Why don t I have any patience with my child, I get annoyed when I see her, is she sick?

Well, a woman's words can be understood, and the month and the month plus menopause will be irritable, but the important thing is that the two of you have a direct relationship with the generation gap Learn more about your children and communicate more I don't have children and I'm not married Maybe I'm not right, but I think you're not a good parent A child is a child You have to learn a lot It's difficult to educate a child A child is also a thinking individual People start with a child What they learn is the things of their predecessors and future generations Maybe the child is older and doesn't listen to you because he feels that he can't communicate You don't think so educate children can't listen to others You have to know your own children, and you can only rely on other people's opinions. No matter how the child is, he is also his own child, are you not afraid of having a shadow on the child? Grown up, not afraid to hate you?

As a parent, try to tolerate it, communicate well, if you have children, your time has passed, I hope to get along with your children, sometimes you can't get used to it.

It doesn't have to be sick, but there must be something in the heart.

You are certainly dissatisfied with your status quo and dissatisfied with yourself. As for the reasons, you need to dig out for yourself. Chances are, you feel that your current situation has something to do with your children, such as because having a child has affected your work and career development, or affected your personal charm.

If so, it needs to be further ** and try to solve it.

You should think more about her strengths and don't always stare at her bads. Give her a little more space. I feel this very well.

How old are you and how old are your children.

Lack of respect for children.

If it's our boss talking, should we go back and interrupt him? Undoubtedly, the answer is no, because in our hearts, our bosses must be treated with respect, otherwise we are likely to lose our jobs. But children are different, their lives are given by us, in the minds of many parents, children are just an accessory, is dependent on themselves, so parents often forget to respect their children.

Ignoring the child's personality.

In the minds of the vast majority of parents, because their children are still young and don't understand anything, they don't realize that even children have their own personalities. In such a mentality, parents always like to put on a show for their children, educate their children with a condescending attitude, like children giving orders, in their hearts, children just exist as an educator.

Parents' own reasons.

Everyone wants to be a competent parent, but each child is a completely different individual, so we can't copy other people's experiences when educating children, we can only explore a little bit. And this kind of long-term groping is easy for us to lose patience, because we find that children are not the same as we imagined, there are many shortcomings, but in fact we ignore that in fact, we are the same, impatience with this is not only impatience with children, but also impatience with ourselves.

Children see the world from a very different perspective than we do, and they find it very interesting to do a little thing, so they especially want to share it with those closest to them. If we always interrupt the child, it is tantamount to cutting off the bridge between the child and the world, and the harm to the child is actually indescribable.

Maybe your psychology is unbalanced, your mentality is unstable, you can't be calm with your children, reflect on your behavior, relieve the pressure of work and life, and calm your mind, you won't be impatient with your children.

The main reason is that the mental tolerance is too poor, the work pressure is high, and the life pressure is high, so I am impatient with the child and loses my temper. At the same time, in life, I don't like children, I don't communicate with my children much, and I will be impatient.

1. Empathy: Children are always irritable when doing things, emotional at every turn, and give up, which makes people worry about his future development, right?

2. Concretization: Can you give an example of a child's impatience?

Third, the cause of the problem, and specific analysis:

a Lack of concentration and poor self-control;

Solution: Develop good concentration habits, you can use Schulte watch training method, visual tracking method, puzzle method, etc., as well as discuss with children to try to use the pomodoro method, gradually improve children's concentration, 20 minutes of rest for 5 minutes, children who will rest will study and work better.

b Parents add too much extra burden to their children, and the tasks are endless, so the children use friction to do less tasks later.

Solution: Parents should grasp a degree of task for their children, take appropriate breaks after the task is completed, and combine work and rest to better improve their children's learning and work efficiency.

c Parents must keep their promises to their children.

Solution: Parents must do what they promise their children, otherwise it will seriously affect the development and continuation of Hazi's self-control.

We must be patient with children, because children are in the stage of growth, and their temper is also very unstable.

I used to do the same, patience is slowly cultivated, and doing what you love with your child is often a compromise.

I will introduce you to a book "Good Boys Are Boasted", and I have time to read it.

Patient cultivation is a very important thing for children. Patience is the foundation of all ingenuity. To cultivate children's patience, parents first need to be more patient, usually pay more attention to observe children, such as children when children are reading, if there is a half-hearted situation, adults should remind them in time, encourage children from the beginning, let children know that they can not do things in a hurry, and develop good living habits from an early age.

If you want to cultivate your child's patience, parents themselves must be patient and lead by example, if even parents themselves do not have the patience to teach their children, let alone cultivate their children's patience. When a child makes a mistake, we must be patient to teach him, not to blame him, we should help him analyze together, find out the root of the problem, face it together and find out the remedy, the child's patience and character are actually closely related to the parents, parents should also care more about the child and accompany him, give more encouragement and appreciation to the child, but can not blindly spoil the child.

To give children time to grow, we all know the story of pulling seedlings to help grow, and we all know how the story will end. Like food, a child's growth takes a process, and even more slowly. Newborns have the characteristics of the growth stage of the newborn, and the two-year-old baby has the characteristics of the growth stage of the two-year-old baby.

It is obviously impossible for us to expect a 3-year-old to be able to be as capable as an elementary school child.

Don't deliberately compare your child with other children, and each child's growth state is different due to different individuals and different environments. For example, Tang Xiaoguo already went to the toilet by herself when she was about two years old, but there was a child about her age who was still wearing diapers, and when his mother saw Tang Xiaoguo going to the toilet by herself, she actually said that her child was stupid and still had diapers when she was so old. One of the characteristics of a child is that the mother is the person he trusts the most, so if the mother says I'm stupid, then I'm really stupid.

Such a statement can bring unimaginable disasters to the child's growth.

Parents should be a patient parent, let the child know that many things in life need to wait and be patient, and when the child is hungry, you can delay the child for a period of time before giving the child food.

I think the best way is to let the child practice playing the Rubik's Cube, so that you can increase your child's patience.

I think the best way is to let your child practice words, because practicing words is the best way to increase patience.

Just as you occasionally hate your parents and lovers, it's perfectly normal for even the closest of the bonding ties to have occasional times when they hate each other. We tend to have positive emotional experiences and positive attitudes towards the aspect of a person's affection for and appreciation. And for those aspects that are contrary and conflicting with ourselves, we tend to have negative emotional experiences and negative attitudes.

Therefore, even if it is their own children, as long as people feel negative emotions, they will hate them, parents do not have to have too much psychological pressure because of this, and they must dare to face the inner conflict in order to better resolve the conflict of Chong Sun.

How can we develop patience in our children?

Parents should set an example. Many children are impatient because parents often ask their children to do things. Therefore, first of all, parents are required to pay attention to the behavior habits that do not cause their children to give up halfway.

Before starting a new activity, it is necessary to let him finish the activity that he is working on. If you ask your child to take a bath, tell him to take a bath when he starts boiling water. Then don't forget to carefully check whether the painting is finished before the child takes a bath, which in itself is a good habit of cultivating children to do things from beginning to end.

Put some obstacles in your child's way. Parents should consciously set up some obstacles for their children and provide them with some opportunities to overcome difficulties. Because patience is tempered by a strong will, the more difficult the environment, the more you can exercise your child's patience.

It is necessary to encourage him not to give up halfway, and to do a good job only through hard work. When children work hard to complete something, they should be praised in time to reinforce the good habit of doing things from beginning to end.

In addition, it is important to focus the child's energy so that they are permanently immersed in an activity. Let your child know that there are many things in life that require patience and waiting. Sometimes children are hungry and want to eat immediately, thirsty and want to drink, and they want to buy toys at that time, parents can deliberately delay for a period of time and do not meet their children's requirements immediately, so as to cultivate children's patience.

Some children are cute on the outside, but they have a very big temper, and if something doesn't go their way, whether at home or outside, he can turn the world upside down and make his parents confused. There are many reasons for a child's temper tantrums, and depending on the situation, parents can treat them separately.

When a child has a tantrum, you can treat it coldly and put him aside for a while, because the child will not listen to anything at this time. When he calms down a little, you can put your arms around him and ask him slowly: Why did you lose your temper so much just now?

Can tantrums solve any problems? Can you tell your mom about you? Be sure to listen to your child's thoughts, understand the reasons for your child's tantrums, help your child control his emotions, and learn to solve problems in appropriate ways.

If you want to change your child's bad temper, you should also pay attention to the following issues:

1. Encourage children to express their feelings and needs in words, try to meet legitimate needs, and explain patiently when they can't be satisfied, so as to help children improve their self-control.

Second, parents and family members should have a unified attitude towards their children, and when children lose their temper for no reason, they cannot compromise because of their children's crying.

3. Parents should pay attention to the emotional communication with their children, and should not be sometimes strict and sometimes pampered due to the emotional changes of adults. Make the child lose his temper because he is at a loss.

Try to bring someone else's child and compare it with your own. You know how well-behaved your child is!

Patience really has to be cultivated! Just force yourself to compromise.

The child is too skinny.

Patience.. It takes a lot of patience to treat children.

Negotiated.

I think the main reason is that parents expect too much from their children.

If you usually have no patience to guide the child's living habits and usual style of doing things, you always expect the child to be as sensible and obedient as an adult, and he can solve the problem by himself without the help of an adult, the key is that he is just a child, many things do not understand, and do not know how to do a good job, as a parent needs a lot of patience and care to help the child, if you are not patient, it can only mean that you have too high expectations for your child, and are not satisfied with him. All kinds of behaviors. When a child's approach does not reach the satisfaction of the parents, the parents will lose confidence and patience.

A child is just a child. The snail will always grow up, parents need to be more tolerant to solve the problems in the daily life of their children, do not put excessive pressure and expectations on the child, when the child's ability does not meet the satisfaction of the parents, the parents will be anxious, and even have no good temper towards the child.

Parents are impatient with their children, and because parents are very anxious now, whether it is financially or for their children's academic requirements, parents have to take care of their own careers at the same time, and they also have to work hard for their children's studies, which will inevitably make them anxious.

I think it's okay for parents to take their work seriously, but we shouldn't put the emotions at work and the pressure in life on our children at the same time, so that children can bear their emotional fluctuations and physical and mental exhaustion.

Parents should appropriately regulate their physical and mental health and emotions. Communicate with children on an equal footing. Anxiety Modern people can't get rid of the status quo, I think the main reason for anxiety is comparison.

Your child should find out his strengths at his own pace and cultivate them slowly. You don't have to compare with the east and the west. Compared with each other, the last ones who are tired are their own children.