Young children do not share the reasons and measures for their behavior

If he is reluctant to share this behavior in kindergarten, the main reason is that he likes his own things very much, and he is unwilling to share them with other parents, so he should teach his children to learn to share and be united and friendly with children.

The reason why children don't share behavior is relatively simple, purely because there is only mine in the concept of children, and there is no concept of yours. Share small toys with your toddler often. Slowly develop a good habit of sharing with young children.

It's normal for children to not like to share.

When the child reaches the age of two or so, he gradually begins to have a sense of property rights, knowing that this is "mine", and he is not so happy that others will touch his own things. Most parents also understand this truth, and when they meet their children who are unwilling to share, persuasion is fruitless, so they let him go. Sometimes parents feel embarrassed and will say, "I don't know how to share with my children, I really can't help it", and everyone else understands.

One day, I met a parent. That day, I took Xiaobao back from a walk as usual. I saw a little boy in the distance, holding three or four toys in his arms, crying profusely.

When Xiaobao saw the toy, he couldn't control himself and ran forward. As soon as he ran to him, the little boy picked up one of the planes and smashed it down on Xiaobao's face, and I didn't even react to the speed.

I was in a cold sweat and wondered what if I poked my eyes. Xiaobao ignored everything that happened, only stared at the toy in the boy's arms, he didn't grab it, just watched intently.

This is for my brother to play with," the child's grandmother said, snatching the plane from the boy's arms and stuffing it into Xiaobao's hand. Xiaobao looked back at me.

You ask my brother if it's okay? I said. In the middle of speaking, the boy reached out to grab his belongings. Grandma quickly slapped his hand back and shouted, "Let my brother play!" ”

I don't want it, I don't want it to play with him, I don't want ......He began to cry as if someone had robbed him of his treasure.

Xiaobao was startled and hurriedly returned the plane to his brother.

Take it and play with it, my brother still has a lot of it", the grandmother stopped it, and scolded her own child at the same time, "Why are you so selfish child, you have so many toys, so you can play with your brother." I gave the boy back the toy and told him, "My brother doesn't play, my brother doesn't take it."

He was relieved to hear my assurance, and his crying grew quieter.

At this time, grandma took out a big rabbit telling a story from the handbag next to her, and stuffed it to Xiaobao: "Come, brother play this." ”

The boy was crying hoarsely and trying to get his rabbit back. Grandma grabbed him, slapped him on the arm and reprimanded him harshly. I'm so embarrassed that I let him get beaten several times for nothing. Hurry up and let Xiaobao say goodbye and take him home.

This kid is so selfish that he won't share at all. You see, I brought a big bag of toys with me, just so that he could play with the children," Grandma opened the handbag, which contained seven or eight toys of various categories, "but he didn't let anyone else play with it, which was really annoying." ”

It doesn't matter, children are like this, he just has the consciousness that this thing belongs to me now, and he doesn't understand the meaning of sharing. ”

Is it? Grandma looked at me suspiciously, "I'm just worried that he will be like this in the future, what should I do if he goes to society without friends and is withdrawn?" Grandma's face was clouded. "No, it's good to grow up. I said firmly.

Don't force your child to share, it won't do him any good.

Maybe it's because the child is too introverted, right? It may be that if he is introverted, he just doesn't like to communicate with others, because if he just communicates with others, they are very introverted, but they don't dare, because they will never dare to take that step, they are afraid of these things anyway, anyway, if they are children, they may have to be cultivated from an early age, and the others are not to let him be too introverted, and if he is introverted there, he may be doing something? Maybe you just don't want to share it with others, or maybe you just hold it in your heart.

In the face of toys, every child will love it, because in this way the heart will be solid and secure. This has nothing to do with selfishness. Whoever wants to take the toy from his hand is a sense of loss for a two-year-old child, and he will feel the loss of his beloved toy.

Therefore, children usually do not give others to play with their own toys, even if they are good friends.

On the other hand, children have the need to show their toys, and they are very willing to show them in front of their friends because it will make them feel happy and satisfied. After a period of time, the child has passed the freshness period with the toy and will naturally distance himself from the toy and allow the toy to leave him for a while.

Children have children's sharing styles and behaviors, and they will understand it themselves, even if it is a small action, they have a heart.

**Problems and educational strategies for children to share their behaviors.

Sharing is the basis for harmonious communication between individuals and others, and sharing is not only to let others share their own happiness and success, but also to share the happy emotions of others. Sharing is an important social behavior, but it is also regarded as a virtue by us, and it is of great significance in the development of young children. In the process of interacting with playmates, sharing can not only help children gain the trust of their playmates, but also promote children's language expression and communication skills.

Children who do not know how to share with others are generally more selfish and have a strong sense of exclusivity, and it is difficult to form good interpersonal relationships with others, while children with more prominent sharing behaviors can better solve the problems encountered in communication and lay a good foundation for future social interactions.

With the continuous improvement of people's living standards, every family can be said to have everything, children lack nothing, but they are becoming more and more stingy, many children in the interaction with peers, are willing to accept other people's things, but unwilling to share their own things with others. I think there are several reasons for this:

First, children's concept of sharing has not been formed, and they cannot have a comprehensive understanding of sharing, they think that sharing is to lose what they love, and they also lack sharing skills, and do not know how to do what is the real sharing.

Second, most children are now the "little princess" and "little emperor" of the family, excessive doting and indulgence, prompting children to form a "self-centered" consciousness, develop a bad habit of doing their own thing, always consider their own feelings first, accustomed to their own exclusivity, ignoring the existence and needs of others, with a strong tendency to monopoly.

Third, in daily life, I believe that many parents have had such an experience, sometimes in order to coax their children to eat, they will always joke with their children: "Hurry up and eat, if you don't eat again, I will give it to my brother!" Sometimes it is these unintentional words that subtly make the child feel that everything in the house is his, and only what he doesn't want can be given to others, resulting in selfishness and monopoly.

As preschool teachers, in order to cultivate children's better character quality, reduce their "self-centered" mentality, know how to "share with others", and promote children's social development, we can let children learn to share with others from the following aspects.