, and eventually the farmer was bitten and regretted it. Therefore, it is possible to have compassion, but we must also give full play to our compassion correctly, for example, for some thieves or robbers, showing your compassion is nothing more than aiding and abetting.
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The cruelty of compassion lies in the fact that only the weak, helpless, incompetent, crippled, etc. need sympathy, and every time you express sympathy, it is equivalent to telling the other person clearly: you are weak, you need help, and you live a miserable life.
But I think this statement is actually a bit too pretentious, and it is true that there are many people who do not like to accept sympathy from others, and there are many people who express sympathy in a way that is very disrespectful to the other person. But if we don't have compassion, the world will be terrible.
For example, if we don't have compassion, we won't be considerate of the elderly, the sick, the disabled, we won't treat them well, we treat them as normal people, and we think that they are resilient to harm like normal adults. It is estimated that a large number of elderly people will be injured outside, a large number of children will be lost and abducted, and it will be difficult for the disabled to travel.
So, there's nothing inherently wrong with compassion. What needs to be noted is the way we show compassion, and we can't be high enough to help them, nor can we look down on others because their lives deserve sympathy.
To need help is to need help, and to have a bad life is to have a bad life. There is no need for the sympathetic person to cling to fragile self-esteem, so why bother? Although in the spirit of personality, no one is qualified to belittle others.
But in fact, in terms of specific problem-solving ability, we should face the reality that we can't do it, accept the help of others, try our best to live our own life, and be grateful to repay the opportunity, which is not shameful.
Unfortunate life is everywhere, and there are not necessarily many people who can get sympathy and help, so I think we still need to cherish compassion, whether it is willing to sympathize with others' hearts, or accept others' sympathy.
I don't think this kind of empathy can be possessed by everyone, it depends on the person's personality and what is the living environment? The so-called common values of culture, I think are different from person to person.
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